One Step at a Time - April 2014

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

p.s. Sorry for not mentioning before. I'm a bit private. I'll learn to use the support system one of those days! OK... goodnight and luv yiz...

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Zenstyle;1655302 wrote: p.s. Sorry for not mentioning before. I'm a bit private. I'll learn to use the support system one of those days! OK... goodnight and luv yiz...

Hey sweetie - The Steppers love you. We are here for you!! So, use the Support System via MWO Stepper Thread, MWO PM, E-mail, Text, Phone Call. :l:h

(I tried to put them in the least stressful order )

Love you :l

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Zennie, stick to your guns. This relationship sounds bogus. :l

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Mama... don't be PO'd with me. (She called yesterday morning and I didn't say anything.) I know you check in before work so you'll see the posts... and I want to say I'm an absolute eejit for not saying anything. Maybe you'll have time to talk tomorrow? Love you GF... XXX

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

fennel;1655314 wrote: Zennie, stick to your guns. This relationship sounds bogus. :l

He has issues Fenny... lots of them. Too many for moi. I can be there for him as a friend but I can't bear the brunt of it any longer. It's a bit out of my league... and THAT is saying something! Gawd... :nutso:

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

NoraC;1655305 wrote: Hey sweetie - The Steppers love you. We are here for you!! So, use the Support System via MWO Stepper Thread, MWO PM, E-mail, Text, Phone Call. :l:h

(I tried to put them in the least stressful order )

Love you :l

You're really thoughtful hon... :l

I'm going to send you a message in Morse... I think I can manage that!!! :H

Love you... X

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Not mad at all Zenny. I as rushing to get off the phone since I was driving.
I am sad for you, but you know what's best and you have been unhappy for a long time. Plus, you put a lot of work into your issues and I would hate to see him derail you.
Call me today if you can.
Into the shower and outta here
You guys are my rocks and my Besties.

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Morning, my peeps!

I have my usual M, W, F lady today...then, taking my mom to pulmonary rehab.

I hope you all have a good day.

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

How are things today, Zen?

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Hey all,aww Zen,i hope it all turns out o.k you gotta do what you gotta do,nobody wants to babysit a grown up ya know?all o.k here,you guys metioned turmeric earlier,i've been reading up on it,has a lot of goo properties i guess,have a good 'un

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

*good not goo

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Hi all,
Off to the gym. Only going to do as much as I feel like. Our trainer fellow is young and overly excited so he wants us to push...well I will push a little. I am feeling better so dont want to take 3 steps backward...pace myself.
Back later.

[Zenstyle]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

fennel;1655504 wrote: How are things today, Zen?

All is calm. He's in a room in the back of the house and I don't need to see him before he leaves for work. He's been staying out of my hair this week and will be out again tonight. But he's acting like nothing's changed. He doesn't seem to get it that I really HAVE had a belly-full of his issues and drunken tantrums.

He blames his inability to have a good relationship with a woman on his mother and father. His previous relationships were failures and this present one with me is as good as it's got (and it sucks!). His father (the Colonel) was oppressive and, according to Bill, physically and mentally abusive towards him and his three siblings. His mother wasn't very "motherly", she was a party girl. These are the issues we've been hashing out for almost two years. I've been dealing with the drunken tantrums alone... as he claims to remember little to nothing of them the next day. And he's been to therapy... and group counseling... just got a new therapist.

I feel very sorry for him having an effed up childhood but at 55 years old I think it's time he processed it and moved on. Enough already.

As far as I'm concerned, at this point I have to disconnect and keep it that way. I'm struggling a bit with that but it'll get easier with time.

I bet you wish you hadn't asked Fenny!!!

Pauly... you hit the nail on the head... "who wants to babysit a grown up". That's exactly how it feels... like I have a child... and I've told him that many a time. You can get Turmeric in capsule form by the way (it may be called Curcumin).

Mama... I saw the carnage in your closet as I whizzed past Facebook... :egad: (Her shelves fell off the wall).

Good luck at the gym Dotts, I'm going there later.

It's helping me to get things in perspective, explaining the situation to you guys. I was feeling overwhelmed with all the drama but now it's starting to feel more like "enough is enough".

Edit: I was unloading the dishwasher and thinking. It's not just a question of dealing with his issues over his childhood and his inability to get over them... that's over-simplifying the situation. It's the issues that arise from these issues that are the real problem. He has some very strange behavioral patterns that come out when he's sober as well as drunk... and these weird behaviors freak me out. That's the worst part of it for me... that and the drunken tantrums.

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

Zenny - we givers and feel sorry types always drag it on longer than we should...speaking from LOTS of past and present experience!!
Can you believe that mess in my closet???? Jeez.....
please recap what minerals I am to be taking and where I am to buy them??
Tumeric, Coconut Oil....something else??
back to work

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - April 2014

enjoy the jim Dots!!