One Step at a Time – February 2014

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hiya folksies! I?ve been MIA as I had a friend staying. Ima trying to keep up here but you guys have been chatting!

Mama? glad the Gravy Granules arrived. Took long enough, bloody USPS! What did you think of the creative wrapping?! LOL. Your mail person must have at least had a fleeting thought of ?WTF?!?

Niner? I?ve been through quite a bit of therapy in my time? couples counseling also? and sometimes they really don?t know as much as they think they do. He should first of all understand that you are Sierra?s caretaker? and he should have taken that into consideration IMVHO. Giving her carte blanche will not help much of anything, again IMHO. I?m glad you?re sticking to your guns and he didn?t devastate you. (Not sure why I automatically assumed it was a woman!) I think most of us suffered from ?angst? at her age? it?s just the way things are to some extent. She?ll move on from it and you?ll be left looking back at it no doubt! I had HUGE issues with my mother and it seems like a bit of a joke to me now? she was just doing the best she could and I was probably being a bit of a brat. X

Glassy? the Body Corporate? Heh heh? that is a lot more descriptive than the Home Owners Association. I think I?m going to use your terminology from now on? like at the next effin meeting!

To all? I feel really bad for you guys that have the weather woes. They?ve had really bad flooding in England and I read an article where they are linking our snow storms with England?s flooding. Not sure I?m too convinced about that! Global Warming is pretty chilly in any event? ;o) I think the worst of it is (apart from the electric bills) that bad weather just depresses a person. Vitamin D3 recommended for people that are not exposed to sunlight.

Sunny? I?m doing 7 days. The clean up from the juicer is the worst part? pain in the bum!

Nora? my bathroom sink is stuffed up too! Then I screwed up the plug thingy with the drain declogger? it?s all discolored now. Feck! No rest for the wicked! ;o)

Bastet? Your marriage counseling kind of sounds like mine was. I?m not very good at laying my heart on the line and said husband did the same as yours, was all doom and gloom and tears, while I just sat there saying nothing. So he ended up looking like the good guy and I ended up looking like a complete cold hearted harridan. We went a few times but it was abject misery for me?

Fen? Sorry for your surprise attack too. What a way to end things? that really sucks. It would have been much better if she had manned up and been honest, right? X Are you back home yet?

Welcome to Winer!

OK? that?s as far as I?ve got. There are PAGES left. I?ll read the rest after I sort the kitchen out? looks like a bomb hit it... bloody juicing!

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

mama bear;1624162 wrote: We are here. Pops breathing is very erratic and his blood pressure is 88 over 55. Morphine is on the way and I think he has a few more hours. We have Louis Armstrong playing for him and all of us are with him. I am rubbing arm and sitting in the wheelchair by his bed. We all take turns crying but it's ok. He is ready to go and I am honored to be here with him. Nana is a rock, but probably not when it is all over. The boys are here too.
I love you all

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this Mama. I wasn't meaning to be insensitive, I just didn't read to the end... only saw this when I posted. :l:l:l:l:l Call me if you need to... OK? Love you...

[sunshinedaisies]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Oh jan ..... I am there with you in spirit - I SO feel for you. Love and hugs my friend ...:l You know my number ......

love, Sun XXX

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Mama,im so sorry,just hold strong as a family,be there for each other,so sorry

[K9Lover]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Love you Mama! :h

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

((((mama)))) Will hold you and your family in my thoughts and prayers..

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hey guys. I've been texting with Mama (her battery is almost done) and she's hanging in there. Not a very nice situation by anyone's standards but she is keeping her head above the water. She's a survivor that one... X The Docs have given her father in law 2-24 hours and they are waiting for pain meds to be delivered to the house. It's the circle of life, right?

And life does not go on forever... so I guess we should make hay while the sun shines.

Love to yous all... you're a great bunch of people... X

[Glass Half Empty]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Thanks for the update Zen.

Mama - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your Pop is very lucky to end his life with wonderful people like you by his side.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Zen - thank you so much for the update. I am just so sorry for all of them. I so understand all of this. It is an honor to be with them at the end. As much as it hurts, it also is a blessing.

[Kradle123]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Mama' I haven't been there for you sweet pea....haven't been much around for all of you , I'm ashamed to say...:blush::blush: just very self absorbed but Sober....
Mama, you truly are one in a zillion and Glass is right, your whole family has great fortune to have you...as do all of us.

I'm so glad your texting with Zenny. I'm sure she's keeping your spirits up with her Super Scottish Sense of Humor. . I read somewhere that when Steven Spielberg was filming Schindlers list, he had a Robin Williams calling him every night to keep him balanced and off the ledge....your in good hands:l

I am chanting for pops and all of you. Right there with you.beautiful lady ....:l:h

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Good morning folksies. Way too early for moi! I laid there for a bit thinking of Mama... texted her... I hope her and Bret are OK and their Pop is peaceful.

I had a big talk with my mum yesterday, initiated by Mama's situation. I need to make sure she doesn't suffer when the inevitable comes along. I would like her to come over here but she doesn't feel up to travelling to I'll be booking a flight over to Scotland around June. It's very strange discussing things like that with her but it's best to have a game plan. You know, nobody wants to talk about that stuff, it's too close to the bone... but she really appreciated being able to get it off her chest. A bit of an eye opener really... and I'm not sure why we find it so hard to deal with. It's selfish of me to deny her being able to talk about this and I've made my mind up that we'll get it all in order so that she won't have to worry about it being a grey area when the time comes.

Going to try for more shut-eye... have my fur kids on the bed with me flat on their backs with all fours in the air... that's pretty much close to perfection for me. )

Have a good Saturday morn when yous get up. Nothing too spectacular planned here... hitting the gym later and probably going to drag Kenny along with me for an "initiation" (read as freebie!). They changed the sauna to a steam room so I want to do that too.

Kradle... you have a way of seeing into a situation! I did try and lift Jan's spirits... even described my knickers to her!

I think I'm going to have breakfast later... I can't even stand the thought of bloody juice! Scrambled eggs OMG and some bacon... tummy already rumbling! 7 day juice fast switched to 5!

Catch yous later on in the day... have a good Saturday guys...

[sunshinedaisies]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Good Morning everyone - Zen - you made me laugh about no more bloody juice !! Don't blame you one bit ! I also have talked with my mum about when she gets to that point - but for her to come here is too far for her to travel these days. the journey is so awful - even for me, let alone an 85 year old ! We have also discussed all the things about when she dies too ..... as have my siblings and I. I am not supposed to be going over when it happens with my mum, but I know I will .....it is hard to be SO far from them isn't it?

Kradle - you are always there for everyone - so no worries - you have your own problems. Hang in there and hope things get better for you XX

Mama - thinking of you today - SO hard I know ..... :l:l:h:h

Love, Sun XX

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Good Morning Precious Family
got home late, slept a bit and about to walk out the door again.
We are doing alot of sitting and waiting. Thank you so much for all the loving texts. Zen had me laughing with her knickers and such, but I think we are both are bit more enlightened. I have never had to go through this before, and while it is very sad, for me it has been frustrating and peaceful at the same time. Frustrating due to family. Peaceful, because Pop is resting and I know he is ready and his mother and father and brother and best friend are waiting for him. I saw a movie once where a terminally ill person was sailing on a beautiful lake and on the shore were friends and family members that had died. They were all waving to her and it was lovely.
The nurse told us to talk to him, lie with him, tell him things like, "Dad, I am really sorry I snuck out and took the car when I was 16 and wrecked it." Or "Dad I have forgiven you for embarassing me when you walked in on me making out with my first boyfriend." Or "Dad, I am sorry I have been a horrible person". ....whatever you need to say. Tell him how much you love him, kiss him, touch him and tell him it's ok to go.
So, being the most mushy person in the room, I did that. I teased him like he has always teased me. I thanked him for giving me Bret and my sons. I kissed him and rubbed his hair and held his hand.
And the rest of the family sat there like rocks.
It irritated the shit out of me and I told Zen I was just being a bitch. I cannot fathom how you sit there like nothing is happening. But to each his own I guess.
At one point Nana was lying over him and sobbing, and I told Bret's sister to get off the sofa and come comfort her mother.She was reading a magazine. Really????
The bottom line is.....we are all there and will continue to be until the end. The nurse told us he was lucky to have us. So I will quit fussing and just be the mushy one while everyone else deals with this in their own way. And I will try not to bitch too much in my brain. It's going to be hard, but I promise to try.
I have no idea why I am blathering on except to share and let you all glean from it what you need.
I will let Zen continue my rant about government funding cuts for the end of life care and how we had to beg for morphine to be delivered.
I need to go.
Just know that you all mean so much to me. NO one else is texting and checking on me but my friends here and that is simply amazing. I have only met Sunshine once, and the rest of your are my cyber buds.
Amazing the love we have for each other.
I will keep you posted. I pray he walks into the arms of my God today.
I love you all

[Rusty]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

My Dear Mama,:l

Your last post has me in tears, and it's been a long time since I cried.

I have to leave in a few minutes, but I was not about to leave without giving you several of these:l:l:l:h:h. I feel so badly for you, and yet I couldn't be more proud of you for setting an example for your children by not being afraid to show your love for your Pop, and doing it sober. I have been in your shoes, honey. I watched my best friend die of breast cancer and was with my dad when he died suddenly of a cerebral hemorrhage. That nurse told you right and you are doing exactly what HE would want....teasing him, telling him you love him. Like you, I am a woman of great faith so I hope my words will be of comfort to you. I am the youngest of five kids and my dad was brutally strict with all of us...but he was especially hard on my 3 older brothers. My dad and I had a love-hate relationship until about 7 years before his death, when he had an epiphany and regretted the way he had treated us and our mother. We grew really close and when he died, I felt this horrendous void. My best friend had died the year before, and I felt abandoned. A couple of years later my drinking escalated to dangerous levels. Fortunately, despite driving drunk numerous times, I have never had a DUI or any kind of accident, and I truly believe it's because my dad is taking care of me from Heaven. I think it's his way of letting me know that he is sorry for the mistakes he made as a dad. He couldn't protect me when he was living but he sure is taking care of me now. My career is going gangbusters, I am sober, and I am happy. I know your Pop loves you and I truly believe he will be taking care of you and your family from his cozy perch behind the Pearly Gates. He couldn't have asked for a better daughter-in-law and I know that he knows how well you are loved by so many people. Lastly, try not to be angry and your HB's family. Everyone processes their grief differently. I wasted a lot of YEARS being angry at my mom's family for not coming to my dad's funeral. Resentment just escalated my drinking, and I wish I had let that anger go a long time ago. It hurt only me and no one else. You are smarter than I am. I am in your corner, and I am sending you lots of love and hugs and PM me if you need me.

Love, Rusty

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Oh Mama,i did the same when gramma died in sept,thanked her for giving me her wonderful son and such,theres this song called"God only cries for the living"
Basically its about how when people pass on theyre ready to go "home"its harder on us than it is for them,cuz we have to carry on without them here,its a good song,country but good,my prayers are with you and your family,thank you for keeping us posted,we love you