Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

[daisy45]

Hi guys...quick checkin before bed. My epic fall has continued on for almost 5 months now.
Tonight I watched a film 'If I Stay' and feel it held a message for me......I prayed, as I have done before....feel at peace tonight and grateful for another chance.
So many times when I have made up my mind to quit, things happen like a documentary or talk show relating to quitting drinking....I feel it is God showing me the way.
There is a beautiful world out there and I have been in hiding....
Good night everyone....day 2 tomorrow...

[BeachGirly]

HI gang.

I hope everyone had a good AF day and enjoyed the day. Us Canucks like to celebrate our country just as much as our USA friends. Lots of family time and events around town.

Thanks Cowboy for the "hug" for all of us working on these Stat holidays. They usually end up very busy, as the medical clinics are closed, so everyone (even hang nails) come to the hospital.

In fact, after working all day - I spent the next 5 hrs in the waiting room of the ER with my son. No I did not get special speed up attention, but we did get excellent care. My son was long boarding and had a nasty crash last eve. There is NO skin left on the knee. I cleaned it up and all looked fine. Until he couldnt get out of bed this am. Swollen and very sore. After tests and xrays it is determined he has a minor fracture of the tibia, and some fluid on the knee. For the next few days he is icing and advil but it doesnt clear up then back for more xrays. He got a major talking to about helmets etc. Much more effective then what I nag at him.

Seems my mom and him are in a competition now to see who can have the best injury- hahah.

Great to see you guys with one days, one weeks, one months - we are all here together. I does get much easier, really.

[BeachGirly]

Oh Cowboy - the beach picture. No, I did not do that one...but I have certianly done alot of that in my days. I LOVE the beach. It is my happy place, my calm place, my recharge place. Nothing beats the smell and the feel of the ocean breeze!!

Heres sending you some beach breeze for the evening......

[briseus]

I'm sorry...I keep missing these posts! I can't keep up! Lol!! Hello to everyone!!
And HAPPY CANADA DAY!!
Just finished watching fireworks and am wide awake, it's going to be hard going into work tomorrow. Spent most of the night trying to calm the pups down - as my one really doesn't like all the noise out there. Always important to protect your pets during the holidays.

Hope everyone is doing well! I am going to catch up on everyones posts now...just wanted to check in and say HI!
Day 17 tomorrow. Dreading work. Yuck.

[Mr Vervill]

Thanks, all
Quick check in today. Super long day at work over 14 hrs., just finished a major project. Feel like celebrating with.....
But, I'm here instead.
Pauly, it's never to late to quit a bad job. I did just that in December, I'm 59. Scary, yes. But so much better now. It did bring on a great deal of stress, some of which was handled by drinking more (NOT!). There are always alternatives. We may not see them at times, but they seem to arrive just in time, kind of like Daisy alluded to, God, or some higher power will show you the way.
Thanks Cowboy! Don't know why there are so few men here at times, they just don't know how to express themselves, IMHO.

[Ginger999]

Dang, BG! So sorry about your boy. Hopefully things heal quickly and nothing else is found.

ABC, enjoyed your post as always.

Pauly, Saw your numbers on your other thread. 81% is nothing to sneeze at girl. You are racking them up and your relapses are much shorter. It's just a matter of time until you get this quit!

Daisy, on to day 2. Stay close!

Mama, Jackie, Min, AG, Liz, Mr. V (who am I missing?) have a good night and stay close.

We have a great group here. I find myself thinking about you guys throught my day and I draw strength from knowing you are all here.

OH, we've missed you! Glad you are back in the fold. Stick around. We need you as much as you need us.

[Knitty]

I'm trying again. I have lost count how many times I have quit in the past, but it has never been for very long (longest was 4 months but mostly just a couple of weeks). I am recovering from a horrible hangover today, so I'm going to bed now. I really think I can do it this time, but I know I will need to work very hard at changing my thought processes, daily routine, everything really. I didn't drink today. I will be back tomorrow.

[ToMyHealth]

Hi - been lurking. Mostly this thread and One Day at a Time.

Daisy & Knitty, yest was a Day 1 for me too. Spent it recovering from hangover so of course it was easy not to drink. Why do we keep doing that to ourselves! Knitty, I also mostly get to 14 days & then it starts all over. Let's try just take the one day at a time approach.

Interested in what happened to Sober Soul? Anyone know? She is such a good writer. Hope all is well with her!

TMH

[abcowboy]

Howdy quitters! Back to work day, seems strange having a day off mid-week, but it does break the week up! Truck has to go in for tires this morning, there's always something it seems....and that brings another thought...there was always something, some reason or excuse for me to head for the Board Store and pick up a 15 pack and drink my way through it. Not anymore, it's just one of those things...no need to get drunk over it.

TMH and Knitty, great to have you with us on this journey! As TMH said, it's just one day at a time! I feel like a stuck record at times repeating the same things over and over, trying to help, thinking people will get tired of hearing it. So no need to repeat it on this thread as we've all been there umpteenth times.

My daily inspiration on the Club post needs repeating though "It will always be a part of you if you keep thinking about it" That can be used in so many ways, AL will always be there if we keep thinking about it, God will always be with us if we keep thinking about Him, sobriety will always be with us if we keep thinking about it, see where I'm going with this? I read the posts when people return trying again to get AF, and most say "I hope I can do it this time" or "maybe this will be my final quit" or even "why do I keep failing" Think of that inspiration, don't leave the door to AL open even an inch! Change the attitude and thoughts to "I know I can do it this time" or "This will be my final quit" and "I'm not going to fail this time" Use positive thoughts and attitude! It works wonders.

Look at that, out of time this morning, the rest will have to wait for tonight... Not long ago, my morning thoughts were about how terrible I felt and looked, that I just needed to get through to the afternoon and I'd feel better, but then quitting time rolled around, feeling good, and thinking just one won't hurt. HaHa, we all know where that road leads! Now in the mornings, I read something that somebody posted, and it brings a whole new way of thinking to me, how can I help that person, what can I say that might make a difference? If you keep doing this, one day at a time, the day will come when you come to MWO not "needing" daily support, but come to "offer" daily support... every single post by everybody supports all of us, but wouldn't it be nice to be able to say "if I can do it, so can you" Just ask Ginger or BG.....

Have a great day my friends, remember, no quitting on your quit eh! I know I won't!

[Ginger999]

Hi TMH! Glad to see you post here. SS is still around and posts once in awhile. I see her on Facebook and she looks fine and happy. Not sure on her AF status though. Hopefully, she will stop by soon. We miss her!!

Welcome, Knitty. Glad you found us. Stay focused on the ONLY important thing right now and that is to become AF. The rest will come as your body heals from the AL. I think looking at the BIG picture in the beginning of our quit sabotages our success. It just seems too big to accomplish. So for now....right down a list of triggers. The things that make you want to start drinking. Across from that trigger right down something else you can do instead of taking that drink. Short walk, drink sparkling water, contact a friend (we are here for you), etc. Whatever works for you! Go to the toolbox and get some ideas (link in my sig line). We all have different ways to get through these first few weeks/months and you'll need to find what works for you. I can't stress enough the importance of coming here as much as possible. READ/POST/READ. Get rid of any AL around your house. If you are married or in a relationship, consider telling that person about what you are trying to do. Get them onboard, if possible.

Stay close everyone! We can do this together. Matt on another thread, has a sig line that says something like, "I'm 100% sure I can't do this alone". It's so very true. Let's not let AL be our best friend when we have so many great friends right here ready and willing to help in any way they can. XX

[paulywogg]

Hey guys,welcome Knitty and TMH,I too see SS on Facebook, she looks happy and busy with the grand babies,just a quick flyby for now back later

[Lizann]

Good morning guys! Nice to see everyone posting. Having wifi issues today. Really? Feeling anxious today, but am determined not to drink. Definitely needed all the positive posts this morning. I love you guys and appreciate you all so much. Had a heart to heart with my son this morning. He is worried about me. Love my baby boy and I will miss him. Geez, now I'm getting all weepy. Ok, let me pull myself together. I'll be fine, once I'm on that plane. I'll be sticking close today and tomorrow.

[Rusty]

Liz-I will be praying for you that you stay strong and stay AF. The pride in your son's and husband's eyes when you show them that you CAN have a sober vacation will be a long-lasting happy memory for you, as opposed to thinking drinking will be relaxing and fun on the cruise...only to see the disappointment in your family's eyes if you do drink. That horrible memory would be so hard to erase. If I can go on vacation and stay sober, so can you...and I did not think I could in the early days of my sobriety, but I did, and I am so glad. I didn't miss a thing by not drinking...but I remember EVERYTHING and it was wonderful!!! I want the same for you....so, so badly. You are worth it, dear friend!!! PM if you need/want to. :-0 ) HUGS

[Bandit]

Hello Min, Cowboy, Ginger, AG, BG, jackieM, Mr.V, Daisy, Pauly, Rusty, Lizann and anyone else out there..the list of names is getting longer!

Day 7 for me, found the last two nights very hard, tomorrow will also be a huge challenge as it is my birthday and usually I would more than give myself permission to have a few but so far ODAT is the way I am getting through it, otherwise its too overwhelming

Off to get dinner ready.

Best Wishes to all
x

[Ginger999]

Happy Birthday tomorrow, Bandit! You can do this. Throughout this past year it seemed that the universe was slamming me with things that would normally make me drink. And of course, I would have in the past. They would have been perfect excuses. Things like the loss of my life long dog buddy, health issues with my mom (83yr), some weird personal health stuff in the beginning of my quit, reunions, weddings, on and on. You get my drift. Each time I made it through an event that I would have normally drank over, I felt a sense of pride and accomplishment because I made it through it. I'd come here and tell my quit buddies and get a boatload of support and then I'd move forward AF. So.... have a happy birthday tomorrow but don't let it be an excuse to drink. Make this your first AF birthday of the rest of your life!

Liz, sending you a big cyber hug and prayers for a safe and peaceful trip. I know you won't drink but make sure to relax and enjoy your time away with your wonderful family.