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[greeneyes]

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Nibs that is intolerable. Do NOT pay from your pocket and HOPE it will stop. She may as well be digging in your purse. That will only reinforce her behavior. It will not stop nitl you put an end to it.

How is it that she can access your till? Can you prevent it?

Can you tell her you are concerned about your balances as you are very careful and you are making an effort to make sure all is accounted for. Therefore she needs to write an IOU when she "borrows" money.

I think this is a dangerous game and it needs to stop. Embezzlement is just that on any level and you are being bullied into participating. It is affecting your sleep and no doubt your self worth on some level. You need to get her to stop or go to the higher ups.

Of course, that's just my 2 cents. :h

[brittzak]

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I agree with Greenie...DO NOT play this game. You need to stand up to HER. Tell her from now on you want your register counted in front of you. Tell her she may not have a conscious but you do!!!! I am sorry Nibs...you have tolerated this woman far to long. The pay isn't worth the stress.

[Niblet]

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Well, she has told me that her and Brenda are to count and enter all cash in a book for deposit... I'm not to enter it and besides I strongly feel that on my break she would take the money then... I cannot be at my til at all times... she often send me up to the office to fax things for her, copy stuff etc.
I actually called a girl that worked with me last year. Actually, I'm now doing her job as being head cashier... she told me not to trust Marilyns boss that is even higher on the ladder. Apparently everything that she confided to Mary Wilhelm made its way right to Marilyn. Marilyn then made her life sheer hell and she did end up quitting... Thing is she makes all the books balance at the days end.
I do strongly believe that things come around and then go around again so she had better watch out cause it's due time to "come around" ! You are right Greenie, I will not pay for the imbalance but will do as she wishes hoping this will stop... I feel all of your love and support through this cruddy time and for that I'm very grateful... Summer time is coming, our contract is up in June so we may all not have our jobs there this coming fall... Honestly that wouldn't hurt my feelings even though I will miss all of "my kids" and the wonderful teachers.
Sooooo, anyhow today is a holiday "Family Day" and I'm not wasting another second fretting over a pile of crap person that is simply a waste of skin !
Thank the dear Lord I have one co-worker named Audry that I confide in and share this with. She is treated like crap!!! No surprise there eh?
Thank-You again you guys are true friends, Hugs,xxx

[brittzak]

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Nibs...hugs honey. She is a real ass! There really isnt much you can say or do about a person like this...like you said...what goes around comes around. You keep your nose clean...as I know you do....and fate will find her evil ass.

I am so EXCITED tonight. You all know I have several exotic birds now...I have really made it a hobby. They nring me a lot of joy and the time I spend with them...well no time for the drinkie anymore! They really are a lot of fun for me and the kids. WELL...I have a African Grey Parrot, and Blue and Gold Macaw, and Goffin Cockatoo,and my dream was to get an UMBRELLA....I will only buy from this one lady because she is an excellent breeder and all my birds are so loving because she really spends time with her babies when she is feeding them. WELL...he is born!!!!! My lil Umbrella is now 4 weeks old. I am so excited. I can not wait for him to come home. It will be 3 more months before he is ready, but he is here.

[greeneyes]

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Nibs, if you're not entering it in the book then are you accountable? I would rather you just not be aware of the embezzling. Is marilyn a potential job reference for you? What's the contract?

Luvie, I might can do lunch Wed. around 1:30 but I don't know yet.

MA, how the hell does Mike work? Is he not aware that he is an alcoholic?

[cowgal]

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wow

I am so sorry Nibs.....................keep doing the next right thing, you are good and I believe strongly in Karma................know that YOU have done nothing wrong, and like it or not, you have no control over that B*TCH and her cohort....:moon:.............stay w/ the cool girl you like, you both will be better off that way, and maybe next time they say you messed up and are short so much $$, just say sorry, what can they do, worse thing is fire you, then you may be better off.............................??Then you can go way up the ladder and maybe they will find something.

For now you need your job,right, so just do what you have control over (your own actions and reactions) and pray she gets hers??! I know that is not the best advice probably, but all I got................:cents

LUV, so happy for you getting another, and a baby at that.......................

Greeneyes, Mike has his own business and works w/ another guy who is a pot-head and drinker.................his clients don't see him all the time and when he knows he will see them he chews gum and is on his best behavior........................he CAN get away w/ it, unlike me or any other hard-working, time-clock punching soul!:huh:

Sad thing now, the horses need to go back to Havana, thank GOD though I have my friend Larry who can help..............the grass is gone, but we can put down good summer grass and get a sound pasture (or somewhat one anyway) I am going to miss having them here dearly!!! Went riding today, Dr. Cognetta was really slow and told me to go home and enjoy my kids..........I bribed David $5 gas money to ride w/ me.............what a gorgeous day it was!!!

Didn't drink either.................wanted to, but didn't YAY!!!!:yay:

Love you guys, off to dreamland.:h

MA

[brittzak]

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I can't this Wednesday Greenie! I have a meeting at that time. I wish I could......would LOVE to see you again though, so when you can again...let me know.

That is a good question Greenie...how does Mike make it to work? I know at my peak I was BARELY functioning. We have talked about our mountains of work that weren't getting done due to hangovers or sitting there thinking about the next drink...UH...makes me sick!!!!

MA....I do want to say how proud I am you are hanging in there.....keep going to your meetings and call if you need one of us. Your situation SUCKS......each day you will feel stronger and gain the strength you need to do what you need to do to be sober...whatever that is. Know we are here for you as you have been there for us.

[brittzak]

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Good to see you More!!!!! I do not have all my birds in my livingroom girl!!! HA HA They are all in seperate rooms actually. That is funny. I just imagine a room full of cages. Nope...they are all situated throughtout the house and outside.
I am sorry your son is getting his first taste of a broken heart, but hopefully this moves him closer to you..if you are ever there..HA HA
I know you do well on the antabuse, so go for it. I hope TIT is doing well we havent heard from her in ages.

[greeneyes]

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Hey more2! Ewww a hotel for 2 weeks. Do they have a gym or indoor pool or something? I think that would be hard for me.

I'm going to a drag queen show at a comedy club w/ a GF tonight. That should be a hoot!

Today is 8 months for me so I get peppermint Ice cream.

Too bad about Wed. Luvie, I wasn't sure anyway. Another time.

[Cinders]

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Geez,

I was going to read and respond to everyone and then decided I simply can't. I have been gone for too long in rehab and just want to say "hi" to all my 30 Days friends.

I love all of you. You have no idea.

Cindi

[brittzak]

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GREENIE WAY TO GO GIRL!!!!!!! 8 months...wow!!!!! I know ya feel good....

Cindi, welcome home. How was rehab? I have seen you back, but havent seen where you posted how rehab was????

[cowgal]

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love you all

I am just recovering from the WORST day of the month..............Dr isn't as bad as the manager............. is sucky as could be...............I ended up eating my frustrations out tonight really upset, but will go to work and do it all over again tomorrow, thank GOD I have a job.............:boohoo:
Saw a doc I used to work w/and asked him what he heard from my old job, they just say I abandonded my position..........go figure..............they were kinda pushin me outa there for a while...............high salary cheap docs etc.............:damn:

well, off to bed, sorry to be so SORRY!:argh::durn:
love,:h:h

MA

[Niblet]

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Greenie, CONGRATULATIONS to you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Have a triple scoup my friend because you SOOOO deserve it !!!! Wow, 8 MONTHS !!! You are a true inspiration to us all :goodjob:

Cindy it is so good to see you :l Please come here often we miss you.

And More2, it's always wonderful to hear from you... Am I ever happy to hear that your son found out about the girlfriend being unfaithful now and not a couple years down the road... He certainly sounds very mature for sure... Sometimes heartbreaks are a way of us growing and learning life lessons. I'm sorry to hear that you'll be away from hubby for a couple weeks. We will all be here for you :h

Luv, I've never heard of an umberella bird? What will it look like? I'm so happy to hear your smiles in your posts. I'd give my eye teeth to come and meet all your furry, feathered friends... and you too of course. haa !! Haa!!

Cowgal, it's too bad that you couldn't get a large coil type hay bale for your horses... at home here I feed mainly round bales outside and square bales in the barn and then outside if the round bale gets eaten before the farmer delivers another one.... I'm proud of you, truely I am. You ARE doing this, and for all the right reasons. Mike can sit and spin.

So, on the Tuesday I went into work, Marilyn was as nice as pie (that always has me wonder if she is winding up with that knife that will be placed expertly in my back)... It was a miracle guys !!!!! Mary from down south showed up out of the blue !!!!!! She is the big boss that has only been to our school a handful of times. She did a "spot audit", when over with Marilyn how she is to enter "pay-outs"... (for food bought etc)... Actually that morning when I first got there I taped a piece of paper directly beside my til with a pen there.... After every single transaction I simply would put a stick... You know, ...1111 and then a / through the sticks to count as 5... well I was doing this on my own to make double, triple sure that every single transaction was correct... Well !!! Mary asked me with Marilyn right beside her, " what is this piece of paper with counting on it for?"... Marilyn said, "I don't know, ... Heather?"... I simply said, "oh, I'm just keeping track of my trasactions"... Mary asked that no type of records such as that be by the til... I wanted to say..... "well, I'm tired of my til being out 30 some odd dollars and I'm showing my correct transactions for the day"... but I didn't... Marilyn was crapping her pants I think...
I do wonder to myself if Crysta (the girl that quit last year because of Marilyns BS) called Mary to tell her that something is going down with Marilyn... hmmm... makes me wonder why they did a spot audit... I really felt as though a real angel was with me. So, after Mary left that day she referred back to the 33.00 saying "do you remember what we talked about with that short til on Friday"... I said, "I didn't make it up"... she then said, "good because Mary was here all day"... (Brenda and Mariln were there) I then said, "Guys, there is NO way my til could have possibly been out 33.00, that sheet of paper with the counting was to show every transaction that is 100% accurate today" They both said, "We both counted it and it WAS out, you know that the other girl has to sometimes use your til so maybe it wasn't your error"..... There til is NEVER out, so why would they screw mine up soooo badly the few times they use it....
I then said really forcefully, not angry, "my til wasn't out and we need a camera on my til, I worked for years with a camera on my til and there was never a problem"... they both got a bit huffy about that saying things like you won't like that atall, it'll be a problem... blah, blah, blah,,,,, I then said, " I want to see where the mistakes are being made wether by myself or others this has to stop "... I let it be known that I WAS not making the money up and I didn't today atall.... They are both my "best friends" :lalala: (they're winding up to place that knife expertly in my back,,, naaaa !!! I'm too wise now, and strong)... She will have to find another way to line her pockets cause this farm girl has pitched enough shit !
Oh, Greenie, she is simply the manager of a small section of "compass group"... "Chartwell Foods"... if you googled you would see that it is a great place to work, blah, blah, blah... maybe if a person didn't have a nutzoid of a boss like Marilyn... Marilyn cannot hurt me in anyway... Oh, and the pricipal has been having sooooo many complaints on our staff and food that they handed out a survey for all students and teachers to fill out... Mary actually took me aside and told me that my name came up time after time after time that all the kids loved me.. Feels so good to be recognized, I simply said, " I'm passionate about working here and that they are all my kids. I know how shy they are when they first come here so I make them feel welcome and at home... I then went on to say that it's tough enough sometimes for them to fit in with the student body, so I want them to be comfortable here" All my thoughts and words just popped out naturally and was well received. I know that if crap happens I can refer back to that sheet of paper by my til and explain why I was doing that and that a float even went missing... gosh there is just sooooo many things... Long story short I do believe that there are indeed angels among us when we need them. Have faith and to thine own self be true.
Gosh I'm long winded eh? ...

Hope all is well with you all, thanks for all your advice and support it helped me through a dark kinda day.. Hugs, xxx

[Niblet]

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Thanks More2 xxx

[brittzak]

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well well...you sure had a good day Nibs!!!! I know Marilyn was about to crap her pants! HA HA HA Wish I could have been a little fly on the wall. I hope it keeps her straight for awhile.