I just wanted to get some feedback from you guys on this--
I have talked before about my sister who lives with a drunk. I am finding myself trying to figure out a way to "rescue" her, which I know is silly and impossible.
She has a great job and is old enough and has enough money to retire. She still lives in WV where I'm from. Their house used to be nice but is falling down around them now due to alcoholism and hoarding. He is drunk every day and the hoarding is worse all the time.
She often says "What did I do to deserve this?" I try to make her see that she does NOT deserve a crappy life, to no avail. She and I were both treated badly by our mother
and I sort of "know" why she has the self-loathing and feeling that she is not worthy of a good life.
I have told her she could move here and stay with me. Well actually I have told her lots of things but it never does any good. Often when people are in a horrible relationship they finally get SICK AND TIRED of it and manage to go. But she never does. He is rude, mean, ugly, hateful and very inconsiderate. Controlling and abusive. It's so sad.
I feel helpless about it. I just wish I could help her. Frankly I don't know why the man is not dead from alcoholism by now. He has quadruple bypass 4 or 5 years ago and picked right up where he left off with the drinking and smoking. As they say-"only the good die young". This prick will outlive her probably and that is sad.
She has an older dog and made it clear that when he dies she did not want any more, since she is the one who feeds them, pays vet bills and everything else associated with a pet. So of course he goes right out and buys a PUPPY. She was devastated. It was his way of showing that he runs the show, and what she wants has no bearing on anything.
She (for some reason) could not believe that he brought home this dog after she said so often she did not want another one.
Just an example of the actions of the son of a bitch he is, and I get so angry thinking about his smirking face and her crying I could scream.
Thanks for listening. I wish I could help but I guess I cannot.
I have talked before about my sister who lives with a drunk. I am finding myself trying to figure out a way to "rescue" her, which I know is silly and impossible.
She has a great job and is old enough and has enough money to retire. She still lives in WV where I'm from. Their house used to be nice but is falling down around them now due to alcoholism and hoarding. He is drunk every day and the hoarding is worse all the time.
She often says "What did I do to deserve this?" I try to make her see that she does NOT deserve a crappy life, to no avail. She and I were both treated badly by our mother
and I sort of "know" why she has the self-loathing and feeling that she is not worthy of a good life.
I have told her she could move here and stay with me. Well actually I have told her lots of things but it never does any good. Often when people are in a horrible relationship they finally get SICK AND TIRED of it and manage to go. But she never does. He is rude, mean, ugly, hateful and very inconsiderate. Controlling and abusive. It's so sad.
I feel helpless about it. I just wish I could help her. Frankly I don't know why the man is not dead from alcoholism by now. He has quadruple bypass 4 or 5 years ago and picked right up where he left off with the drinking and smoking. As they say-"only the good die young". This prick will outlive her probably and that is sad.
She has an older dog and made it clear that when he dies she did not want any more, since she is the one who feeds them, pays vet bills and everything else associated with a pet. So of course he goes right out and buys a PUPPY. She was devastated. It was his way of showing that he runs the show, and what she wants has no bearing on anything.
She (for some reason) could not believe that he brought home this dog after she said so often she did not want another one.
Just an example of the actions of the son of a bitch he is, and I get so angry thinking about his smirking face and her crying I could scream.
Thanks for listening. I wish I could help but I guess I cannot.
You may be her wake up call. :rays:
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