Army thread Thursday 13 March

[satz123]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

SiC;1637454 wrote: I'm ok considering Satz, my day yesterday got worse, my fiance's been really depressed for a while, basically he disappeared from all contact for 3 hours last night after saying something about how other peoples lives were more important than his. so I was up late panicking just thinking the absolute worst, he was ok in the end (he'd passed out drunk at his desk, so not exactly great) he's alot better today but really shook me up, being 2 hours from home and everything I didn't know what to do. Really just pushing through til after my presentation/exam tomorrow so i can go home and be with him

Inchy - you need to just concentrate on YOU.
Don't hold yourself responsible for others lives..... even the wife.
You can't fix his 'stuff' and to be honest he needs to stop expecting you to sort out his problems ? - 'specially when you have your own shit going on.
Sorry :l

[SiC]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

to be honest satz i've told him the same thing you told me, several times. I'm there for him as much as I can be, but he doesn't seem to reciprocate on that front.

[satz123]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

SiC;1637465 wrote: to be honest satz i've told him the same thing you told me, several times. I'm there for him as much as I can be, but he doesn't seem to reciprocate on that front.

I don't know the personalities involved Inchy but going on what you've said so far ....
T'is kinds emotional blackmail - a bit of attention seeking?
- just stay strong and get through your presentation. He'll still be there when it's over.

My daughter used to drag me down into her problems - that I couldn't do anything but advise on - and I've told her that. "Don't tell me 'stuff' UNLESS I can do something about it" and I'll do the same for her !
All on a 'need to know only if I can help' basis now.

I used to have sleepless nights after one of her 'phone calls - she would swan off then & sleep like a log - 'cos really it was not the big drama she made it out to be....
My feeling is he will feel the same once sobered up ?

[SiC]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

it's not an attention seeking thing, he has been really depressed and is on meds now (part of the worry was last time he tried meds they made him behave very erratically, I know he wouldn't do anything in his right mind). his family life lately has not been great and he doesn't know how to cope with anything like that (very sheltered upbringing) The way he's the only one i can talk to, I'm that for him. It's selfishness really, when he's got troubles, he can't see past his own problems to how other folks might feel - I always say to him to talk to me if it helps, unfortunately it means I can't talk to him any more

[anon]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

satz123;1637472 wrote: I don't know the personalities involved Inchy but going on what you've said so far ....
T'is kinds emotional blackmail - a bit of attention seeking?
- just stay strong and get through your presentation. He'll still be there when it's over.

My daughter used to drag me down into her problems - that I couldn't do anything but advise on - and I've told her that. "Don't tell me 'stuff' UNLESS I can do something about it" and I'll do the same for her !
All on a 'need to know only if I can help' basis now.

I used to have sleepless nights after one of her 'phone calls - she would swan off then & sleep like a log - 'cos really it was not the big drama she made it out to be....
My feeling is he will feel the same once sobered up ?

Brilliant advice Satz. Inchy it is so important that you look after yourself and you be the number 1 priority. A lesson I learned very late in my journey but not too late

[anon]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

SiC;1637476 wrote: it's not an attention seeking thing, he has been really depressed and is on meds now (part of the worry was last time he tried meds they made him behave very erratically, I know he wouldn't do anything in his right mind). his family life lately has not been great and he doesn't know how to cope with anything like that (very sheltered upbringing) The way he's the only one i can talk to, I'm that for him. It's selfishness really, when he's got troubles, he can't see past his own problems to how other folks might feel - I always say to him to talk to me if it helps, unfortunately it means I can't talk to him any more

xpost Inchy:l:l

[anon]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

mollyka;1637365 wrote: BBC Believes You Only Read 6 of These Books... - How many have you read?

Anyone with time on their hands --- wanna have a go at this??

69!

[satz123]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

anon;1637481 wrote: 69!

:shocked: Ms A - hope we are still talking about books !

[DreamThinkDo]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

satz123;1637485 wrote: :shocked: Ms A - hope we are still talking about books !

:H:H:H:H:H

[tiptronic_ct]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

LMAO Satzy :H

[tiptronic_ct]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

Hiya Dreamy

Mrs. T, mum, MIL, the cubs and a friend of mum's are all off to see Kanna hy ko' hystoe at the Spier amphitheater. A good friend of Mrs. T's is one of the actors.

[tiptronic_ct]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

And tomorrow night we're going to listen to Laurika Rauch - same venue.

[tiptronic_ct]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

Part of the Woordfees.

(Festival of the Word - a cultural shindig that celebrates all things Afrikaans).

[tiptronic_ct]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

Ha!

At this rate, we'll be up to 7 or 8 pages in no time

[DreamThinkDo]

Army thread Thursday 13 March

Tips, and why are you not doing the Kanna thing?