Anyone in the First Week of Their Unpteenth Quit?

[All done drinking]

[/QUOTE]...and a friend my partner and I haven't seen in a long while is coming to visit.
We have no alcohol here but am dreading that the friend will bring some. [/QUOTE]

Bri,

We were talking about triggers on the "Dedicated to the quit I love thread" and I can definitely see someone bringing AL to your home as a HUGE trigger for me. Actually I had just quit drinking (it was day 1!) when we got together with friends on vacay who are BIG drinkers. Everyone was drinking a lot around me and it was easy to say no that day as the quit was so new and I still was carrying all of that remorse and shame, but as time goes on and we get our selective memory back "I wasn't that bad"..."I could probably be ok just having one" we can get into trouble. If you have a comfort level to share with your old friend that you have quit, I would do that so they are not trying to talk you into having one with them. I would also pick up something you like to drink that is non-al. Some folks won't agree with this but it works for me to have sparklng soda with grenadine and lime in a wine glass. Makes me feel I have a drink too and am part of the social group. Read some threads from long term AFers to stay strong. Good luck.

Addy (All Done Drinking...Yes!)

[briseus]

Thanks Addy, I appreciate your post.
I've done this before...but unsure why today feels a little trickier then before.
I have definitely done that, having my own drink in a large goblet or wine glass...and I think that's something I will do tonight. I did actually buy some lavender water...never head it before, curious what it tastes like. When I quit drinking I always end up trying different juices/sodas/water and things.

I know for sure that I will NOT drink. I can't...and a much larger part of me doesn't even want to. I want to wake up and be hangover and guilt free. It's also helpful that my partner is in my corner as well.
Sometimes, so early in sobriety, dealing with all these feelings just feels overwhelming at times.
I don't think that it helps that I don't even want company over tonight (lol).
I will be back here with day 5.
Will make sure to stick close to here for sure tonight.

[actiongirl46]

Thanks NS. Today my plan is a SoBe Lifewater, gratitude, and self-care. Also playing out the worst cases scenario. Thanks for your support!!

[actiongirl46]

Oh, one more thing, my AL stash is going away. No more AL here . . .

[Knitty]

Hi there Actiongirl! Yes, 8/8/15 sounds like a fantastic quit date. Sounds like you have a good plan, well done! Self-care is more important than we realize, so go ahead and spoil yourself for a while.

Bri, wishing you luck this evening. That is such an unsettling situation, but you're going to feel so good and proud of yourself tomorrow so just keep reminding yourself of that.

I have a horrible empty/antsy feeling tonight, so I'm off to drink a bottle or two of fizzy water which is continuing to work surprisingly well for me at the moment. Hope that continues. Good night all.

[Lizann]

Hey guys!
AG 8/8 is a good day to start!
I did read back. So much positive here today.
Have a good AF night my friends!

[briseus]

There is beer sitting here in front of me on the coffee table...as everyone is drinking...I could easily reach over and grab one to have a sip...or the entire thing.
But I won't. I'm stronger than this.
I'm drinking dry lavender soda and about to call it a night and tell the friends I got a busy day tomorrow.

Here's to day 5. Just felt like doing a mini vent...

[NoraC]

Bri - GREAT JOB!!!!!! I am so happy for you. You are going to feel so grateful in the morning that you resisted. :hug:

[briseus]

Bri - GREAT JOB!!!!!! I am so happy for you. You are going to feel so grateful in the morning that you resisted. :hug:

Thank you Nora, it's true...you never regret *not* drinking the next day. :hug:
I told everyone I'm off to bed. The temptation isn't so great right now, but I know it would have been if I continued to sit around all the drinkers.
I took my puplets with me and we're not snuggled in bed with ice cold water and MWO.
:thanks:

[Lizann]

That's great Bri! You did it!:welldone: It feels good doesn't it? Enjoy the rest of your evening with the puplets. Cuddling with mine too:love:

[actiongirl46]

Good morning! I got rid of all the AL last night (and not down my throat). I feel relieved and happy. Whew, I wasn't expecting that feeling.

What are you up to MinS? Daisy? Ginger???

Liz - when does your son come back from his trip?

Have a great Sunday all!!

[briseus]

Liz - I did feel good waking up this morning! Totally did not regret not drinking! When I saw the remnants of last night though I was surprised...no one drank more then a beer or two. My goodness...I would have probably put away 8 if I was drinking. :/ Baffling to me how some people can just take it or leave it. There is no sense in wishing I was like them, because alcohol is just not a part of my life anymore.

ActionGirl - that is AWESOME! Good for you getting rid of that alcohol! I did that before my quit as well, it was hard...but at the end of the day, I was quite relieved for it. I didn't have to worry about drinking!
Glad to hear that you are feeling those things - happiness! That's a step in the right direction. So today is day 1 for you? Or is is day 2 now?

Happy Sunday everyone.

[Lizann]

AG, he comes home the 29th. He loves working there! I think they really like him, too. He has one more year of college to finish. I wonder if they would offer him a permanent job next year? I know he wants to live abroad. anyway good job on getting the al out of the house. My daughter went away for the weekend and brought home 2 unopened small boxes of wine . She proceeded to put them in the fridge. I didn't want to make a big deal about it, but really. I will leave it alone, it's not mine.
Bri, glad you feel good about not drinking.

[actiongirl46]

Thanks Bri! It did feel like a weight off my shoulders. On Day 2 now . . . I am sure it will start getting real soon. I am binge watching "Intervention" tonight and its scaring me so much. UGH.

Great job on you for passing up the beer!

Liz - you are such an inspiration. I appreciate you!! Glad your boy will be home this month. What am awesome experience.

[JackieM]

Good to see you back AG.I,too am watching Intervention.It is scary.

Glad you are back also Bri. You have been posting some thought provoking material on other threads.

Knitty-you are doing awesome.You must be feeling pretty good at this point.

I hope everyone can band together and put the beat down on the alcohol.