Hey - I had a BF once who brought an electric toothbrush into the tub with us once.... strategically placed it works wonders......:happy:
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I hate you all!!!! I've been single for the better part of 10 years, worn out 16 vibrators and so over myself it's not funny!! How dare you complain about a few months without it! I even bought a huge motorbike to try and quell the urges...
I'm so desperate I'm almost prepared to:
* sit on the photocopyer at work
* ride the lawnmower to hell and back
* break into the local bakery and use the mixing machine
* become a scientist and use the machine they keep the blood vials in
* get cryogenically frozen until the drought is overIt always seems impossible until it's done....
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(((Flip))))
So over yourself? Have you tried whispering sweet nothings.....as close to your ear as possible? Buying yourself flowers? Writing yourself a poem? Buying yourself a gift.....don't tell what you get?
Maybe you can rekindle that old flame you once had for yourself.......:l
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As you can see it looks like Thumper knows what to do with the hands.
Lucky had to point that out!
Anyways Happier needs to gets some of those herbs. I can't even pronounce some of those. Muira puama? I never heard of that. It would be nice if they put all the herbs in one pill.
Boy, would I make my husband happy. I bet you anything Thumper takes those herbs.
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Hart, I feel very empathic toward your problem, and this thread is a hoot, as well! What a great discussion you have generated.
My thoughts are that a shower massage is great, but the good old bathtub works well, too!:h Hmmmm.... I'm very interested in Belle's plant stimulator! Also, Flip, I can relate to you. I've become very intimate with myself in the past several years, and solitary sex does grow old with time.:sigh:
I hope your honey recaptures his libido with time, but I do agree that it may take a while. It may be that the doctor's appointment may turn up something that may be helpful, and I hope your honey has talked to the doc about the sexual side of things.
AF as of August 5th, 2012
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This site has some very good resources to answer the questions asked on this thread.....well ...maybe not ALL the questions but many of them.
No really! Seriously......check it out!
:h Nancy
http://www.MarriageBuilders.com"Be still and know that I am God"
Psalm 46:10
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Sample from Marriage Builders ? - Successful Marriage Advice
Dear Dr. Harley,
I understand that men are the ones that usually want sex all the time. But what happens if I'm the one that wants it and my husband does not. I feel rejected and he's fine without it. There are times I just can't stand it because I want sex every day. But he's too tired, he tells me. When we have sex, there's fireworks, but why doesn't he want it more often? He is affectionate, we hold hands and kiss even after 2 children and 5 years of marriage. He calls me at work to tell me he loves me and I do the same. I just don't understand what the problem could be. I feel like having an affair, but I wouldn't want to disappoint God. Do you have any answers?
Frustrated
Texas
Dear Frustrated,
There are many women who have a greater desire for sex than their husbands. One of my clients wanted her husband to make love to her 3 times every day before she was satisfied. She would keep him awake at night until their third time. Other female clients have wanted to make love for hours or even days at a time. One female client wanted to make love to her husband all weekend, every weekend.
A woman's capacity to enjoy sex is far greater than a man's. While men are usually more aggressive about sex, they usually do not want it as often as women who have learned to enjoy it. When a man makes love, his sex drive usually declines immediately afterward, sometimes for a week or more. But when a woman makes love, it can actually increase her sexual interest.
But sex drive alone is not usually what motivates these women--it is their desire to be loved and accepted. Sex makes them feel desirable, and more secure in their relationship. Some of these women have tried to find men outside their marriage who would satisfy their sexual need. But in each case, there were disastrous consequences. Sex wasn't what they really needed--it was only the feeling of being loved that would satisfy them.
From the sound of your letter, you and your husband have a loving and affectionate relationship. He is undoubtedly interested in you sexually, but does not equate sex with being accepted. So for him, his sex drive is all that motivates him to make love, and that happens, for most men, about two or three times a week. In his case, it may be even less often.
One solution to your problem is to make love once a day, at a time that he has the most energy, say in the morning. Another, is to compromise: If he makes love to you every other day, he can pick the time and place, but if two days goes by without sex, at 7:30 the next morning you've got an appointment!
I think it is your need for approval and acceptance that compels you to make love as often as you can. Another important factor is that, unlike half of the married women, you have learned to enjoy sex, which makes each experience a great and inexpensive form of recreation. Don't feel that your sexual interest should be reduced, or that you should let your husband off the hook. Work out a compromise with him that gives you the sex you want in a form he enjoys. Sex is a great way to keep a marriage passionate and fun.
Next Letter"Be still and know that I am God"
Psalm 46:10
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((((Southernbelle)))
That was sweet of you providing that link. But I don't want sex as an appointment. I mean I could go make an apptmt w/a male prostitute if that was what I wanted, except I'm not exactly sure where to find them . I want to know my husband desires me, I want to have sex w/him. I want him to check if it's something physical, or if depression, what can he do?
In the mean time, I'll use my ever-ready vibrator......no apptmt necessary.
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