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[samadhi]

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Goiningsobermon - I think you are doing a great job and keep it up - you'll be a great mom. With my pregnancies I had a few glasses of wine per week (the least I ever drank since I was 24) One son is very healthy and smart - the other is healthy but autistic. Supposedly drinking doesn't cause autism and I believe it. It's very interesting that in Scandinavia people are very parnoid about drinking - I thought they were "more tolerant" than Americans as far as alcohol was concerened. Maybe that's just other European countries. But I have had European friends make fun of how uptight we Americans are when it comes to drinking while pregnant. Who knows?

[dilayne]

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Hi goingsobermom..thanks for letting people help you through all of this..Compassion is the main thing in this struggle...to be compassionate with ourselves for having it, for other's as well, and to those who are incapable (yet). :0)

[Jacy]

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goingsobermum-

I just want to say that when I was pregnant I to had drank as well I know it was one or two and then nothing at all for the rest of my pregnancy, it wasn't a problem then like is now never the less I still did. I am still not proud of it today and course was stupid choice. I think you are doing the absolute best you can; it has been mentioned already that there are a lot of women who don't even try to quit while they're pregnant so hats off to you . I honestly know that it would be really hard for me to.

This is a good place to get a lot good support.

[Nicole2003]

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hi

All I can say is you and your baby are the most important thing. Of course you know you need to minimise your alcohol consumption as best you can and that's all you can do - it's not necessarily easy! Especially in the early weeks there's so many neural developments going on, the more you can stay off the booze the better. I unfortunately had a miscarriage recently. It breaks me heart but one if the only solices is that I quit drinking the whole time and I had cut down a lot before then. There's lots of moms on this site and I read loads of posts about pregnancy - lots of them said nausea kicked in and the thoughts of alcohol, cigarette smoke, coffee, fried food just made them feel ill. Keep coming on here, there's plenty of people who will give you support and will not judge. Please PM me if you feel like it and need a bit of extra suport, I empathise where you are at.

Nicole xxx

[betty boop]

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Hi Goingsobermum,

I feel bad that you feel so bad, you have made positive changes and that is really good, you are doing the best that you can and should feel proud of yourself....

Luckily i've never come across critisism on this site, don't take it to heart love ...

Well done, I know how hard it is ...

Love & Hugs,

[Beaches]

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Hello goingsober,
I work in the field of developmental disabilities...no keep reading please. With that said I also drank a couple glasses of wine here and there throughout my pregnancies. I read your blog and I think you are doing just fine. Keep it under control, don't get blitzed every night or EVER and you won't have to worry about FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) or other DD's. You will be fine and so will your baby. You do not want to spend a lifetime caring for a child with a developmental disability that could have been prevented simply by not drinking.
You are fine...carry on.

[Arial]

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Hey Suz,

Glad to hear you're curled up with a hot mug of chocolate - that's my 'comfort' drink too now! You are obviously a caring person who has thought through this pregnancy and obviously have the health of your baby as your prime concern so we look forward to hearing about the birth of a healthy bouncing baby sometime in the future.

Maybe try and take the PM in the spirit in which I believe it was intended - concern as a medical practitioner for your unborn child, though admittedly a very harsh tone. I work in an international environment and the cultural differences are enormous, though seemingly slight on the surface. The tone of voice and how people speak is enough to put backs up though no offense was intended. I've just noticed that you're in France too so you're obviously surrounded by cultural differences too, so sorry if I'm stating the obvious!

Anyway, enjoy your chocolate and I wish a very healthy rest of pregnancy. Take care of yourself and the baby :l x

[angellina]

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Hi goingsobermum,

With my first pregnancy I still smoked until 10 weeks - I couldn't give up at first. I drank - but the hormones made me sick if I took more than one glass wine or 1/2 pint cider, so luckily for me my body said no after a small amount. - ie. vomitting etc after small drink.

I did drink on and off though and my girl is top of her class, she is healthy 12 year old, she was 4.5kg at birth and while still big for her age she is sporty too.
So don't worry.

I managed to cut down on drink with the next two pregnancies but still did have 2-3 units per week (2-3 ordinary size glasses of wine). They too have been born healthy, they are clever and able.

I am a nurse, midwife and community health visitor (advising families on how to care for their babies and children and themselves). I always believed in listening and discussing - the old methods of preaching AT people seldom worked and would usually end up with the client/patient complaining about the advice to the manager or other staff !!!!

I only saw one baby born with fetal alcohol syndrome and that was to a mother who basically drank the eqivalent of 2-3 litres of whisky and loads of extra-strong beer too (in cans) a day thoughout her pregnancy and even an hour or two after delivery her 'friend' smuggled in extra strong beer in cans for her - which was confiscated because it was a hospital. She discharged herself from the hospital and left the baby in the special care baby unit. Alcohol was too much of a temptation for her and she needed it more than she needed the baby.

You are different than that, you know you are.You are here and you would not be if you didn't care.

MY MESSAGE IS: DON'T WORRY. :l

You are doing well. If you cry it is worse for baby than small drinks of alcohol.
smile please?

Best wishes and lots of Love (I always thought LOL meant Lots Of Love until I came on this forum !! Doh !!!) uch: :duh:

Love, Angellina -x-

[julie001]

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Ditto to what everyone has said. We are here to support you and encourage you as you fight this battle against alcohol. Stay motivated for yourself and for your baby. And keep logging on for support and understanding.

Julie

[J-man]

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GSM-

You are clearly headed in the right direction and sounds like you have tons of support here as well. My only advice to you, is that the "blog" world can be less friendly than the like-minded group here on MWO. You actually have quite a bit of personal info out there (and I'm sure your purpose is educational and supportive to those in similar situations, which I applaud). If I were you, I'd really think about what you put there versus here. I would hate for you to attract more "unfriendlies" who maybe even know you in real life and assert themselves in more aggressiveand negative ways than an PM could ever do. Just my thoughts. Overall - keep focusing on your improvement and I wish you the best!!

[aliame]

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Nothing new to add except well done in how far you have come and good luck for the future. The pregnancy is the easy bit!!!

[ScoobyDoo]

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Goingsobermom, I am so sorry you've had this nasty PM. I just want to let you know that you are not alone. I struggled with alcohol through both of my pregnancies, on and off throughout, so I can relate completely! I'm similar to Ripley (had to laugh at her *Shock horror*). Take it with a grain of salt.

I just want to lend you my support... you are not alone!

Scoob

[lushy]

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If I could just chime in my two cents not neccesarily related to the topic at hand, I think PMs should remain private. If you would like to surmise the idea behind a PM or even post the whole PM is one thing but to "out" a member by giving their name who I think had good intentions just does not sit well with me. Was the PM unsolicited? Yes. Was it mean-spirited? I did not think so at all. They just want the best for your baby, as I am certain you do. When you put your story out into a large community like this you are bound to get all sorts of opinions on it.

If I felt that any of my PMs were in jeopardy of being rebroadcast here for everyone to read when I meant them to be private I would be horrified.

Bottom line is we all want for you and your baby to be healthy.

[goingsobermum]

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Thank you all again, I am feeling much much better and ready to put all this behind me. I've read all your comments and taken what you said onboard thanks.
Suz

[lushy]

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I was not going to post this for fear of starting up a controversy but I feel I must get this out because I think there are certain rules we should abide by on this forum.....

This is not related to the topic at hand, but I think PMs should remain private. If you would like to summarize the idea behind a PM or even post the whole PM is one thing but to "out" a member by giving their name who I think had good intentions just does not sit well with me. Was the PM unsolicited? Perhaps, although posting here about your issue was undoubtedly going to get responses from people. Was it mean-spirited? I did not think so at all. They just want the best for your baby, as I am certain you do. When you put your story out into a large community like this you are bound to get all sorts of opinions on it and sometimes we have to hear what we might not want to.

If I felt that any of my PMs were in jeopardy of being rebroadcast here for everyone to read when I meant them to be private I would be horrified. Sometimes I find it more respectful to voice opinions directly and privately to members than post something here that might blow things out of proportion.

Bottom line is we ALL want for you and your baby to be healthy. I hope you know that.