30 days???

[brittzak]

30 days???

Bootsie you crack me up..."oh did I say dump your husband"...LOL To be honest Cowgal when you told the pool story, it freaking pissed me off. I have a way bad temper. I am like TIT, me and him would have been rolling. You should have gotten up, politely turned to him, smiled big and whaked him right in the nuts!!!! There is no excuse for anyone to purposely hurt someone. Get your AF time girl and you will not feel so vulnerbale....you will get stronger each day.
Nibs, gosh girl I so wish you lived close to me. I never wait on anyone to do stuff for me either...when I want it done I will get out there and swing a hammer, dig my own holes, paint, pressure wash the house, etc...I have always been that way. You and I could really get in to stuff. HA HA Of course, you gotta come ehre cause they won't let me in Canada...LOL
Where is More2 and has anyone heard from Morrison?????? Bird hope the band works out...
LUVUALL

[cowgal]

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Hi all!

I know (many people have told me many times)that eventually I need to leave him....................he verbally is not nice either, says I am "not fun" unless I drink...............says I am no fun to be around and he is tired of it, wants a divorce again...............usually when he is drunk..................he is disgusting!!! Fat, gross looking, a MAJOR pervert, I mean all he talks or thinks about or wants is sex......................I think over-typical, he goes onto porn sites all the time, is NOT SPIRITUAL at all, which is definitely not good for me or my life.:upset:

I am sooooooooooooo looking forward to seeing Rhonda, can't wait.................just called Barry for you TIT.

Luv, will DEFINITELY call you this weekend.......................

Barbie, thanks for the words of comfort......................Ijust hope this works, cuz I just can't stop on my own (or don't want to cuz it is too dificult to go home without a buzz of some sort..................)sick, huh??

Oh well, Nibs, More2, Det, anyone else I missed, sorry to ramble on about Mike, he is bipolar I think!!????

Love you guys!!!:l:l:h

MA

[Cinders]

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Hello Everyone.

Mary Anne, I am so thrilled you are going to Lenair!!

I absolutely am hanging on by the skin of my teeth these days. Really struggling again, myself.

I was just on her site reading the testimonials.

If she heals me, I will do one, too, if they want.

Nibs, TNT, Bootsie, Best, More2, Bird, Luv - Love you all.

Cindi

[bestlifeldms]

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Morning all! Not much to report! Boring is good! Having an ENG (camera down the throat) day after tomorrow. Hope they figure this out soon. Anesthesia twice in 8 days is not doing the few brain cells that I have left any good! LOL! Second 4 day week for me this week. Lots of work piling up, but... I'll get er done. Hang in there, Mary Ann! Things got much worse for me, right before I went to VT. It will be interesting to see what your relationship with hub is like after you are AF. Bunches of hugs to everyone!

Love, Best xxxxx

[toughintexas]

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Cindi, HANG ON! You can do this, you will make it there!!! Cowgal, I'd go to Lenair, come home, and calmy see a different atty., and then, get that asshole out of your house! He is exposing your children to awful things, and you could risk them being taken from both of you, if anyone else found out, or, that's the way it is in Texas, cuz you are allowing him to do all this, under your roof, and in public. Tell the atty., about all the abuse, the porn, the drinking, etc....if he owns his own business, you'll get a chunk, sell the house, split whatever proceeds, get an emergency hearing for temporary support for yourself and children's support, get your hands on all tax returns, any business statements, etc., and copies of all the bank statements you can get, and get rid of his fat, sick, drunk ass! No wonder you are drinking! You will do fine, and better, without him! You will be happier without him. Make up your mind, that this trip to Lenair, changes EVERYTHING....bullshit on waiting a yr. after sobriety in this abuse, that doesn't count! I love you too much for you to suffer such crap! See you soon in Houston, and I'm really good at Pep Talks....lol.....

[lucky 2.0]

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TIT,

That post to cowgal was so good! One of the best posts ever!

Cowgal,

I cannot wait to hear about your experience with Lenair. I think after you reclaim yourself, you won't put up with any BS from anyone, esp. in your home! When is the Houston trip?

[bearlady]

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just sending love and support to all

Know you are loved,
Bear's Lady

[bootcampbarbie]

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yeah i was being kind. as soon as you get back from lenair doing everything tit told you and then wammooo. kick his ass to the curb. enuf is enuf. well i am so done with being stupid too. done done done. must jump in car and go do my barbie duties downtown and save a few folks in teh world hahahaahahah laughing hard. as it truly is a barbie to the rescue day. best please have this be the answer. and tit are you really going to see rhonda too? oh god way cool. love you all madly. honestly paying that money does make you not want to pick up a drink even when you have that little thought. no way jose. love you bear lady

[brittzak]

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I am at a convention in Charleston...everyone is partying tonight as we do every year...I on the other hand brought my lovely daughter...went shppoing, to eat seafood, and we just got back to our room and gonna watch a movie as soon as she returns with our goody from Starbucks..NOW THAT IS GOOD LIVIN!!! And guess what, bet I jump up at 6 tomorrow and am ready for my day while everyone else is MISERABLE.
Cindi and Cowgal...HANG ON...you can do this. You will be free soon. Worry about you right now Cowgal...worry about home when you return from Houston. Look forward to chatting this weekend.
Bear Lady, so good to hear from you....how are you? If you can, can you update us on the trial? You are loved here too.
Love to everyone else...everyone sounds perky! Miss you More2!!!!

[bearlady]

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Nothing new to tell. Just have to be patient and wait on the slow wheels of justice. Truly an exercise in it not being in my control. It can be as long as a year before trial is even started. We all went to see my parents this weekend. They hadn't seen Bear Jr since he was about 12 and Baby Bear since she was about 16. It all went well. We were all tired and ready to be back home. Thank you for all the love and support you all send. It seems lonelier now than at first. Just hard to accept he is not right beside me and never will be again.

Know you are loved,
Bear's Lady

[A Work in Progress]

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Hey, I just ran across this thread about doing 30 days AF and then realized it started YEARS ago! And has just gone on, and on! Pretty cool. Are new people just continually jumping in? May I jump in? I'm shooting for 30 days AF (to start with) and this is Day 2. Very happy to have found this program. I've seen several of you on other threads... I guess that it doesn't take too long to get to know people, yes?

One of the big stressors in my life (providing a major excuse for drinking my poor head off) has been my elderly mother, very difficult, narcissistic, abusive, paranoid, etc., and in the hospital, then nursing home (where she has taken swings at people, and done a lot of cussing and carrying on)... She's had a lousy physician in-house at the nursing home... I finally hired a professional geriatric care manager (one of my best decisions, ever!) who got her to a neurologist today... and that was extremely helpful. He did an excellent, thorough exam, and diagnosed (90% likely) early Alzheimer's, along with a fluctuating delirium that is caused by metabolic disturbances... exactly what I have been saying, all along, to the nursing home people... Anyway it was something of a relief to get someone who really understands the situation and can work with our care manager to get my mother out of the nursing home, on the correct medications, and back into her own house, with in-home caregivers... And that will not be without difficulties... but better than this nursing home stuff.

This has been SUCH an ordeal in so many ways... I don't want her to have Alzheimer's, but I do want her to get the best care that she can get, regardless of what the actual problem is... So there is an odd sense of relief in hearing this, today.

Having this kind of better experience today about my mother-situation, while also feeling much more hope about my drinking, is pretty great.

[cowgal]

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jump in

Jez, jump in...............:welcome:.....sounds like you have your plate full. Hang in there, I have been saying and doing that alot lately! You are very welcome to join us, some of us make the 30 days (I have a few times, struggling right now though)and some of us just do it one day at a time, hoping to get there..........................:fingers:

We look forward to meeting you and getting to know you here:hallo::armsaround:

love ya!!!!:l

MA

[brittzak]

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Jez....of course you are more than welcome...

So you are not confused...they will all call me LUVUALL...my name used to be Luvuall and I changed it. I had a real rough spell for awhile and was not on the boards, when I returned, I came with a new name. I started this thread a LONG time ago with a group of us going 30 days AF. That is the title, but really not the focus anymore. A group of us just got really close and keep coming here and posting. Sometimes about AL, sometiems about kids, what ever u want to talk about. We are all at different levels in relation to AL. Whatever your goal we support you. We love new folks joining in. Sorry to hear about your Mom. it is so hard to see our parents health go. welcome again...

Mama Bear....it does get more lonely for awhile. When they first pass, you are shocked, then very busy for awhile. When life starts to settle down, the reality begins to settle in. Please continue to come here. We arent just about AL....we are a lot about love and support. AND we all love you.

[cowgal]

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ditto!

I repeat all that Luv just said, she is wonderful, along w/ everyone else here, you will love hanging around on this thread, no judgment, just lots of love...........................

MA:l:h:l:h

[A Work in Progress]

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Thanks, y'all.

Cowgal, sorry to hear you are having some struggles right now.

One of the things I really like about this program is that (unlike my experience in AA, years ago), people are in all stages of "recovery," and it seems as if people don't feel that they need to (or are expected to) just disappear if they have a drink, or a bunch of drinks. It gives me hope that I will/would be welcome whether or not I am succeeding in my goal of being AF, long-term.

I like what I have seen of the way people respond to each other, here.

Yeah my own recent struggles and disappointments had really gotten me down, with alcohol as my own preferred method of making things even worse...