drinking partner

[spuddleduck]

Im sure this will have been discussed before. how do you manage with a drinking partner when af.or cutting back. Mr spud fully supports my efforts and in the past has offered to go af with me but that would make me feel guilty. he rairly drinks at home... though he hast quite got the hang of the fact that if there is any booze around i will drink it. i hate it when he comes in after drinking. maybe Im jealous.. always seems to have had a.good time.. even though i know i wouldn't have a good time.. always ends in tears for me.
any thoughts.

[DreamThinkDo]

drinking partner

Spud, take what is on offer: if hubby offers to stay AF to help you, say thank you as nicely as you know how. Don't feel guilty - he offered, and he doesn't drink much at home anyway, from what you said. He sounds like an understanding man: talk to him about the booze in the house and ask him to not keep any there until you are stronger. In the long term he too, will benefit from your sobriety.

[Rusty]

drinking partner

Hi Spuds,:l

Remember me, your old friend, Rusty? We have shared a couple of PMs in the past, and I am glad to see you back here, re-starting your journey toward being AF.:l

Listen to DreamThinkDo. She is right on track. It won't kill your husband not to keep any at home. People here who have the longest AF time without any slips (like Lavande and Doggygirl) don't keep any booze in their homes. If their spouses want booze, they go out for it. As far as being jealous, I used to be that way in the beginning, too, but really, I find that I can have just as good of a time or better at ANY occasion, without booze. I felt like I was being punished because when I went to family gatherings, my mom (my drinking partner, although she is a moderate drinker), and the rest of my family could drink and I couldn't. I have a long-time reputation in my family and my circle of friends and co-workers, as being "the life of the party." Apparently, according to everyone I talk to, I'm still the life of the party, but I'm sober.. Now, I don't feel like I'm being punished. Booze made me bloated, fat, and depressed. Without booze, I can reach my goal of being thin again and buy the clothes I WANT to wear.

I have been reading that you are trying Nal and TSM, and I think that's a really good move.

Keep posting, and PM me anytime.:l

[Nelz]

drinking partner

Welcome back spuddsy

If Mr. Spud has offered to go AF, I say go for it, especially in the beginning stages.


Seems to me its the hardest at the initial start up, until you can start to see that life without AL is possible


Stick around

[Lavande]

drinking partner

Hey Spuds,

Great to see you

I have to agree with the others - don't feel guilty, no need to really.
Keep your thoughts positive & remember what is good for you. Don't worry about the rest

Wishing you the best!

Lav

[spuddleduck]

drinking partner

thanks for your thoughts. always welcome the input. Im taking baby steps with nal at the moment so am mostly hanging about on the meds section but there are so many more issues for me such as this so Im reaching out here and there when im looking for answers to more general stuff like this. and its always good to read what others are up to. great to see continued triumph for so many .

[3June2013]

drinking partner

In the beginning it's easiest to not be around AL at all. In time you will find you don't want to drink. That's true freedom and it's within your reach.