Army Thread Sunday 30th March

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

JackieClaire;1643233 wrote: Not a thing................got a lovely card from the luvverly Jenz with the most beautiful message........oh bugger it I'm going to share it.

To Mum,
Thank you for being a true strength and inspiration to me. Without learning from you I don't think I'd be where I am now. Thank you for for being so supportive in of everything I do and always looking out for me. Love you.

Well you can imagine the tears and the lump in me throat.

:upset: That is so lovely !:h

[sweetpea29]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

JackieClaire;1643233 wrote: Not a thing................got a lovely card from the luvverly Jenz with the most beautiful message........oh bugger it I'm going to share it.

To Mum,
Thank you for being a true strength and inspiration to me. Without learning from you I don't think I'd be where I am now. Thank you for for being so supportive in of everything I do and always looking out for me. Love you.

Well you can imagine the tears and the lump in me throat.
Ah Jacks- have the tears and lump in me throat here! That is soooo lovely:l

satz123;1643232 wrote: Had this on the Shout Out Thread -but safer over here !
Don't judge me please -just meanderings of a mother.......of a Sunday
Discuss !!
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Sweetie
Probably no such thing as a wee drop of wine for us
-though I will make an admission here - I still harbour thoughts - that maybe some day I will test the waters ........when I'm 90. Back to day 1 on my 90th :H
These are MY thoughts and I will deal with them ...... not encouraging anyone.
Kinda like when my SIL gave up the cigs - to soothe herself - she said she'd go back on them aged 60.
She was only in her early thirties and thought at 60 -she'd be almost dead anyway :H

She is 57 this year and still hail & harty and mad as a brush :H

You're 100% there Satz- no such thing as a wee drop. Know this deep-down and thankfully didn't really take heed of my notion! Funny how it keeps cropping up every once in a while though! When I really do think about it and be honest with myself that wee drop of wine is not truely what I want or need, but my brain sometimes tries tricking me into thinking it is what I need. Does that make sense?! Can't imagine how crap I'd be feeling today if I had of got some. One thing though- if I had of I don't think would have the guts or nerve to come here.

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

JackieClaire;1643186 wrote: :H:H She will keeeeeeeeeeeelll you, Tips.

Now where's Tipps ????

[sweetpea29]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

satz123;1643241 wrote: Now where's Tipps ????

:H In the bog!!

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

satz123;1643241 wrote: Now where's Tipps ????

:H:H:H

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

Totally Sweetie get ye- :l
I'm like why can't I be like everyone else ?
I know Mr S says that to himself too - when I get fed up in pub & want to go home.
Why can't she be like me and everyone else & just have a few at weekends etc.
Why doesn't she have a glass of wine with dinner when we are out - why does she have to be different.

He has lost his partner in crime - his drinking buddy

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

It was lovely wasn't it. I wonder where we'd be if I was still drinking................ach but I'm not so that's the important thing.

[DreamThinkDo]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

I love camping in a tent, JC, but am claustrophobic in a caravan. But then I've a five-man tent, so it probably has more open floor space than a caravan. I've a book called How to shit in the woods, and it's not a joke - do you want to borrow it? What a beautiful message from the luvverly J. Cherish it.

Satz, the Undies did a juicer review some time ago - maybe ask there too. My granny gave up the ciggies on her 80th - and died at 94. You know, those first few months, I kept "promising" myself that I could have something at some predetermined point. FFS, like champagne after 30 days. In a strange way, it helped me to cope, because there was some type of carrot waiting for me, and then when I got there, I discovered that I didn't want it. So, yes, I sometimes play that game, and it actually reinforces the fact that I don't want it.

Sweetiepeapie, so glad you spared us the manky toe details! Can you hop skip and jump again? Thought you were at your dad's today?

Well-lit Rusty, ta for the compliment? Is it really funny, because I sound so boring when I reread what I've said?

This feels like a NN post - acknowledging everybody's posts

Ok with you if I have a nana nap now?

[satz123]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

JackieClaire;1643252 wrote: It was lovely wasn't it. I wonder where we'd be if I was still drinking................ach but I'm not so that's the important thing.

Did she feel you supported her when you were drinking JC ..... ???
or you were kinda absent ?

[DreamThinkDo]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

Satz, what I really don't get, is that people who live with an ex-drunk - seen that person at their worst - still don't get it that we cannot stop at a glass. Do they really want that person to go back to where they were - just for the sake of a drinking buddy, or because they're ashamed to to admit that their spouse is/was an alkie?

JC, as you said - it doesn't really matter what we were, but what we are now.

[spiderwoman]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

Good morning & afternoon one and all, said so earlier but it didn't appear (again)

I do keep dropping in but my posts mostly don't show :upset:

[sweetpea29]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

satz123;1643251 wrote: Totally Sweetie get ye- :l
I'm like why can't I be like everyone else ?
I know Mr S says that to himself too - when I get fed up in pub & want to go home.
Why can't she be like me and everyone else & just have a few at weekends etc.
Why doesn't she have a glass of wine with dinner when we are out - why does she have to be different.

He has lost his partner in crime - his drinking buddy
For a long time I tried to justify my drinking by comparing it to others in my circle who also drank. When I was honest with myself- their drinking was no where near as destructive as my own. Have had to accept that I can't and wont ever be like anyone else in that regard. That's ok though- I think!

Does MrS know how you truly feel about drink? i.e. that you felt there was a problem? Sorry if that's being nosey xx

JackieClaire;1643252 wrote: It was lovely wasn't it. I wonder where we'd be if I was still drinking................ach but I'm not so that's the important thing.

You're spot-on there Jacks:l Important thing is, now you're not drinking. Would hazard a guess if ye were still drinking the relationship with your Jenz wouldn't be so good.

DreamThinkDo;1643254 wrote: I love camping in a tent, JC, but am claustrophobic in a caravan. But then I've a five-man tent, so it probably has more open floor space than a caravan. I've a book called How to shit in the woods, and it's not a joke - do you want to borrow it? What a beautiful message from the luvverly J. Cherish it.

Satz, the Undies did a juicer review some time ago - maybe ask there too. My granny gave up the ciggies on her 80th - and died at 94. You know, those first few months, I kept "promising" myself that I could have something at some predetermined point. FFS, like champagne after 30 days. In a strange way, it helped me to cope, because there was some type of carrot waiting for me, and then when I got there, I discovered that I didn't want it. So, yes, I sometimes play that game, and it actually reinforces the fact that I don't want it.

Sweetiepeapie, so glad you spared us the manky toe details! Can you hop skip and jump again? Thought you were at your dad's today?

Well-lit Rusty, ta for the compliment? Is it really funny, because I sound so boring when I reread what I've said?

This feels like a NN post - acknowledging everybody's posts

Ok with you if I have a nana nap now?

Hi Dreamy No hopping, skipping or jumping yet am afraid- got a big dressing on the appendage and gotta take it easy for a bit! Did go down to Dad's yesterday but he had forgot to tell me that he was going to Dublin for the evening plus his heating's on the blink so I went visiting then came back to my abode. Heading back down again today though and will prob stay then.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

satz123;1643256 wrote: Did she feel you supported her when you were drinking JC ..... ???
or you were kinda absent ?
You know I don't know.................I'll ask her. Must have been though.

DreamThinkDo;1643257 wrote: Satz, what I really don't get, is that people who live with an ex-drunk - seen that person at their worst - still don't get it that we cannot stop at a glass. Do they really want that person to go back to where they were - just for the sake of a drinking buddy, or because they're ashamed to to admit that their spouse is/was an alkie?

JC, as you said - it doesn't really matter what we were, but what we are now.

Puzzles me too, Dreamy. Mr JC really missed his drinking buddy but at the end of the day he's rather have me this side of the turf than 6 feet under it.

And Satz, I know that you weren't drinking the ridiculous amounts I was but there's no doubt alcoholism is progressive. There would have come a day when that one bottle of wine just wouldn't have cut it.

[sweetpea29]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

spiderwoman;1643261 wrote: Good morning & afternoon one and all, said so earlier but it didn't appear (again)

I do keep dropping in but my posts mostly don't show :upset:

Hiya Sylv :hiya:

Good to see ye stranger How's life treating you?

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Sunday 30th March

:wavin: to Spidy.

Ahh Dreamy, the caravan has 3 bedrooms, a living room, a bath room and a kit hen..............not claustrophobic at all.