thinking of trying 30 days AF

[dove]

Haven't been here in a while. Drinking more and more often to excess lately. Hard to want to do this with a holiday (thanksgiving) so close but think I should for myself. Problem is will be with Hubby's fam who drink a lot and will be asking ??s if I am not...

[Quakegirl]

thinking of trying 30 days AF

Hey Dove - there's always something...a holiday, funeral, celebration, Friday night...whatever. But I know what you mean. There are some situations that are unimaginable without alcohol. Could you commit to just this one Thanksgiving? Just for curiosity's sake? See how it goes! Sometimes our anticipation of it is way out of line with how it goes..
Re the excuses...I just don't any more (after 6 whole stop-start weeks! Feels like forever - in a good way). I tell the truth: I've got loads going on, and I don't need the added stress of waking up sludgy..even a couple of glasses in the evening was making me feel slow at work the next day...I need to shift 20 pounds...I don't tell people it might be permanent. People have been universally accepting, generally really interested in what it's like to give it a rest, and many, many are actually quite envious, most people around me also feel they are unhappy with their drinking (it's all those quakes) and would like to do something about it. A but harder when you're on your own. Work is a credible (and real) excuse for me. You'll find something that fits you...it's not good for my sinuses..messing with my hormones....I'm on a fitness bender...don't need the calories...just got sick of it...

[Pavati]

thinking of trying 30 days AF

Hi, Dove:

I had trouble committing to being AF for the holidays, too, but there is really no perfect time, so jump in. I told my family that I was taking some time to break some habits - they understand as there is alcoholism in the family. My inlaws got the truth yesterday - sinuses (honest, Quakegirl), and if it comes up again they will get - I was off it for a while and felt so much better that I decided to keep it up for a while. I'm not saying forever to anyone - I can't even say it to myself yet. One day at a time. Think how great it will be to feel GOOD after Thanksgiving, and think of the extra food you can eat if you don't have the alcohol calories! We can support each other through the holidays. I'm in the Newbies Nest a lot. Hope to see you there.

[Softy]

thinking of trying 30 days AF

Do it - 30 days - Do it

[Nelz]

thinking of trying 30 days AF

Seems to me, you have nothing to lose with that challenge. I say GO FOR EEEEEEEET!!!


I can almost assure you, that you will be happy you did, and probably wont wake up and say.........MAN, I SURE DO MISS THE HOOCH but probably utter something completely to the opposite of that.

The whole family/friends/holidays things will never go away. You will always have all 3 in your life..........just tell them you dont feel like drinking....and dont make a big deal about it.

Good luck with your choice

[dove]

thinking of trying 30 days AF

You are all very correct. Whether it happens or not we shall see. Thank you.

[DriftyAlison0]

thinking of trying 30 days AF

There will always be occasions and that shouldn't stop you from quitting. If your family asks you why your not drinking, you can ether tell them that you no longer drink or if you don't feel strong enough, use an excuse-I am the dd, on meds, etc. ODAAT. If you think of waiting till after the holidays, the AL mind may try to get you to change your times. If your going to do 30 days af which you should, do it now. I will join in with you in being sober through the holidays. This morning I had thoughts myself of AL, but I said no, switched my thoughts and then the thought left. Sure there are still times that I think of AL, but the thoughts and urges are so weak and far between. I am proof as well as the other long timers that it does get easier with time.