Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Welcome Riv. How are you? Is this day 3? Stick with it and have a plan to stop drinking. You've done it before so you know you can do it, you just have to make it your priority.

Sounds like you're not happy with the way things are now. You can change it. Nobody else can, just you. So ask yourself what do you want to do.....stay unhappy and in a hole or dig yourself out and start living the life you want. Don't make it harder than it is. What if it were a friend of yours saying to you what you posted here? What advice would you give? What would you tell him/her to do to change things in their life?

Keep reading and posting. There are a lot of people here who know what you're going through and can help, but you have to be the driving force....

Don

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Lizann, how many days is it? I know you're counting....:l

[Lizann]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

18 days. Sadly I had a glass of wine yesterday (ok it was two). Back on day one. Feeling anxious today for sure. Need to make sure I don't drink today and fall back into bad habits. I'm pretty upset with myself.

[SoberSoul]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Hi Everyone, Thanks Don, Ginger and Lizann for keeping the thread alive... it brought our new friend Riv in. Welcome Riv.. there are some threads dedicated to medication.. many of us don't know much about it. We are, like you, on our umpteenth attempt quit and we are all having varying degrees of success. What our theme around here is "don't give up or go away even if you fail at first" so please stay here and report your progress. We have all been on countless day one's too.

I spent the weekend at the lake and was flirting with the bottle of dry red on the kitchen counter but we never even kissed. Watching the effects of it on Saturday night on my beloved DIL was enough to reassure me I wasn't missing anything. I enjoyed all the beach activities and managed to pickle a few jars of beets, go swimming, bouncing on the trampoline and raspberry picking with the 3 year old, enjoyed a bonfire, made a broccoli salad using some home grown herbs, put together a blueberry cheese cake and buckwheat waffles and let's see what else... hey guys ... my point is LIFE IS FRIGGIN' PRODUCTIVE AND WONDERFUL SOBER!! LOVING IT.

Keep checking in everyone and keep trying .. who cares how many quits you need .. one day we'll all be sober. I'm not going anywhere...

[Ginger999]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Welcome back SS! I'm away right now until Friday but have 4g so checking in when I can. Mostly just reading....

Lizann, sorry about the set back but that's all it is. You had 18 days and had a slip. Brush yourself off and get back on that horse! We've all been there, done that but it's the determination to finally quit that will get the job done. You can do it.... If the temptation happens again, come here first and just say HELP! Or read some first. You might just find yourself deciding to stay away from AL knowing we are all here pulling for you.

Night all.... I have a 5:52am tee time and I need to be rested so I can play that early in the morning!

[Lizann]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Wow, ginger thanks! I am not feeling I can not commit to this, as much as I really want too! Exactly what I needed to hear. I'm going to do this today. I need to get a few days under my belt. The first few are always the hardest.
SS, I find keeping busy is important. I have the day off and have some projects lined up.
Thank you for your support, I need to get back on that wagon!

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Hi All,

Good job not caving to the temptation, SS! We all have those irrational thoughts that we could have a drink or two and enjoy it. Even when we fall off the wagon and step into the ring with The Beast, we have that drink or 2 or 10 and we TRUELY don't enjoy it. We end up mad at ourselves, feeling guilty, confused, beaten down, etc,... right Liz? The answer is to remember these feelings the next time temptation sets in.....take a few minutes to take back the control of your thoughts and think through the process of what is going to happen when you take that first drink. How will you feel, really, not how your Beast brain is telling you how you will feel. There's a big difference......reality vs. fiction. We are all fed up with drinking and truly want to stop, that's why we're here. When I have these irrational thoughts I make myself remember how I felt when I was drinking.....miserable, then I ask myself if that's what I want to go back to.

One of the problems we have also is coming back here if we do fall off the wagon. We feel guilty and don't want to admit our failure to the people we have become close to....we don't want to let them down. And then The Beast realizes this is the perfect storm and tries to get us to just have another drink and we'll worry about "those people" tomorrow.....right? Well, it doesn't work that way. "Those people" have come to care about you and know what your going through and they worry and feel for you because we've been there. It's a complicated relationship we all have between us all and all of "our Beasts".

We're all in this together.....the good, the bad, and the ugly!

Liz....climb back on the wagon. Those of us up here are holding our hands out for you to grab and we'll pull you up.....:h:l

And that goes for anyone else who wants to stop the madness.

Don

[SoberSoul]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Well said Don! I am glad we are all coming back here regardless of whether we have good news or bad news to report. Tolerance for each other's weakness is all that we ask of each other. We are all headed in the same direction. We will all get there; none of us at the same time or after the same amount of tries, but, inevitably, if we stick around here, we will get there. None of us will be here in five years (at least none of us will still be drinking).. we are all slow learners; but none of us is that backwards... we will conquer this as a team.

[Orimus]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Not sure how long it has been since I posted. Did want to check in however. Still up and down on my end, bad night Friday. Still standing though, still faking it until I make it. Very early Sunday morning had the thought that my drinking has gotten worse since about February as that was when I started focusing on going from 3-4 drinks or so to 0 - and I have gotten myself caught in the mindset that it is something that I want. However wanting comes from a place of lack and when we focus on what we lack we get further and further away. The other thought was that since I had move to NJ three years ago I haven't really let myself become a part of the community. Made me feel kind of peaceful anyway even if it didn't let me sleep. That and the Eagles kept playing in my head.

[Lizann]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Thanks chief, climbing back on!

[Lizann]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

I promise to be accountable to you all here! Thanks for your support. It really helps!

[Pyes]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

I've been trying for awhile now to. So count me in, I need all the help I can get. My daughter said to me yesterday why do you drink mum no one likes it when you do! I'm so broken hearted. I can't even express my feelings :upset:

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Hi Orimus! I was thinking about you yesterday, wondering what was happening in your world. Glad you checked in. Sounds like you've been doing some thinking about drinking. That's good......we all have to sort this shit out in our own way in order to make quitting a priority. No one can make us want to stop drinking. For me, it got to the point that drinking was harder and more work than quitting. I know that sounds crazy, but I think about how much time and effort I had to put into drinking.... hiding how much I really drank, getting rid of the empties, going to different stores everyday because I was ashamed of how much I was buying, trying to act not buzzed or not hungover, trying to cover up my red eyes with visine....my life revolved around drinking, even though I was "functional". It sucked.

I feel so much better now. I'm a different person.

Pyes, welcome to our group! Keep reading and posting and let us help you if that's what you want. Good people here who know what you're going through and can provide a lot of support and feedback. Just pick the day you want to change your life and get up and do it. Make not drinking your number one goal just for that day, and do it, no matter what happens....NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS. Tell yourself that nothing or no one can make you drink. You are totally responsible for what you put in your mouth. Do it for that day. Then proudly come on here and tell us you are done with Day 1. Then get up and do it again. We are here for you but we can't do it for you. You can do it. If I can do it, you can do it.

Liz....glad you're here. It's a pretty good ride once you have a reserved seat up here on the wagon.....

Don

[brookthedog1]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

I joined the site on Sunday. At the moment I am finding it difficult to navigate and hope someone out there can help me.

Last night was the first time without alcohol in at least two years. I bought some alcohol free wine (yuk) but at least it gave my left hand something to do whilst I ate!

My real problem (other than my husband has just left me over it) is I never get a headache or hangover. I joined BodyCombat classes (which I love) to try and stop drinking. Unfortunately it didn't work as now I keep my weight down low and still drink.

Today is day two and it still early but I am trying. Thanks for letting me be part of a group I so identify with.

[Pyes]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Thanks chief I'm back nearly day two under my belt