One Step at a Time – February 2014

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hiya guys...

I was late getting home tonight. OMG, I have stories! I met a load of people I haven't seen in ages and they are characters... that is for sure.

I read all your posts and I'm just going to say... it's hard to look at death. I can't believe how Jan has handled it... I was so worried about her but she is extremely strong... and I aspire to that. Strong and empathetic... that's a combo by anyone's standards.

I'm so hoping Pops can rest in peace soon. It's crazy how we can't end their suffering. The trauma the family have to bear is horribly difficult.

Much hugs... XXX

[Kradle123]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

You know Dottie, I never thought about paying for things in advance....Mama's situation with the insurance gives pause .

:l

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Morning loves
want to curl up in bed all day, but have to get my butt moving soon. Just called hubs and everthing is about the same. Sorry to sound morbid, but the "Death Vigil" is exhausting. You watch every breath and wait. Then you watch some more. enough of that....sorry
Pop is still with us this morning and I have no idea what we will do tomorrow. We all have responsibilities and the world does not stop.
Long term care policies are a tricky thing. Only 85% of them ever pay according to the internet. Nana and Pop ticked the "100 days" box. It was cheaper. They chould have ticked the "20 day" box, but how in the heck are you to know how long someone will linger?? Pop's mother was ill for years.....
anyway...it is what it is
off to get coffee, shower , rastle up the boys and get moving. Some of us know Ruby Willow....her FIL passed early this morning. I have invited her back to us, but she may ot appear....long story.
Again, thanks for all the love and amazing support. I have gotten PM's from strangers here offering to bring food.....just amazing.
I love you all and hope this drama ends soon for all of us:h:h

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Jan - I have always called it 'The Death Watch' in my head. I think I got that from a book by Stephen King called insomnia. That is how I felt just like you said. Watching and watching and waiting.

I love you friend. I've been writing to Ruby too. Hard times there too.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Her FIL passed this morning.....
getting into shower, but I feel soooooo tired.
Big girl panties

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Allswell....
much love and comfort my friend
Sunshine texted me and told me to close my eyes and feel her arms around me....it was an loving, warmf feeling......same to you Allswell
Liz- I hope your son is ok

[Rusty]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Mama, how are you holding up, doll? I am so glad you are finding so much love and support here. Everyone is returning the affection you've given them for the last four years. What goes around comes around, right?

I have been thinking about you so much this weekend. My birthday is tomorrow and yours is Wednesday. I am two days older than you are. Isn't my age-related wisdom evident?:H:l

[fennel]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

I'm thinking of you, Jan. I hope pops is out of his suffering soon. You and Rubes have really been through the mill these last few weeks. :h

[fennel]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

mama bear;1624817 wrote: Morning loves
want to curl up in bed all day, but have to get my butt moving soon. Just called hubs and everthing is about the same. Sorry to sound morbid, but the "Death Vigil" is exhausting. You watch every breath and wait. Then you watch some more. enough of that....sorry
Pop is still with us this morning and I have no idea what we will do tomorrow. We all have responsibilities and the world does not stop.
Long term care policies are a tricky thing. Only 85% of them ever pay according to the internet. Nana and Pop ticked the "100 days" box. It was cheaper. They chould have ticked the "20 day" box, but how in the heck are you to know how long someone will linger?? Pop's mother was ill for years.....
offering to bring food.....just amazing.
I love you all and hope this drama ends soon for all of us:h:h

I have nothing good to say about these insurance companies! A friend of J's and mine has had to place her husband in hospice for a quick moving neurological disease...and their insurance is refusing to pay out! It's an evil business. :upset:

[IAD]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Here's a pic of two of my monsters. Lola is the new addition. Old Ace is still around. My Blond long hair Chi didn't show up for the pic. Hope everyone is doing fine. Tony

[sunshinedaisies]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Cute picture Tony ...... they are really sweet!

Jan - yes, Rubys' FIL has passed and it will be a relief for them all. It is so hard towards the end. I am not sure what you will be able to do - I suppose you will go in to work tomorrow or can you take some time off? That is ludicrous about the insurance and I am so sorry to hear it .... maybe something can still be done?

Hang in there my friend ..... hugs and love to you :l:l

love, Sun XX

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

not sure about work....dont want to be there and will not be able to focus
I am fine, but getting tired.
The boys and I are about to leave. The signal out there is spotty, but I will let you know if anything happens. Need some quiet time.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hey fen, Rusty and Tony...

[Bastet]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hey Mama - I know all of this exhausting for you and your family and if your Pops were to pass quickly it would be the most humane thing for all of you. Yet this will be the last time you spend with him and you will likely think about these few days often. Once they are gone it is forever. I have a family member that I would give anything to spend a day with even if he was unconscious, just to be able to see him. I hope I'm not overstepping but there may be a way to view this with some positives as long as your Pops is not suffering. I am thinking of you.

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

mama thinking about u today and sending comfort..