One Step at a Time – February 2014

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

The cat slept with Nana...yay!!
her OCD has kicked in BIG TIME and she expects us all the come clean out and get rid of Pop's stuff.
That's two sheds, two houses, two garages......We are trying to get her to chill, but it's not happening....grrrrrr
so off we go....

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Oh Mama - I wish you would have been able to get her to wait. But, when my Dad passed away my Mom came straight home from the hospital and cleaned up the table where my Dad sat & had his stuff. Cleaned up all of his stuff by his chair and cleaned out his nightstand. It was sad. But, all his clothes are still there. When I'm up there in May, I'll ask her again if she wants me to box it up.

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hey all,thats the hardest part when somebody passes,going through their stuff,ugh too many memories,i had to get drunk to finally get through grammas,i just couldnt look at it anymore,congrats FT!!! im so excited for you guys thats awesome! i havent been too good on the af days guys,just being honest,i want it but i need to understand the whys,whats,whatevers about this crud,i just dont get whatever is happening to me hormonally,emotionally,friday i was a bucket of tears over nothing really,drank got no where,had sat off drank had a wonderful day/nite,today im just blah of course,maybe i shouldve posted this on my thread,i dont wanna be a downer,jeez i have everything and i still piss it away,im lacking mojo to stop,but however im not beating myself up,im just learning i guess,you guys are my friends here and you understand this b.s im glad im here with you

[Glass Half Empty]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Welcome Roxane :welcome: Very glad that you've joined us! Don't worry about responding, just jump in and post whatever you feel like.

Mama - what a huge job, you poor thing! When are you ever going to just have some time for you? I hope everyone appreciates just how much you do for them all!!

Pauly, it's OK sweetie - you can bitch and moan here as much as you like. We've all been there, done that and bought the T-shirt.

Nora I'm so glad you're getting to see your 'whatever you call him'. I think relative is a good word - he was your cousin's partner, so in my book that makes him your cousin too. It's so sad that your cousin's parents couldn't accept him into their family - what a lot of happy, shared celebrations they missed out on!

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hey Glass!!!
Welcome Roxanne...did I miss you??
Pauly...like I've always told Nora when she struggles, we got your back and you will stop when you are ready. Mid life is kinda tough on us ladies, and I get the frustration, but stop and think if the drinking really helps anything. It makes my moods worse if I overdo it, and it makes me crave. What does your hubs think when you drink? Didn't you vomit last time and didn't he get mad? Just things to think about, babe
I finally told Bret to go on to his moms...I had things to do. So I went to the grocery and Walmart and faffed around, as Zen would say.
I (gently) reminded him we had taxes to do, and an 18 year to get into college. Hopefully things will settle down and I can keep my mouth shut. Plus, Grant will continue to be out there Monday thru Friday, so I think she is getting PLENTY of help.
Oh well...gonna zone out for a bit before Sunday dinner.
I downloaded 'Sharp Objects" and two or three other books on my Nook. YAY!

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

I missed the end of the last page so I missed all of Nora and Roxane's posts.
Nora, you are so tender hearted and accepting. That's one of the reasons I love you. (actually 2 reasons)
Roxane...just start talking to us honey. We are here.....

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

HI all,
We got another dog today...he is very shy and afraid...he was taken from a hording situation with little to no human contact...been in foster care for 6 months so I think he will come around. Put him in a crate with his blanket and a peanut butter filed toy. Other doggies are checking him out..I didn't want to overwhelm him all at once.
My mother died 5 years ago and I am still going through stuff...my dining room and kiving room are still filled with boxes...I just cant go through it all without crying and wanting a drink so I take it slowly...dad wanted me to get rid of all her clothes immediately...no clue why but I brought them all here and went through all the pockets and washed everything before donating it all..she was a little petite woman and I couldn't wear anything of hers..darn shame she had some nice clothes. I will get it all donated eventual and keep the little things that mean something to me...it is so hard..
Going to fix some lunch and check on the new doggie..Maddie....so that is Maddie, Annie, Emmy Sue and Penny....I see a pattern here....poor fellow is the only male dog with 3 girls....oh well he will have a good home...

[Lizann]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Congrats on the new doggie! Wish I could have ,ore than one but Lucy wouldn't have it. Watching tv with hubby right noe and she is sprawled out across the goth of us. Hubby says she has us trained. Finally the weather was ok enough for us to venture out for Cjs birthday dinner. PF changs! Yummy. Takin it easy thee rest of today, maybe the treadmill later.

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Aww,congrats on the new family member Dottie! today we went to the indoor swap meet and these guys had some pit bull puppies in the back of their truck(no way)but being a dog lover i had to check them out,beautiful! puppy breath,that puppy belly that feels all rubbery and soft ahh,cute

[Kradle123]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hi Stepper:

Quick fly by (I know I'm saying that lately...trying to stay accountable here!)
Had to post this OMG discovery on my sisters facebook page
Winebulance | Remain calm. Wine is here.
Jesus H. Christ! My sisters and I have had our lives whacked out from AL...Get a clue, darlin'...

Just got back form a really good District Meeting (this is my lay Buddhist community)
Love you all...taking the girls now to Acro...
:l:h

[Glass Half Empty]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Dottie - that is so sweet about your new little dog.

My little cat (Bella) is 11 and is not too well. I haven?t shared this with you all yet because you?ve all had things on your mind, but she?s having an ultrasound this week and the vet thinks she has bowel cancer. Will let you know when I get the ultrasound results tomorrow.

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Glass I understand and hope it is good news...my fur babies are so very important to me.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Oh Glass - I am so sorry. :upset::l

Dottie - congrats on your new Maddie.

Mama - I just finished Sharp Objects. It was a compelling book. I'm glad that you stayed home.

Pauly - I'm glad that you shared. That is what we are here for. Trying to work it out as we can. :l

Liz - glad that you got to go celebrate finally.

Kradle - don't even have words to say for that link. I'm glad that you had a good District Meeting.

I had a wonderful time!! It was so great to see my cousin-in-law and plus I got to meet another old, dear friend of my cousins. I can dwell on the sadness of the missed years or I can enjoy the time I have with people that knew & loved my cousin. So, I'm enjoying the time.

I am tired though. 2 hours there and about 2-1/2 back (traffic). So, I'm chilling out with paying bills & looking at taxes. :H

[Lizann]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Glass praying for your little kitty. I so get it. They are our family!

[Bastet]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

We are back from our ski vaca. We made it home really fast, only about 3.5 hours and my cat sat in the rear window the whole time.
Glass, thanks so much for sharing your picture. Everyone looks so happy, the minister must have said something really funny. It is so great that you feel so close to your daughter in law and her family - they must be really special! I am so sorry about your kitty! I have lost several to cancer and it is never easy. My Toyger turned one on Valentines day and I have a Bengal at home that I bred that turned 18 on the same day. We joke that she is old enough to vote now. I hope your test results turn out to be nothing!
Lizann, I agree with Glass that your daughter will probably enjoy having an adult relationship with you now almost wife to wife.
Sunshine how long has it been since your AF time? The first week or so can be hard and then it gets easier, I'm sure you already know that, but good for you for taking the plunge. Are your daughters close to getting married? Do you think they will take you up on eloping? I really got off easily because my daughter got married in a foreign country that I had never been to and the grooms mother had been many times so she did almost all of the planning.
Hi Roxane! I know I have seen you over at the newbie nest. I only started here February 1st and I have to say that this is an incredibly friendly and welcoming group! I have been really enjoying getting to know everyone.
Nora, it is so nice that you got to meet your cousin in law and sad that he was not included sooner. I can't believe that assisted living is $3000/per month! That is crazy! I don't think we will ever be able to retire everything is so expensive.
Pauly I'm sorry that you are struggling! I know that my hormones are all over the place and I never know what is causing what. The craziest thing is I am 55 and still on bc with regular periods!
Dottie, I don't think I could handle 4 dogs! How do you walk them all? At the same time or do you have to make several trips?
Mama I am so glad your household is returning to normal. Just a caution not to rush it especially for your husband. I wanted everything to go back to normal as quickly as possible and I think I didn't allow as much time for grieving as I should have and consequently healing took longer.
I would really be interested in your moderating after 7 months. Last night we went out to dinner and it was pretty boring. My husband must have brought up the weather 10 times at least. Towards the end of the evening I said something about how hard it was and he said it was okay and how nice it was for him not to worry the whole dinner about how much I was drinking. I said I really didn't think it involved him much. He just said we needn't talk about it now and how we can relearn how to have dinner and other things sober. I'm sure he was trying to be positive but mind you this was after he had smoked a joint on the balcony at the hotel and had left me once between appetizers and dinner to have a cigarette outside. I know all the reasons moderating doesn't work but I still feel like this might be something I want some more information about. So Mama I would love to hear how it has worked for you if you are comfortable talking about it. You could pm me if you want.
I am so sorry about the length of this and probably no one will read this sentence because they gave up a long time ago but if you do I hope you have a good Sunday night!