Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Congrats on 100 days, Ginger!!! Have a good time on your trip and enjoy your AFness and think about us often.

Liz, stay strong and don't let the Beast have his way with you. The real you doesn't want to drink. You would feel bad after you took that first drink. Show your husband you are there for him. He would feel bad if he thought his situation "made" you drink. Think about it. It's not about you....

Hi Nora and SS! Good to see you!

[It's My Time]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Lizann and others,
I don't know how much I have to say about staying strong right now, since I'm just in the first couple of weeks of the latest of my various quits, so I'll refrain from that. BUT, one thing about my background that resonates just a bit is when my hubs was laid off in his 50s after a successful career. This was some time ago, but it was the beginning of the realization that we needed to do something different with our lives, and with drink (him somewhat, but particularly in my case). But it was extremely scary and uncertain and full of emotion. And looking back, I realize that turning to drinking was second-nature at the time but it did NOT help.

It all turned out really well though, eventually. For him, it was a boot into a new but related career, and for me, it was a lot of soul-searching and the beginning of the AF journey I am on now. So I agree with others who suggest that this ending could be the beginning to something good that is yet unknown. If you visualize yourself looking back after you've gone through the transition, you know what you would like to see. I'm sure things will be alright in time, probably in ways you never imagined!

[Lizann]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

It's my time. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I know you are right. We worked for hours last night. Hubby is at recycling right now with what we cleaned out. We will go back later this afternoon. We then need to clean out some room in the garage to move his stuff here. The kids came and helped last night! I'm going to run in a bit.m hopefully it will stay sunny and I can lounge in the pool for an hour or so.
I appreciate all the kind words and encouragement. Still al free! So far so good.

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Good job, Lizann...

[Ginger999]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Morning Umpteethers! We are just getting back on the road after a great but sad family reunion. We got a call just as we got there that my hubs younger brother had passed away. It made for a very somber reunion for my hub's family. His brother had lived away from the family out in the South Pacific for over 20 years only coming home twice in all those years. It was good the other six sibs were all together to process this terrible news. The AL flowed but I wasn't even tempted. I just kept thinking, "how does AF help?" to which the answer was, it doesn't!

My hubs wanted to continue on our journey as nothing can be done on this end until bro's ashes are sent home. So now we are off to the beach for a week. Just wanted to check in quickly to let you all know what's going on.

Hope everyone is enjoying their AFness this fine day!

[Lizann]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Good morning. Another al free weekend. We are working are fingers to the bone. I'm sore in places I didn't know I could be! More patient file shredding on the agenda today. I will tackle a bit more of the garage, which is huge, as hubby is a bit of a horder. I'm trying to be supportive, he is starting to get upset at what we are getting rid of. He wants to save his stuff. There's just no room. Goes to show everybody has something, right? Feeling melancholy through this whole process. You guys would be proud of me, I'm not drinking, I'm not complaining and I'm staying upbeat in front of the kids. It's ok if I take a few minutes alone every now and again and cry a bit.

I could not do this al free without all the support I've gotten here. Thanks so much for letting me vent and for your support!

[Ginger999]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Lizann, Good for you for staying AF. These major life changes can be real triggers and in some cases excuses to drink away our problems. I'm so glad you've gotten to that place where you know that will do no good! Hang on tight to your AFness and check in often. We will be sending plenty of AF energy your way.

[Lizann]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Did quite a bit of work in the garage. Still lots more to do. I actually now a couple of empty shelves. Shredded more patient files. Three big garbage bags full.
Went food shopping, cooked a quick dinner and did a load of laundry! I'm exhausted! Looking forward to relaxing at work tomorrow! Did get a craving this afternoon but pushed it to the back of my mind,
How's everyone else doing?

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

I'm very proud of you, Lizann.

[Orimus]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Glad to see everyone staying strong.

Discovered this weekend that I'm not ready for social gatherings where AL is on hand. Standing up, dusting off, climbing back on board and looking for the seatbelt. Guess I'm still struggling with the commitment to this AF journey. Maybe since there haven't been many consequences it hasn't fully sunk in. I'll keep faking it until it sticks though as it is far better to avoid any more than the few I've experienced.

[Orimus]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Putting together lunch and started thinking of cigars which then leads to thoughts of whiskey. Guess I'll skip the cigar

[Ginger999]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

I was taught not to HATE anybody or anything but I have to say... I hate spammers! It's all over this site.

Our trip is going great. Hiking, golfing, shopping and best of all NOT drinking!! However, I think I'm getting old because by 9p I'm ready to crawl in my RV and hit the hay. Sure is easy to get up at 6a to walk the dog though!

How are the rest of you doing? Sure is quiet around here.

[Chief]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

I must be missing something because I don't understand why spammers do what they do. What do they hope to gain? Nobody reads the bullshit they write so why do they waste all their time writing all the bullshit?

I'm doing good. I'm in our local Lions Club and we have numerous fundraisers throughout the year and this week is our counties big annual fair. We have a food concession building that we sell food from 7am to 11pm for the entire week. We make our own BBQ beef, which we are famous for. We cooked 250lbs of beef last week over a 2 day period. We also sell hot dogs, coney dogs, kraut dogs, meatball subs, sloppy joes, etc. It's a lot of work but a lot of fun and we make $4000-$5000, which we give back to the community in various projects....eyeglasses to the needy, scholarships, holiday food boxes, Easter Egg hunt for the kids, etc. I've been working the 3pm-11pm shift every night. It's been kind of rainy so attendance has been a little low but there's nothing we can do about that. Hopefully the weekend will be nice and we'll have a good turnout.

Still enjoying my AFness. Have occasional drinking thoughts but always say to The Beast...."really?....you really expect me to go back to that insane behavior and enjoy it?.....I don't think so"......lol


Don

[Orimus]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Glad to hear it Chief. Still can't see the fog light though. thought the thread was abandoned because of the spammers but .. . .

Very sad tonight. Thought it would be ok because my ex was older than me, thought it would be ok because her daughter was in her late teens when we met but it's not ok. Not ok that the girl never had a stable father figure, not ok that her mom never wanted me to be that involved. Just not ok and after nine years ( even though the last several months were a clear indication; we've been non committed) I still need to find a way to break free for good and set us both free.

That's where my alcoholism began, it's where it continues from because every day I'm stuck there. That's my mid life crisis. Almost. The life I need to let go of. I don't know my triggers since any moment can be a trigger. Always there in the back of my mind. discovered my throat chakra was choked.

Didn't think it bothered me anymore.

Fj$&# it. Don't even have the words. Just not ok. Remember a TED talk about how we all say we're ok and should stop the lies. Need to look that up.

Sounds like it was a fun night tonight Chief. Good on you. Would love to be able to try some of that beef. Bit of a meat eater. :0) Sorry to be a downer.

[Orimus]

Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

Glad to hear it Chief. Still can't see the fog light though. thought the thread was abandoned because of the spammers but .. . .

Very sad tonight. Thought it would be ok because my ex was older than me, thought it would be ok because her daughter was in her late teens when we met but it's not ok. Not ok that the girl never had a stable father figure, not ok that her mom never wanted me to be that involved. Just not ok and after nine years ( even though the last several months were a clear indication; we've been non committed) I still need to find a way to break free for good and set us both free.

That's where my alcoholism began, it's where it continues from because every day I'm stuck there. That's my mid life crisis. Almost. The life I need to let go of. I don't know my triggers since any moment can be a trigger. Always there in the back of my mind. discovered my throat chakra was choked.

Didn't think it bothered me anymore.

Fj$&# it. Don't even have the words. Just not ok. Remember a TED talk about how we all say we're ok and should stop the lies. Need to look that up.

Sounds like it was a fun night tonight Chief. Good on you. Would love to be able to try some of that beef. Bit of a meat eater. :0) Sorry to be a downer.