This is going to be a tough day

[Guest]

This is going to be a tough day

Thanks Guys, had a that good long cry; You all are so kind to me. Pity partys I usually don't have so please excuse me. Now that my face is so swollen that it can officially qualify as a float in The Macy's Thanksgiving Day Pararde. Watch out Charle Brown! I have to try to make myself presentable for the refridgerator repair man and try not to look like a desperate housewife crying for attention. I don't know why I fell apart but if I think about it to much we'll start all over again. I don't know why I said I felt unwanted here,Your the best friends I could have. I think the biggest thing was I just kept picturing Caden wondering why I didn't come to take him to the cirus. Oh Now!! I said no more crying.

Pay no attention to the crazy lady behind the curtain
Mary

[Noella]

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Mar,

What a terrible situation! My heart goes out to you, and your family! I am absolutely sending as many good vibes your way as possible. Please definitely feel wanted on this post, and feel free to vent as much as you like. I know I am not alone in saying "we're here for you!"

Noella

[pansy]

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Hi Mar,

I am so glad you laid it all out in one place for us to see. You are such a great person to try to take this all on, but one person cannot fix everything for everybody in one day. I am so sorry that you feel like you have to take everything on at once. Maybe take it bit by bit?

One thing I can say for sure - you are well loved on the boards! Your presence here has added so much and I know that you have helped me lots. I am hoping that things seem better later today.

Thinking of you,
Pansy

[rudemama]

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Mary, Sometimes the weight we carry as mothers is soooo heavy. You are a strong woman, wonderful mother and fabulous grandmother. My mom died four years ago. I wish I had a mom like you looking out for me. Your daughter's husband is a dick sorry but it is true. Hearts and hugs to your Rudemama:h

[SKendall]

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Mary, what a tough spot you're in. You're daughter doesn't hate you, but maybe needs some space. Once we take on the role of trying to fix people it does indeed become a burden. She knows that you will always be their for your grandchildren.

Custody battles are tough and forever scarring, although I understand you wanting to do this. We can't choose our daughter's husbands - darn it!

We love you here. Just focus on today, things will come back to you.:h

[MKR]

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Dear Mar,

So sorry this has happened, my heart goes out to you. Can not imagine the upset and the heartbreak all in one.

One of the most giving people on this board. I always look forward to your posts when I get a bit of time to venture beyond the mods boards. I find them filled with wisdom, enlightening and often times hysterically funny.

Cry away, Nancy is right, it is cathartic to have a big cry.

Tough to get those babies away, better to focus on getting your daughter some help, he is ruining her life, but she is allowing it.

Huge Hugs,
Mary

[Happier]

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I was crying with you in your posts Simey.
Why do some people behave the way they do? Ughhhhhhhh

I am sending many prayers to the Mountains of VA. You should be receiving them shortly.

And that stuff about not feeling wanted on the boards? We all feel like that when the world comes crashing down on us. It's just human nature. Don't feel bad feeling that way.
We're here for you!

[Guest]

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Without making this a soap, I worry about the affect it has on Caden. He has told me Mama Mar "I don't like Malcolm" He yells at me and makes fun of me. The baby is 5! This guy is evil! he is a an atheist. My daughter was always sent to Christian school and was she proclaims to be Christian. Last year at this time They lived in Norh Carolina. I sent the children elaborate Easter baskets( I spent $350.00) I knew he wouldn't allow Noelle to do it. She always had them as a child, and I wanted to carry on tradition. All I asked for was a picture of the Children with the baskets . I never got one. But her Father and his family were there to see them. I found out later that I was talked about because of my expenditure. Why did anyone have to know it was me anyway? You all may wonder where I get a lot of my information my daughter talks to my Mom who tells me. My Mom isn't trying to hurt me. I ask. She calls my Mom daily 5-10 times'no kidding! . She now only has 1 phone in the house which he monitors who she calls. As for the inlaws yes, were buying a house I'm trying to relocate them to an area that if I have to sell the house in the future I can make money. Everywhere Resistance!!! I didn't do the baskets this year. I did not do the baskets this year. Just like Christmas I invited everyone for dinner and gifts;she and the kids came just long enough to open gifts then leave. I didn't get even a card. His mother, lets just say got more.
Enogh I need to write a book. I just need someone to type it for me
Love
Mary

[Saint Jude]

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Mar I can't add much more than what others have already said here...
But you are so much a part of this place, and give so much to everyone.
Know that you're in my thoughts & prayers, as is your daughter. That sounds like such a terrible situation she's in.
I'm sorry it's affecting you & your whole family as it is. Her Hubby sounds evil!

Wish I could come give ya a huge hug...:l :h
Judie

[Guest]

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Thanks all, lets call it a day! I appreciate your words of encouragement so much, Tomorrow we start anew!
Smiles
Mary

[Pisces]

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I dont post much, but had to say, I identify when it comes to the family sit, but meditation and focusing on the love that you feel, and directing it to where it will make the most difference will help, you cant change the world, but you can make a small difference to the ones you love.
I send my love and wish the best to your family xxxooo (ps, no wonder we drink!)

[Pisces]

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I don't own a house, gave that up to live and pay off my parents second house, as a promise. I didn't get an egg off my 21 year old son, boo, but I still love them all to death, and I drink, am I an idiot? but hey, I'm hot and 41, it cant be all bad...

[Wine_Lover]

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Simey,

I can relate. I have several family members with issues. A brother who is a recovering meth addict, a 17 year old sister who was at the top of her class with a 4.0 and a full ride scholarship anywhere who began dating a highschool dropout and now accompanies him on his drug deals (my mom just picked her up last night from the juvenile center-she had her arrested for running away), an alcoholic father, the list goes on and on. It makes me sick to watch my family and what they go through. From a financial perspective, my husband and I decided to refinance our rental property. Last week we find out that there are $60,000 worth of liens against our property because my husband received a quit-claim deed from his father before he passed away. Now everyone he owed money to placed liens on his property, and because my husbands name is on that property, the liens have transferred to ours. We can't sell them-and we can't refinance them. We can't even file bankruptcy because they will seize our rental property and sell it to put towards the liens. I have 2 attorney's working on this which is going to cost me plenty.

Keep reading the posts here, and keep praying. There is a lot of support here.

~Winelover~

[Guest]

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wine, I can so identify with you, no one can do you in like family. My inlaws are driving me to distraction. With their forclosure and" their oh you've done well so get us another house" attitude towards my husband. I cannot imangine having my financial hands tied and not even know about it. That's awful. I hope you can get out of this with miminal fianancial damage to you and your Husband. I hope to talk to my sister about taking my nephew and trying to keep him for a while a get him in some sort of trade school or something. I hope things get better withyour brother and sister.
Big Encouraging Hug
Mary

[tea]

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Oh Simey, Simey, Simey... I want to jump through this screen to get to you. Do you honestly not know how you are thought of here? You are funny, honest and entertaining just for starters. You said that no-one here really knows you - do you really feel that? I feel like I know you and the more you post the more I know you better. I am heart sore for your situation with your daughter and grandchild, have no constructive advice either, think with all that is going on with you just now maybe just stepping back or out of the box for a wee whiley might help, as I said, no constructive advice, just want to be here for you. Your post has made you even more human and I want to say to your that 'we are not strangers here, we are all friends who just haven't met yet'.

Hope tomorrow dawns brighter for you.

Lorna xxx