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[MossRose]

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Uncorked and Hammer - nice to meet you both. Welcome! Nora - great to see you. Dottie and Sunbeam - I guess I didn't realize we were all in the same age group. Must be something about getting into your 50s that makes you really question EVERYTHING. I know I did. As someone said earlier in this thread - being a drunk, older woman is just so inelegant.

I too do a lot of shopping at second hand stores. I've learned to travel to neighborhoods that are a bit "higher income" - that way I find really nice clothes at a bargain. But I love Coldwater Creek too. So, I'm a 50/50 shopper - new and used.

Nice to see everyone keeping this thread going. I agree with Jazi. It gets hard to keep up. Hang in there Golden Girls. We can do this - together!!

[DipGal]

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Yes MR, wish there was a LIKE button!! I am so used to Facebook!

[Sunbeam]

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As my signature says, the alcohol in my life is getting further and further behind. I didn't drink too much until sometime maybe in my later 40's. I'm relieved to have it all behind me, but I don't want to feel complacent either. Uncorked, thanks for your story.

[Dottie Belle]

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Moss I am surprised too that there are so many of us in the same age group...older and wiser I think.
Time to get on with life and for me I have to let the past go and make the most of thing in the now!

[Hammer_OTG]

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Hi GGs! Thanks DipGal for instructions how to enable user CP. I joined the MYO board a couple yrs ago and never knew how to do that. I've only dropped in sporadically in the past, everyone on here has always been great. So glad to meet you all and I agree, something is kicking in like never before now that I'm in my 50s. I'd like to have control over my life for once. Been a heavy drinker since my teens. There's got to be better ways to cope and get through life. Fashion-wise I am pretty much a jeans and T shirt gal. When I have to get fancy it's usually the all purpose black dress. Love this thread.

[Jazi's Mum]

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Good Morning! so good to see all the posts here. Originally I started this thread to gather really senior women together - like me, now 68 - as we have specific issues that you younger girls (:H:H) in your 50's don't have yet!!

But this is a gathering place...and we gather whoever wants to be gathered, no? :h

Good to read your stuff on clothing. I'll check out Cold Water Creek. I shop LL Bean too. My biggest difficulty is pants. I really find them uncomfortable because of waist/rest of bottom ratio being a bit off. There seems to be so much material between the legs that I don't need! (edit: I also have extremely sensitive skin to the point where even material rubbing on my inner thigh can cause irritation)

I'm just not a shopper I guess so don't really go out and try things on - I get discouraged when I get into those little rooms with the harsh lighting - with the sales lady hovering outside asking me how it's going :H

I almost always wear skirts but will change that I think. I don't have a lot of money either and I don't want to freak the Husband out too much. Money is a stress-issue for us. I feel I should spend until it's gone. He freaks out because he doesn't want to be on the street when he's 90. I'm crazy, but then so is he - we don't fight about it but there is tension sometimes.

Oh well. Life goes on. Baclofen is making me very much more relaxed these days and I don't feel as stressed over things like that as I have in the past.

Life is good.

[Hammer_OTG]

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I am not a fan of shopping. Do not enjoy it at all. I just try to buy the basics and dress them up with nice earrings or something. Thank you for accepting me here. A lot of the health problems I am going through physically seem to be what people many yrs older might be concerned about thanks to my always putting alcohol first. I'm now on par with my 70 yr old mother-in-law in terms of medical treatment (losing teeth, excessive bone loss, meds, etc) so when she visits we have lots to talk about. I am trying my best to turn things around with better diet and exercise and trying really hard to not be a drunkard, just hoping it's not too little too late but I should have heeded the doctor's warnings 10 yrs ago.

[Hammer_OTG]

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:new: ...apologies for leaving that last post on such a morose note. Anyway thanks for listening, I am just trying to get through this evening without a you know what. It's around this time that it gets kinda tough especially after a few days. Posting seems to help. On a happier note I did go to the gym to day so why undo all that work going back to something that I'm actually kind of sick of and know what the result will be. :thanks:

[Sunbeam]

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Hammer, if you post honestly and respectfulltly here, you will be accepted. There are so many kinds of people that squabbles do occasionally occur, but mostly we are in this battle against alcohol together. I say mostly because we each do need to figure out our own path, what strategies we will use to improve our lives. Figuring that out can be depressing and overwhelming. Keep reading and posting. The human body has tremendous potential for healing.

[Jazi's Mum]

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Hi Hammer. You are so welcome here :welcome: - we need you! The more experiences we can learn about the better it is for all of us.

And sometimes just knowing there are women here, just like you, can help. So please drop in often and share with us. And you can be morose as often as you want. Just so you don't mind us cheering you up. :h

[DipGal]

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Hello Golden Girl friends!! Well, today starts my Naltrexone day 1. We'll see if this ole broad can learn some new tricks! The Arctic blast is subsiding a little bit today - actually getting into the the plus side of the thermometer.. woo hoo!! I will venture out later for the first time in a few days. I hope everyone has a good day.. no - make that a wonderful day! Cuz, you deserve it!!!

((hugs)) to all!

[Uncorked]

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I am with you and will start Nal today as well. Amino acids Gaba and Taurine are helping..but just got back from a mini vacation and sadly I did drink wine. But that was yesterday and today is a new plan.
I must keep reiterating to myself that alcohol does not fit in with my otherwise healthy lifestyle.
Why would I pour poison into my body?? Thanks for this thread!

[Bastet]

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Hi everyone! I have not written here in a few days but I am still just plodding along. My youngest daughter came home for the afternoon today which was the perfect excuse to skip the Super Bowl party we were invited to. When my husband told me about it I honestly don't think he gave a thought to the fact that everyone will be drinking and there will be a big cooler with beer and plenty of wine going around. Not that I blame him it just shows the difference in our thinking.
Anyway so my daughter has this idea that she would like to be a professional organizer, that is the idea this week, so she offered to help me organize my closet. We took before and after pictures and it is amazing how much stuff we got rid of. I know the topic on this thread recently was age appropriate clothes. I often try to go through my closet and get rid of things but it is really. So different when you have a 23 year old saying, " really you would wear that out!" There must be 8 bags full of stuff that I will be donating. BTW the closet looks great and we had some fun together! She is much more relaxed around me since I became AF which is my biggest and best motivator.
Good luck dip girl and uncorked with beginning Nal. I don't really know much about the various pharmacological aids to help with becoming alcohol free or cutting down but I say if it can help by all means go for it.

[Dottie Belle]

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So glad someone posted...was looking for this thread last night and couldn't find it...
Age appropriate clothes ....dh does not get it...if he dressed me I would look like a hooker...an old hooker....;-))

[Uncorked]

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Thanks for your encouragement! I would prefer not to take the Nal and may just take it when I start to really have cravings...I did take it today and had no desire to have any wine. I've been thinking a lot about why we drink as get older...we can afford it, we are retired, kids are gone etc etc. These aren't excuses but I'm starting to see a pattern of making dinner while drinking wine and it almost feels like it comes from a place of boredom...I have so much to be thankful for and I certainly don't feel bored as I volunteer and still work part time...as women we're caretakers and for me I am learning to care take myself without alcohol.