WHAT DID YOU WANT TO BE..

[Guest]

WHAT DID YOU WANT TO BE..

Abby, I was a fligh attendant ,You can call me a stewardess. I was going to marry Davy Jones too fliped him for Donny Osmond. Marry Rich men as a hobby,Dynasty years. Now a interior designer/ event planner that everyone wants free advice from. Nothing like being invited over then asked "what would you do in this room? " creative juice's flow I tell them go back a month later. They have done it "themselves" Almost laughable
Mary

[Mackeral]

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Aww Hawk..You will make a great Mum..Becoming a parent is the most natural thing in the world...When the time comes you will be fine :l

[wellseasoned]

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I wanted to be a nurse and a writer.
Still holding out on the writer idea - someday!

[dilayne]

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I always wanted to be a painter...and I've done that, but now I'm having to learn to want it for different reasons..to let go of the myths, the stories and the false ideas I had about it so that I can actually paint.

I also always wanted to be a serious hiker/adventurer/traveler...I can see myself doing wilderness excursions...having children very young has made it a challenge to reach for that sort of thing, but I've not given up yet! :0)

[chrysa]

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I wanted to be a biologist, which I was. Then I wanted to be a doctor, but couldn't pull off getting the $$ & together for med school. Then I wanted to be a pastoral counselor & went to seminary. Then I wanted to be a priest & realized that was not gonna happen so I dropped out of seminary. I wanted to be an astrologer and I am one. I wanted to be a healer & psychic. I am kinda, a little, I am told. I wanted to get a masters & I have started 2 programs, but no degree yet. I wanted to be married & have 2 kids & a nice home & I did. Now I want to write a book, and really do not know why I am not doing it.

This thread has disturbed me a little bit because both my husband & I feel we misssed our callings, so to speak. I really don't want my children to feel frustrated or unfulfilled in life. We tried to get them to set realistic goals and focus on them. What causes us not to become what we wanted to be??? And what about the alcohol disorder, which comes first the chicken or the egg; the frustration, self-disappointment or the pain medicine?

Thoughts anyone?

[Determinator]

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Louise, this isn't an occupation but you've dislodged something creepy from my memory..when I was a young lad I wanted to be a robot.

I'm not kidding.

And all I wanted to play with were toy robots. They felt no pain and weren't scared of anything. boy my shrink is going to have fun with this!

Rags..nice camera! I got the basic Canon digital rebel and it's mui ricco!!

[dilayne]

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Chrysa, I've struggled with my art for a long time. My therapist has a theory as to why it's so painful..it's because to fully be the artist I am, means to be in touch with my truest self..well, there is a huge mote between who I have become and my true nature and to venture back is painful, it means dissolving all of those layers between who I am now and my true self..including all of the grief and sadness that comes along with realizing that there is even a 'mote'..so that is where I am, on my journey back to my self so that I can do what I know, without a shadow of a doubt what I am called to do. I don't know if that makes any sense..but it the way I've come to understand it in regards to my art is that at some point in time, my ego took over the 'idea' of being an artist before I was able to inhabit that authentic space for myself, so my ego has gotten in the way, along with all of the feelings I've just mentioned. I actually 'let go' of the 'idea' that I am an artist at all..for a while, so that I can hopefully return to it without all the crap. As for the alcohol..don't know about the chicken or the egg...for me, I believe my alcohol abuse is related to not wanting to feel what I know I need to feel..I've learned to use it to cope (as did my parents), that abuse lead to the 'disorder'..the 'disorder' didn't necessarily lead to the abuse in my case..at least that is what I tell myself.

[maryt]

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i never ever really knew what i wanted to do and even now at the age of 38 i still don,t know what i want to do so just keep working in one dead end job to another one ,when i was little all i ever saw myself doing was meeting mr right getting married and having a load of kids but alas no mr right,no marriage but do have one kid whom i adore but drives me absolutely crazy sometimes (well he is a teenager)

love maryt

[MKR]

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Louise, another great, thought provoking layered thread! Thanks dear!

I was always going to be nurse along with my best girlfriend. She became a nurse, I became a dental assistant.

Always wanted to be a mom, and have thought that was a higher calling for me.

One of my parents friends modeled in car shows. She told them I should be a model. I did some part time but found it awfully plastic in a time where I wanted to be taken seriously for my brain not my body.

I continued to illustrate over the years and eventually went back to school and received a degree in commercial art. I love what I do, it is creative and fun. . . . YET, I still want to help the elderly and wonder if it stems from that desire to be a nurse from a really young age.

love,
Mary

[Guest]

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Chrysa, My parents were the old school we are only going to pay for your education if you become something practical IE: Nurse or secretary. Well I faint at blood and you all have seen my typing and spelling skills. Enough said
Mar

[MKR]

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Mar, mine too, except that the girls didn't need to have a degree. Made me crazy!!! I paid my way through Northwestern in the evenings to be a certified dental assistant. Brought me $.75 more an hour back then! Later, paid for my design degree too. And NO WAY I was going to be a secretary so therefore refused to take typing - who knew a keyboard would be at the end of their fingertips daily years later??!!!

[Rocky]

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Not sure yet

[irishlady]

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I remember about six weeks before I left school I went running home full of excitement to tell my mother that my teachers had recommended for me to go to college and study, English, History, Art and Biology... I would have to pay to take the entrance exam, my mother told me it would be a waste of money because in a few years time I would probably meet someone and get married, so she refused to pay and I ended up working in a factory on a production line, I was 15 years old at the time..

I would like to thank all of you for being so honest, some of your replies made me feel like crying, I could actually feel your pain and disappointment.. Others amongst you seem to have fulfilled your wishes, and for that I am glad..

I wonder though how our lives would have turned out if we had all been allowed to fulfill our young dreams ???

Love to you all,

Louise xx

[Guest]

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Louise I would have my Academy Award, I'm sure.
Thanks for starting this thread
Your a lovely lady
Mary

[Bookish]

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Great Thread!

I wanted to be an architect, but nobody in my family knew anything about going to college. I carry the distinct honor of being the only person with my maiden name to ever graduate high school. Yeah! Anyway, I didn’t know how to go about being an architect and a good career in computers came my way. It seems I’m a natural geek. I had to semi-retire from that job after 15 years when my right shoulder and arm started to hurt all the time.

I think I want to be a librarian, but presently undecided.