Just venting i'm afraid ....

[Guest]

Just venting i'm afraid ....

Oh Betty, this is a tough one dear, Is your husband home with you girls so, the Ex knows that there is a male present? Be so careful dear and your friend should insist that her new boyfriend come to her aid rather than giving instructions via telephone. You are a very good friend. We had something similar when my daughter left her 1st husband, the police came by on the hour and checked out the house for 24 hours. Is that a possibility for you?
Please be careful
Mar

[Guest]

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Ok I see that husband is there. that is good; She really needs to move along. you have enough to deal with your family. Betty he isn't the type to hold you responsibile for her actions is he? It sounds as if she needs to fess up on some of thoses allibis she gave for him and maybe get him arrested until an investigation can be done. Take care
Mar

[betty boop]

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Accountable, unfortunately this friend has a wife .... apparently they live separate lives ............ I'm sure that you all can guess my opinion on that ........ but she is taking his advice rather than ours when we are the ones here for her ............

Yes Mar I am scared for us, he is most definitely a loose cannon ......

Mum and dad tell me to back away but I can't leave her and her daughter vulnerable ....... apparently he has even cut brake cables in the past ... she is very scared .......

Personally I think that she should have let him have the car .... but i'm a wimp ......

Betts xxx

[Guest]

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Yes Betty, tell her to give him the Damn car! Is it really worth all this trouble and stress for a car? Perhaps your husband could get her to listen to reason.
Mar

[Ripley]

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betts the police need to help you more. there will be a domestic violence unit that can help your friend. this isn;t the 19th century anymore. she, not you, need to call them right now and tell them that she is terrified and needs protection. I can't belive they only cautioned him. doesn't he have a record?

call the police again NOW, ask to speak to the domestic violence unit, tell them what you have told us, say you fear for your safety for your childrens safety.

k x

[hablur]

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Betty,

I really feel for your situation but I cant really understand your position helping this gal. I think it is wonderful that you do but quite frankly you have a father that needs you, your own family that needs you (do you really want your husband to get into a physical confrontation with this guy?) and an uncle that is in trouble.

I think you said her new boyfriend is married but he and his spouse have it cut off? Your friend needs to contact a womens shelter and leave you out of it.

I apologise if i am comming off as mean but I really think you have enough on your plate and the people that need you the most are your family... they dont need you to get into the middle of trouble during impending tough times.

[Accountable for Me]

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I agree - there has to be something the police can do. When there are children involved they usually don't hesitate to rectify the situation. I know here in Canada the police will send in Victim Services no matter what time of day when children are present. You shouldn't be living in fear. I know you want to help your friend, but does she really want to help herself? We care about you - you are a part of this family.

She has to step up to the plate and deal with this immediately. No more 'phony' alibis no more backing down to him. If she wants any type of life without this chaos she needs to deal with it. You are being a good friend by encouraging her to overcome her fears for the sake of everyone involved.

[Accountable for Me]

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oh... and I am not trying to be mean either. So please don't read anything more than a 'caring' tone in my message.

[betty boop]

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Kate, he hasn't threatened me personally so I can't phone the police ...

Hablur, I really do appreciate you honesty, I like that very much from you .... I have told her that as of now I cant be there and neither can my hubby as as we need to be there for my dad and my uncle ...........

Thanks so much everybody, sorry to burden you when you all have your own problems .......

Betts xx

[betty boop]

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Accountable. we were posting together ..........

Thanks, I've stepped back tonight as I need to be there for my dad ........ he is my priority now ...

Thanks again, love you all, Betts xxx

[hablur]

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Betty,

You are no burden to any of us. We are here for each other in good times and bad (LOL... that just started to sound like my marriage vows), so no worries. We are hopeful that your dad and uncle are going to be alright. When I say my prayers tonight you and your family will definately be in them.

[Accountable for Me]

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Sending prayers your way for your dad & uncle. Try to get some rest.

[betty boop]

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Hablur, thanks, you made me smile for the first time today, so thanks, I owe you one .......

[kali]

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Betty,

Best of luck tomorrow with your dad!

Kali

[Kitty]

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Dearest Betty,

You are always such a wonderfully caring person, and whilst I have been on this forum your messages to people have been so kind.

I can't add more than the advise the others have said, I just send you my love.

Please take care of yourself and your family, I'm in the UK and I know there is help out there for women in need. I'm not a fan a violence but my fiancee is built like brick s**t house and if he could he'd knock this guy into next week!!!

Get your friend to log everything that nutter does, she can even buy a cheap video camera to record all his stupid antics. Get her to pester the police like crazy until they take action.

Take care Mrs. Boop.

Kitty