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A man (woman) falls into a hole and can't get out.
He is frantic...screaming for help when finally a doctor comes by. "Help me, Help me, I have fallen in this hole and I can't get out". The doctor thinks for a minute, writes a prescription and throws it into the hole...to no avail of course, the man still can't get out...soon a minister hears the screams and comes by..."help me help me" The minister thinks for a minute and decides to go home and pray leaving the man alone in the hole.
After what seemed an eternity the mans best friend hears his pleas-arrives and immediately jumps in the hole with the man. The man becomes angry. "why did you jump into this hole with me...now we are both stuck in here"...the best friend just smiled and replied "NO..I AM GOING TO HELP YOU GET OUT BECAUSE I WAS IN THE HOLE ONCE TOO AND I KNOW HOW TO DO IT".
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I wanted to share this with all of you because I thought of you all while I was driving into work and thinking that we are all in various parts of the damn hole...some of us are out helping the rest getting out and some of us are half way out but the one thing we all have in common is that we now recognize that we are in a hole (quite an accomplishment at least for me) and we are helping each other get and stay out.
I would like to thank you all for that.
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The other thing I realized about holes...is that 7 wks ago I started this program and it has taken that long for me to come to grips with some of the "holes" in my life that I believe made drinking such a "friend" to me. I am lonely for whatever reason, I am estranged on some levels from my husband...again, I don't know if the drinking over the years has done that or if the estrangement has caused (excuse me-attributed to) my excess drinking. I am somewhat bored with my life and all of these holes have been more obvious now that I am not drinking to excess and coming to grips with myself.
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So here is to all of us...getting out and staying out of the damn hole...to helping each other stay out...to begin to recognize the holes in our life that we thought alcohol could/would fill (not) and becoming WHOLE again.
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NOT NOT NOT a loser-
love you Millie

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Millie
Thank you. This post gave me shivers. You are not a loser. None of us are, though I am sure we have been called it once or twice by people who don't understand.
Here is to helping one another get out and stay out of the "holes" we may have been in and to getting whole, emotionally and physically. I love you all. Thanks for being here. Millie - you have truly made my day. I am going to think of this post when I get down.
Hugs and warmest thoughts
Jen

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Millie, I just loved that. That is so cool. I sure can relate to your whole (no pun) story. The husband thing, I do believe that my estrangement added to my drinking--not the other way around. But in the course of that the alcohol became my best....very best...I think friend. Got tried of hearing myself talk about my unhappy marriage to my friends. So the beer got it. I remember the last night I drank...before I started the topa....I drank that 12-pk and during the last few beers I cried all the way through. This was not the sort of drinker I was. A cry in your beer drinker. Very rare to ever do I remember that ever happening. But that last night....32 days ago (today is 31 : ) ) I cried hard in my beer. I have thought about this many times. And I think without realizing it....I was saying goodbye to my very best friend. Or I should say....my very closest friend at the time. :c
So sad to think about. Thanks Millie for inspiring me to post about this. Sheese...makin me cry right now. Dang and I gotta go do some stuff too. be back later gabby

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Hang in there Gabby, We are here.
Luv always
Jen

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Thanks Jen. Better Now.
Just got back from my doc. He is so nice and supportive. Wrote me a new script for topa. I wish all of you guys could have him. He gives me a hug and everything. Gabby

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Well Gab-I started crying writing the post this morning and then continued throughout the day (still weepy) but your post made me cry hard. I think the nail just got hit on the head...my "friend" the drink who was at least the one thing I could count on...now I am trying to be my own friend, which is damn hard...sorry to say. At any rate, your doc sounds wonderful. You sound wonderful too as does the rest of our group. Just a sad day all the way around but am happy we have each other.

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alright now this is getting ridiculous. here i go again. crying only laughing too this time. Heres a huge hug to you millie and you too jen and you too kate. And ok...one for me too. This is what we all need to do I guess. love ourselves more.
group hug here. :d :d :d :d
Ok...today is a good day. Bye for now.
Millie you sound like a very sweet person. Thank you. : )