One Step at a Time - June 2014

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Pauly, dump the beer down the sink and tell us why you are emotional. :l You can derail the train right now.

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

fen I was going to try white vinegar to clean the tiles first.
Cracks are on the outside only and just surface cracks at worst. I dont have a very trustworthy hady man so it is dh and I. House was built in 1959 and my folks were the only folks to live there.
When is your birthday???

Pauly cant u find something to distract you....walk or something....the beer wont help and u know that.

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Dottie, the vinegar with a tad of salt is awesome for cleaning tile, especiallly if there is mold...makes a weak hydrochloric acid.

If it's just minimal outside cracks, you should be okay. Mrs. Fen and I had huge swaths of plaster/cement stuff peeling off of our basement walls, so our fix was pretty labor intensive.

My birthday is the 11th.

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

fellow Gemini...we are so kewl...

Any ideas on how to get the old grout off the walls....this is such a small job I would hate to pay someone a small fortune...just about 6/8 tiles closest to the tub...need to get them back on before the fellows show up to re-glaze it..then just clean the kitchen ones and maybe dig a little grout out and put more in where it wont come clean...I would much rather be getting my toes done..;-))

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Pauly come talk to us...we are here for you and do understand...

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Dottie, you can find a grout scraper/removal tool pretty cheaply at Lowes or Home Depot. Something with a carbide blade.

Tedious work, but bring a dust mask and some music into the bathroom and maybe you can get into a sort of "zen" mode.

I agree with you concerning Geminis, but I'm biased.

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Every period i feel crazier and crazier,thats all,i tried everything in the book to distract myself,grocery shopped,napped,cooked,cleaned,watched lifetime,bah

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Pauly, I think you should visit your doctor about this. There has to be some sort of hormone replacement, etc. that can help diminish the "crazy" part of your cycle. Will you do that?

[Lizann]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

I'm with fennel Pauly, maybe the doctor could give you something to help. Hang I'm there sweetie, were here for you.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Hey Pauly - I just came across some of my notes from when I was going thru menopause. I know you are not there yet but I started keeping track of my periods back then and I was a wild woman. So, if you can see a pattern, it really will help.

Fen - your garden is going to be beautiful. I really miss having our garden this year.

Dottie - another birthday girl. Good luck with the house, etc. But, HAPPY BIRTHDAY very soon.

Had a long talk with my brother today. He is noticing some things with my Mom too. The Alzheimer's does seem to be progressing more. We have been very blessed that it has stayed .......not quite sure how put it........not stable but at least not in a sharp decline. But, it is declining. We were also talking about when the inevitable happens and she has to move to a facility - I want her here. So, trying to find out the laws between states, etc. Seems like California is going to go back a few years to make sure that you haven't transferred money from their name and put it somewhere. That way you will owe the state a bunch of money. But, if you go into a facility with money in your name, they take it all. Just one more thing that we have to try to figure out. Better now than later.

They are moving my FIL into an assisted living place this week. I talked to my SIL for quite a while but forgot to ask about the cost. I had been over at my SIL's in-laws house working on their computer yesterday and today. So, found out about my FIL being moved.

Anyway - I had planned on a wonderful June 1 - Day 1, kind of day. Not quite there. But, at least I am here and posting. One Step in the right direction.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Kradle - can you send me the link for the essential oils again please? I know that we talked about it but I can't find an e-mail.

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Nora I think Medicaid has a 10 year look back. If you are going to be self pay it doesn't matter. My dad's pension just barely covers his facility. Check the state laws and don't believe what people tell u. I had so many different opinions that my head wanted to explode. Good luck it is a very hard decision and we spent one month checking out every place close to us before we made the final decision.

[allswell]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

So Sorry Nora, communication with other family members is key on these kinds of topics. Elder Care is an area that most families don't address until, unfortunately, they have to. I see it more and more in my practice. It's such a tragedy to see one spouse have to spend down the life savings and be left with minimal savings so the other can be in a facility and get proper care.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Dottie - thank you. My brother's very good friend called him and told him what he had heard from a lawyer. You know how it goes. I told my brother that no matter what, I need my Mom to be near me if she has to leave home. He realizes that - we just thought we had more time. No......we just were kidding ourselves that it was never going to be necessary. :upset:
But, thank you for your info. My brother & I are the 'trustees'? I think. I don't even know but we take care of Mom's money. And, bottom line is that it is not fair that my parents worked their whole lives and scrimped & saved just to have their money go to the state or lawyers.
So, we just want to to have check some things out.
Bottom line is that we have been blessed by wonderful parents/lots of love and we just want to make sure that Mom is taken care of.

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Yep I get that...dad took care of mother and me on a teachers salary back in the day so it is on my to do the same..please PM me if you have any questions....I learned a lot the hard way and if I can spare u that it would be my pleasure.
PS if your dad was in the military there is money out there to help with expenses toward care...long process but I went down that route too on my own without any of the vultures help..