One Step at a Time – February 2014

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

my 3am wake up call is catching up with me and I am fading...will leave work around 4 and the carnivores can fend for themselves tonight
Bri is acting like all if well and I am just being quiet. I'm ok with that. I think time will tell for this, so I'll bide my time patiently and do nothing that warrants ME getting in trouble. She is being extra nice for some reason, but the luster has faded for me. I keep telling myself it's just a job, so I can keep it in perspective.
K9 - I completely agree with Zen. The therapist sounds biased and you and WHN should have a chat. When "The Princess" was being a shit, I told him maybe he should go live with Nana, and he changed his tune.
Zenny - that sucks about the HOA, but I am glad your tummy is better.
Nora - some of my best marriage fights have been over the phone. We even have a rule now that arguments must be face to face. Texts and phone calls get taken wrong sometimes. I am sorry honey.
Back to work...sigh
Dots...make hubs cook his own dinner for a change!!! That'll show him.HAH!
Skivvie report...white with peach polka dots

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Zennifer
I got my gravy!! Thanks!!

[K9Lover]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

You guys are right, the therapist (man) kept saying that I need to overlook things because of her "mental state". And OK, I agree to a certain point, but I am not going to pussyfoot around and walk on eggshells for fear that I offend her. Sorry but that's not life. I am patient and kind and understanding, and I think the only thing it's getting me is some shoe marks up and down my backside.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

I think overlooking things may be "enabling" bad behavior...
You are her mother and have out her first her entire life, and she should be remided about respect and gratitude.
I bet your daddy could give her a good talking to.....
I do NOT mean to offend...I love you like a sister

[K9Lover]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

No offense at all Mama...I agree 100%. I was actually thinking that last night, sounds like a job for her Pop (my dad). He is currently lounging on the beach with my mother. They will be home on Thursday (such hard lives...LOL). He is the best "listener" in the world. Sierra says I don't listen, and that very well may be true. I will hit him up this weekend. He already told me not to let her "play" me with this mental illness thing. And thats exactly what she's been doing...

Sorry it's been all about me, me, me today. I will catch up with all of you tomorrow. I am going to the gym to work off some steam...and maybe punch someone. LOL

Love you all lots!

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hi all,
Snowing like crazy here....then ice..then more snow.....I have lived here most of my life and dont remember the winters being this bad..global warming I guess...
AND all the talk about checkers these days and now I am dreaming about it....darn u all....see what u have done....;-))

[Glass Half Empty]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Oh Mama ? what is it with your assistants? You seem to draw the short straw every time, you poor thing! I guess you know this, but from a HR perspective the best thing you can do is what you're already doing - take off your Mama hat, put on your boss hat and counsel her as a detached professional, i.e. advise her about her maternity leave entitlements, put her in touch with the relevant support organisations and be as flexible as you can if she needs leave for prenatal appointments. Apart from that, there?s nothing you can do and getting involved would just be a conflict of interest.

K9 I?m sure Sierra did just fine in her interview ? she sounds like a gorgeous kid. I?m crossing my fingers that she gets through to the next round. And in regards to the therapy, kids always hurt the person they love the most ? you know that, right? If she didn?t feel secure in your love she wouldn?t have the courage to lash out, so don?t take it personally. Kids are meant to go through a phase of being obnoxious ? it?s how they learn and grow. And yes, I do know everything in the entire world as is happens, just in case you were wondering! :H

Zen ? I?m guessing that what you call the HOA is what we call the Body Corporate over here and if it?s any help I?m having major dramas with mine too! And good luck with the juicing.

Nora ? yep, I?m officially on leave but working pretty much all hours on my uni research so no change there! I?m sorry to laugh about your kitty, but as you know, coming home to a little surprise probably isn?t that big a deal after all you?ve gone through. My sister?s cat got accidentally locked in the cupboard under the stairs once when my sister went to work, and as cats do, she just went to sleep for about 10 hours and then strolled out, yawning, when my sister came home!

Pauly, I have no advice to give about the DUI thing sorry, or about your other worries. I can give you these :l :l if they?re any help though?

Tony, I?ll pass on the pizza thanks

Love and hugs my gorgeous steppers, if nothing else this year you've given me the courage to step out of my black undies and live dangerously!

[Lizann]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

I would agree with you K9. Isn't it always the mothers fault? I once had a therapist tell me I needed to allow myself to be angry with my mother, it's her fault I have aniexty. FYI my mom is as close to a saint as is possible! I never went back. Maybe it's time for another therapist.
Mama, for how long did you lose your license?
Pauly, so sorry for such a crummy day. Did they tell you how long hubby's license is suspended? Good for you for not drinking.
Did is miss something Nora? Where is hubby?
Sounds like a not great Tuesday for most of you today and I'm sorry. It's good to have a place to come and vent. Think I'm gonna go crawl in my blanket tent and color, just like back in the day! Sweet dreams my friends

[sunshinedaisies]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Oh My Goodness - I have NO hopes of ever keeping up with you all in as far as replying to each and every one of you - I am sorry ..... just know that I do feel for all of you in what you are going through - the only one that I can actually relate to is Dottie with the weather !! Snow today - really wicked blowing stuff, and more tonight. I agree with you in that this has to be the worst winter I have seen in many years .... BUT spring is round the corner - I know that 'cos I have been getting seed and gardening catalogues in the mail !!!!

Other than that - oh gosh - K9 - I really feel for you re sierra - that must be SO hard when you and she gets on so well and talk so much and to then have her say that ..... I would be floored as well!

Jan - you are doing the right thing re Bri - stick to it !! How are things going at home ? how is Clay? give him a big hug from me please ..... he is a sweetie.

Nora - sorry you and hubs are having disagreements long distance - long distance is hard any time !!!

Zen - glad that you slept so well! And that day 2 wasn't as bad as day 1 !! How many days do you have to do? I applaud you - I could not do a juice fast!

Pauly - I am so sorry about the DUI thing - I hpoe that you get it sorted - so hard for you !!!!

Lizann - laughed at you crawling in your tent and colouring !!

I have to get start getting ready for bed - hopefully they will have cleared the roads by the morning although it is supposed to snow most of the night. We live on a school route so they always do us first which is great.

Much love and hugs to all, and sorry if I didn't address you personally - I find it so hard to keep up !!!

love, sun XXX

[Glass Half Empty]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Sunshine you did a fantastic job of keeping up for someone who says she can't keep up!

I don't think I can keep up with all your keeping up!

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hey - not even going to try to keep up today. But, Love & Hugs to everyone.....

I have been fighting with the bathroom sink for months but today we really had it out. :H I rent but pay much less than other places so i try not to complain. But, I can't get my drain flowing. The pipes are probably 60 years old. I'm used to hubby keeping them running. :H

Hubby & I have made up. Long story that I won't bore you with. But, we're ok now.

I'm going to take care of some bills & go to my kindle.

[Bastet]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Hey all! First chance I have had today to catch up and I agree glass if that is sunshine not keeping up I don't know what is! Well I couldn't do half the job she did so I am not even going to try.

I think there are some really crappy therapists out there. A few years ago I was seeing one by myself and we asked for a referral to a marriage counselor. My husband and I went and he sat on the couch and cried the whole time which made me really angry. So I distanced myself from him and just kind of sat there. The whole time she was not very nice to me. Well next time I went to my therapist I found out that the marriage one had called her (I did not sign any kind of agreement that any info could be exchanged) and said what a cold hearted bitch I was and that my husband was a saint for staying with me. I mean give me a break he wasn't discussing anything just acting really put upon and weak and I was not feeling like comforting him. Needless to say we did not return.
BTW this was a while ago and we have moved past there but I still think it can be a crap shoot when it comes to finding a good therepist and they can really screw things up.
Tomorrow I will pay better attention to the thread. Good Nite.

[fennel]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Oh, gosh...so much is going on here!

K9, I really feel for you. It's been years for me, but I was terribly blind-sided in a couples counseling session with my ex years ago. She was in the process of unloading me for a mutual friend of ours, and the session was merely for appearances, but I recall the horrible feeling as she "kitchen sink"ed me, with her bitchy counselor's blessing. I felt completely attacked and helpless and to this day, I consider couples counseling as the kiss of death for a relationship. I know this is not the end of your relationship with DD, but I can relate to the feeling of one-sidedness of the counselor, and the cruel surprise of hearing those things coming from Sierra's mouth. :l Hang in there.

Oh, Nora...when are you going to visit hubs so you can fight in person? :l Sorry things are going badly. Sounds like your pipes need snaking. Maybe your landlord knows an inexpensive plumber? Or maybe he can do it?

Mama, sounds like you handled the Bri situation perfectly. It's a good thing she's behaving normally, as long as normal does not entail her usual venting to you. Keep yourself in your office and enjoy some peace. :h

Pauly, so sorry about hubs. First offense DUI here is automatic license loss for six months, plus alcohol awareness classes and AA meetings. The license loss usually happens immediately, here. Find out if he is able to have it amended so he can drive to work. We have that option here, as they don't want people to lose their jobs.

Zen, that sucks about the garden. HOA's sound the pits. You have to pay extra $ so they can enforce a bunch of stupid rules and skip out paying you for damage to your property? No, thanks. I hope you get things looking good again soon, but so much labor has gone right down the drain. I'm thinking of you.

Well, chilly and rainy here, but at least it's not snowing! :H Going out on a seven hour hike if Mrs. Fen doesn't put the kibosh on it.

[sunshinedaisies]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Good morning from a very snowy here ! Going to have to leave super early for work today - have just been out and swept the car using a kitchen broom !!

Nora - sorry about the sink and the pipes - I would call the landlord and have him get it sorted !! Our bathroom sink was bad and I finally decided to do it myself - they didn't need snaking, but when i took the pipes apart, there was so much gunk - I had such joy just turning the taps on for days afterwards and would turn them on for the sheer joy of seeing the water run down the plug !!

Fen - sorry it is raining and chilly where you are, but as you said - at least it isn't snow ! Enjoy your hike today.

Bastest - that therapist was the pits - as fen said, they are supposed to be impartial !!

Hi Glass ...... hope you have a wonderful day today!

Where are you this morning Mama? You are usually here first thing .....

I have to get going - off to brave the snowy world !!

Hugs, sun XX

[Winer]

One Step at a Time – February 2014

Today is my First Day ! I am so pleased that I found this Website ! Finding it "a bit" complicated but Im sure I'll get the hang of it.