Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?
Hi, Gardener
This is just my opinion and experience but I think that if an online forum is going to be your main tool and support system, you've got to really use it.
Post at least once a day, every day, and preferably more often. Tell people what is hard for you and get help. Present your plan and get feedback from people who have been there and done that and can recognize the escapes you are leaving for yourself...Help other people! By writing to them, you are making those words your truth. For weeks I typed what I knew they (and I!) should do. After awhile, I realized I was really doing it! It isn't that I was lying -- people do need to get rid of the alcohol in their house, have a plan for the witching hour, etc. But it took time before I myself had managed to actually commit to doing that long list of necessary things. Encouraging others with specific examples helped get me there.
Anyway, I'd just encourage you and anyone else who is getting tired of the repeated cycle to make a change --- commit yourself to actively participating in your and others' recovery here. Or, add another element such as face to face meetings to your program. Some variable needs to change if you want a different outcome.
Let me know if there is ever anything I could do to help you. :h NS
Gardener;1657623 wrote: What was I thinking??? Made it all the way to the weekend, then caved. Just one I told myself, yeah right - one bottle of wine Friday, then two Saturday. On Sunday I drank all that I could - so sick of this.
Day 1, May 5, 2014, need all the help I can get guys, I'm going to give it another try. Stick with it everybody, proud of all of you racking up the days!
Day 1, May 5, 2014, need all the help I can get guys, I'm going to give it another try. Stick with it everybody, proud of all of you racking up the days!
This is just my opinion and experience but I think that if an online forum is going to be your main tool and support system, you've got to really use it.
Post at least once a day, every day, and preferably more often. Tell people what is hard for you and get help. Present your plan and get feedback from people who have been there and done that and can recognize the escapes you are leaving for yourself...Help other people! By writing to them, you are making those words your truth. For weeks I typed what I knew they (and I!) should do. After awhile, I realized I was really doing it! It isn't that I was lying -- people do need to get rid of the alcohol in their house, have a plan for the witching hour, etc. But it took time before I myself had managed to actually commit to doing that long list of necessary things. Encouraging others with specific examples helped get me there.
Anyway, I'd just encourage you and anyone else who is getting tired of the repeated cycle to make a change --- commit yourself to actively participating in your and others' recovery here. Or, add another element such as face to face meetings to your program. Some variable needs to change if you want a different outcome.
Let me know if there is ever anything I could do to help you. :h NS
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