Sober January!

[tree23]

Sober January!

Had a great Sunday. I woke up early and started the fire, did the dishes, laundry, showered, and made some delicious banana nut and flax seed muffins and bread. Then I went swimming with my sister and nephew. For dinner I made my own vegetarian lasagna, which was better than any box lasagna I have ever had, and watched Game Change with my housemate. I had a nice long talk with my sister yesterday about some of the frustrations I am having with my housemate; I need to speak with him but I am poor with confrontations. We discussed ways to protect my quit because i am starting to feel some resentment towards him (HM). One of the biggest irks I have is that before my quit, I took the recycling so I'd have no bottles to remind me of my past...Now the bin is full again with his bottles and there is no way in h-e-double hockey sticks that I am taking his bottles! But I also suppose that I have to have something to occupy my mind/time since I am doing so well AF and don't have to worry about that. My sister suggested a "Come to Jesus" talk, so we might do that in the near future. Overall all is really well. Tomorrow marks the end of my 5 day stay-cation. I am excited and a little anxious to return to work, I don't like being away for so long. It will be good to have stuff to do again! Sleep well and Viva Le Janvier!

[skullbabyland]

Sober January!

Day 74 AF. Looking forward to a great week of being productive, clear headed and sober

[bkyogagurl]

Sober January!

Awesome everyone!!!

Day 13... Feeling a bit bummed about the funeral. I told my hubby and he suggested that we go as a family. I told him I was concerned about the party element as I don't feel I have enough AF days under belt to manage drunk people without drinking myself. He told me he wouldn't drink or call any of our friends but I'm afraid the tide will change when we arrive. Then I will be the bitch not wanting to drink or be around it . Mr. BK is a really good man but he is human and can pull out the asshole card being...
I make my choices and he makes his. I need his support right now. This is right around the time I usually fold.. I have not made it thru 3 solid weekends without AL for a couple years...
It's become sooooo very important to me that I make this 31 days.

How is everyone else feeling?

[Pavati]

Sober January!

Hi, all:

Tree - A "come to Jesus" meeting never hurts. I remember having one with my two roommates before I got married. I said I was tired of doing all the dishes 75% of the time and they both said that was impossible because THEY did the dishes 75% of the time. Never easy! Good luck.

BK - You can DO this! I don't know about the funeral, but can you take two cars? Or you take the car home and he take a taxi if the booze and friends come out? You could arrange ahead of time to get a headache and feel sick BEFORE you go? I know our friends and family want to be supportive, but we have to protect our quits on our own a lot.

You ask how I feel? I feel STRONG because I have taken the choice off the table. Drinking is no longer an option for me - it can't be.

Skull - productive, clear headed and sober sounds great to me!

Night, all.

[bkyogagurl]

Sober January!

Pavati-:thanks:

I am pretty sure I will not attend.. It's a 3 hour drive and I'm just not up for it. I kinda feel like the funeral is for the people remaining not really for the person who passed. I don't really want to see some of the people attended so for my own well being I think I will bow this one out.

Thanks for your strong vibe... Go you:yougo:

[skullbabyland]

Sober January!

Feeling anxious and grouchy and irritable today... I'm trying to get over it and choose happiness and gratitude... I'm slowly getting there but sometimes a foul mood takes a while to get past. Thankfully I'm still protecting my quit, though... Day 75 AF.

BK, whichever way you decide to attend (or not) the funeral, good on you for protecting your quit. Whether in times of celebration or times of mourning, protecting your quit is a sign of strength and maturity. It's being good to yourself.

[bkyogagurl]

Sober January!

SKULL!!!!! 75 fucking DAYS!!!! You are a RockStar and a hero!!! Inspiration is what you are spreading...:goodjob:
:yougo:
Thanks for posting honestly about your feelings as it is a comfort to know that everyone has struggles and bad days... It makes mine easier to deal with.. Because I see that it does pass and people actually live thru them.

I am really protecting my quit... I am feeling the thoughts of AL sneaking back in but I am able to bat them away making myself a green juice and thinking about how I love my body & mind & soul and I don't want to poison any of them with AL.

We need to have a celebration for you.
:disco:

Take care of you... You Stud!

[Pavati]

Sober January!

Skull - 75 days is amazing. Sorry you had a bad day - good thing you've learned how to deal with them sober.

BK - when that sneaky drinking thought comes in to your mind, try playing out the scenario. What would that one drink turn into eventually? For me, it was a bad hangover and a lot of regret (not to mention a terrible night's sleep). Not worth it! And then, as Lav and Guitarista say, adopt an attitude of gratitude. Think of the positive things in your live that staying away from nasty alcohol will get you - good sleep, relationships, health, etc. Stay strong - we're almost half way through our sober Jan.

Good night all. Long day at work, but feeling good.

[free at last]

Sober January!

Wow, everyone is doing so well. Just checking in with a quick note to let you know alls well with me. Had a dinner on Monday where I passed on the wine and another one this evening where I said no thanks. Ready to call it another AF day and night for me.

[bkyogagurl]

Sober January!

So AWESOME FREE~

It can be tuff passing on the wine... I am still in the moment where it feels awkward to say no...
I almost get anxiety saying no...:H

Day 15 for me.....

Count em 15!! and two weekends under my belt. Can't wait for another AF weekend..

:groupluv:

Can I just give a shout out to everyone here supporting an AF month.... it gives me so much support.:thanks:

[Pavati]

Sober January!

Hi, FAL. Glad to hear all is well - thanks for checking in.

I was feeling a little funky today and tired of focusing on sobriety all of the time - I don't even want to drink, I just want to forget about it! I tried to switch my thinking and list the things I am grateful for in sobriety. Now I will take a bath and go to bed.

BK - so far I have been able to say that I am just taking it easy, on a health kick, going sober for the holidays - whatever, so I haven't been anxious about saying no. I was anxious about being no fun, but so far I think I've been a lot of fun. Sometimes it takes an extra effort to start the engagement and put myself out there (like at a dinner party) but once I do the rest is the same as with alcohol (maybe better because I can remember my train of thought and make a cogent argument if need be!).

Way to go, Januaries. Are there just four of us left? Keep it up - we're half way there.

[tree23]

Sober January!

More than four, at least at my count.

Day 15 for me!

[bkyogagurl]

Sober January!

Pavati- good insight... I have found when I try to engage without AL I feel much more confident in having a intelligent conversation and when I see others drunk it makes me feeling empathy for them and be glad it's NOT me... Keep being AWESOME.

:goodjob:
Tree.... Keep up the good work.. How have you been feeling?

[Pavati]

Sober January!

Sorry, Tree. Hadn't heard from you! hope all is well.

[tree23]

Sober January!

Pavati,
No worries. I don't have all that much to post. I am super busy with work and my quit. I usually drop in when I get home to do roll call in Newbies Nest and check out this thread. This time around it just feels so right, I am not having all that much trouble. Really enjoying this new stage of life!
Love reading your (and everybody else's) posts!
Cheers!