When did you come clean?

[scottishman]

When did you come clean?

I'm a total fake and live in denial, i don't mind admitting i'm an alky here, but hell if i'm gonna give some people i know the satisfaction of being able to tag me and laugh


call me silly, its just how i roll


still sober, maybe the pride is driving me on ha ha :H

[Sake123]

When did you come clean?

Must be my Scottish roots because I feel the same!!!

[available]

When did you come clean?

Wow a freebie Columbia, bargain. I dont think i could be away from the real world or my children for 28 days but in saying that if you come out the other side healthier and without the AL hanging over your head what a godsend that would be. My children would have no hesitation in supporting me to get better.

I posted before that i have my daughters hens night to go to next month and my other daughter said "its ok mum you can get pissed" and as i said to her alcoholics cant do that. It would be great to "just get pissed" for that one night but no, not me, and i want to remember the night. We then talked about pot/weed addiction (which she has had) and smokes and speed and all those other drugs and how being addicted to them is acceptable but say you are an alcoholic and WHOA REALLY. Is like as you said Scottish "you wont give them the satisfaction". Why are we labelled different to any other person that is addicted, i find that strange also to get my head around.

That is why i love MWO we all have different stories but the same addiction.

[Lizann]

When did you come clean?

Sake I too struggled with this. My kids 26, 24 and 19 are aware of my problem. I was hospitalized last march with pancreatitis and that scare the crap out of them. I have never said to them that I am an alcholic nor to my husband. My husband knows my struggles but we've never called it what it is. I think my kids are ok with things the way they are, mommy drank too much and ended up in the hospital she doesn't drink anymore. They do not know about the cravings or the struggles, I save that for you guys. Seven is very young for such a revelation. Tuck it away for now and use it later when she is older and she needs a teaching moment. Trust me the day will come. Just be there for her now, as normal and sober as you can be.

[available]

When did you come clean?

Good on you Liz for giving up AL, I have told my kids I am an alcoholic but they dont really understand the cravings etc. Very true that this site is great to vent out struggles as we are all in the same boat. Thank god I have not been hospitalised but it was really only a matter of time with the amount of AL going down my throat and I work in a hospital in the neurology department so i see so much of what AL does to you and my thought was "wont happen to me".

[Sake123]

When did you come clean?

Available - I totally get where you're coming from. I hate that all these other addictions are for whatever reason more tolerated and accepted. You know what I just thought of, maybe it's because just about everyone drinks and so all those normal drinkers are somehow threatened by the idea that maybe "they" have a problem..maybe deep down? Probably just wishful thinking on my part. LOL!

Liz - I appreciate your perspective. I agree that my daughter doesn't need to know the specifics at this age. However, I can use it as a good introduction when we get into the drug and alcohol talk. I'll be careful in my approach. I remember my dad (alcoholic - about 5 years sober at the time) told me "You will never ever drink alcohol!!" I was 13 and I remember thinking.."I have to go get some alcohol right now!!" I was never good at being told what I could or couldn't do. I showed him!

[available]

When did you come clean?

Very true Sake it is a slap in their face that maybe they have a problem with AL too whereas another drug they feel sorry for that person as they DONT do that. Funny how the mind makes things logical to oneself.

My mother told me to never have sex ha ha!

[Lizann]

When did you come clean?

Sake, yes that's exactly what I was getting at, with the drug and alcohol talk. I'm sorry if it didnt come across that way.

[Sake123]

When did you come clean?

available - that is too funny!!!

My mother told me to never have sex ha ha!

Liz - I got it...no worries.

Hope you have a great night (or morning).

[lifechange]

When did you come clean?

Hi Sake! I've also been careful about who I've told. When I first really tried to quit--shortly after joining MWO-- I was on a sort of high and I came clear with my bf (who of course already knew) and my mom, who is a recovering alcoholic and who had already suspected. I also told my 3 best girlfriends-- one of whom had told me a few weeks earlier that she didn't want to spend time with me anymore if I was going to drink. My kids who are 8 and 11-- I have told them that I'm not drinking anymore several times. I haven't gone into talking about being an alcoholic-- though they know my mom suffered, as did I from her drinking. They know alcohol isn't good for me and that I'm much better when I don't drink-- but I don't think I've yet proven to myself that I will never drink again (though I won't!) and I guess I was always afraid of the message I'd give them if I revealed all the dirty details and then drank again. Does that make sense?-- they do notice a difference when I don't drink-- but they don't equate me yet with the drunks hanging out at the park. Maybe I'm a hypocrite-- I think, when they're older, I'll be able to tell them everything. But I guess now I want to save them some possible unnecessary concerns. Especially the almost 12 year old. I'm glad now that I didn't tell people at work--at one point I wanted to "come clean"-- but now I don't think I need to tell everyone. Anyway, I'm also new-- 21 days today-- we'll see how it develops.
Wishing you all the best