One Step at a Time - June 2014

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Thanks everyone....I dont dislike his daughter but she is such a ditz sometimes and dh does not take my feelings into consideration...we had a huge fight this afternoon and I got up in his face and told him to breathe and stop acting like an ass....
We are speaking again.....I should have married someone who did not have kids but at 40 that was hard.

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Well - my Mom fell again today. This time my brother was home and heard her fall. He ran into the kitchen and she was on the floor. He doesn't think she passed out but he has no idea what happened. He doesn't know if she slipped because of her slippers or if she tripped or if she just fell or what. Of course, she doesn't remember either.

He called the paramedics immediately. They checked her out and said nothing was broken. That she was probably dehydrated and for her to eat & drink more. If she would only listen. She's down to 89 pounds now.

He took her over to walk-in clinic about 3 hours ago just so she could get checked again. They are giving her a CT scan and a hip x-ray. I'm anxiously waiting for him to call. He just texted me that it would be about another half hour.

He had just called me the other day because he was worried about how frail she is. I was up there 5 weeks ago and he said that he can see the change in her. So, I've been stressing out for the past few days anyway. This has just sent me for a curve.

It is breaking my heart to see her declining like this. She's still happy - no short term memory at all but she is happy. I just keep trying to look at the positive. It's so hard living so far away. :upset:

[NoraC]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Dottie Belle;1676219 wrote: Thanks everyone....I dont dislike his daughter but she is such a ditz sometimes and dh does not take my feelings into consideration...we had a huge fight this afternoon and I got up in his face and told him to breathe and stop acting like an ass....
We are speaking again.....I should have married someone who did not have kids but at 40 that was hard.

Oh Dottie - I'm really sorry. But, seriously, he does need to step up to the plate here. It is his daughter and grandson. :l

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Yep he sure does and I told him I wasn't cooking for them all 8 days...i don't cook for us every night...good grief I am sure she wants a vacation where she doesn't have to do anything but not at my expense. And when she has to eat what we eat she may not ever want to come back.
I did get the foyer shoveled out so when u walk in the front door it is a clear shot to the kitchen and the living room floor is clean too but there is stuff stacked on the furniture but we don't use that room anyway. That is where the cats like to nap....dining room is yet another story but at this point I just don't care...

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Yep he sure does and I told him I wasn't cooking for them all 8 days...i don't cook for us every night...good grief I am sure she wants a vacation where she doesn't have to do anything but not at my expense. And when she has to eat what we eat she may not ever want to come back.
I did get the foyer shoveled out so when u walk in the front door it is a clear shot to the kitchen and the living room floor is clean too but there is stuff stacked on the furniture but we don't use that room anyway. That is where the cats like to nap....dining room is yet another story but at this point I just don't care...

[paulywogg]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Jeez Nora,i hope your mom's ok,poor thing

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Lizann;1675066 wrote: Fen I am 54. So you think I can still do it?

Sorry...reading back and just found this...

Hellz, yeah! 54 is the new 34, Lizann.

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Nora, I'm so sorry about your mom. I get a life alert type thingy for my mom, but she has her faculties. It's so hit and miss that your mom would know how to use it. I suppose it's worth a try...maybe your bro could put signs/notes around for your mom to push the button if she falls?

My ex MIL (Best friend Barb's mom) has a note in her pocket that Barb's bro wrote for her. It says "You don't have to do anything". This is because she is so confused, she thinks she is supposed to be doing something all the time- the note reassures her that she is okay the way she is.

Still, as confused as she is, when Barb's mom's hubs had a stroke a few months back, she called a visiting lay person from the church who had just been there to give the two of them communion. As the lady left, she gave B's mom her phone number, saying if she needed her, to call. Can you believe that when the hubs collapsed, B's mom had the presence of mind to call the lady from the church and tell her something was wrong with him?

Church lady called 911 for them. So, you never know.

This is such a hard part of life. We are still healthy, although no longer young- and our folks are declining and the roles have reversed. :h

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Dottie Belle;1676226 wrote: Yep he sure does and I told him I wasn't cooking for them all 8 days...i don't cook for us every night...good grief I am sure she wants a vacation where she doesn't have to do anything but not at my expense. And when she has to eat what we eat she may not ever want to come back.

Dottie, after a few evenings of lean meats and veggies, sans desserts...she may bail early! :H

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

I am taking mom's cat to the vet for x-rays tomorrow, just to rule out cancer.

He is still enjoying the particular chicken pate' cat food I got him from Mounds (the second time around). I'm hoping he'll have a couple of good years left in him- he's nearly sixteen, so this isn't exactly unexpected. I just wish things would be easier, but that's life. Gotta keep on plugging. :h

[Dottie Belle]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

fen that is my plan...sssshhhhhh

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Dottie Belle;1676253 wrote: fen that is my plan...sssshhhhhh

:H:H:H

So evil!

[fennel]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Just finished up a movie with Mrs. Fen. "Defending Your Life", with Albert Brooks and Meryl Streep. I have to say, I don't quite "get" what the Streep character, Julia, sees in the Brooks character, "Daniel"...but he redeems himself in the end. I really liked the movie when it first came out about a billion years ago.

I love you all, my peeps. :h

[mama bear]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Have not read back. Morning loves

[Recluse]

One Step at a Time - June 2014

Morning/afternoon steppers

Good luck with getting a co-signer for the loan niner, maybe one of your aunts and uncles will actually offer to lend you the money, which would be even better.

And good news on the ultrasound lizann. Glad you're going to live!

Zenny, would physiotherapy help with your back? My grandmother had curvature of the spine from working in the fields all day (she and my grandfather had a very small farm in Denmark) and I seem to recall she had a physio drop by on a regular basis. Glad you got the a/c fixed to your satisfaction.

Well done on staying away from the beer mama. Lights out at 9pm? I truly could not imagine going to sleep so early, it's still broad daylight at that time at the moment where I live. No bri at work today, I take it? Hope you can still manage without her, I guess you must be starting to get used to her being absent by now.

Commiserations on having to share your bathroom with hubbs, dottie. I've very much become accustomed to having my own bathroom and would really not like to have to share with anyone. Glad you patched things with hubs up after your fight.

Hi nora, I'm doing good thanks. My story - single, no kids. I live alone with Amy and Poppy, my 11 year old cat. Used to work as a computer systems analyst but sort of retired about 5 years ago, though it's possible I may go back to work at some point if money becomes even tighter than it already is. You'll no doubt learn more about me over time. What's your story, I'm nosy too!

So sorry to hear about your mum's fall, I hope she'll be ok. What's the latest? She must be a real worry for you and 89 lbs is much too light, I think. It's good that she's happy though, that counts for a lot.

Dottie, I like your and fenny's idea for mealtimes! Maybe a few nice nutritious salad meals too?

Glad the mammo went smoothly fenny. I hope your mum's cat will be ok, I hate it when animals are sick.

EW, I'm not talking to you today!

It was rather crowded at the pool last night, but I still managed to get my obligatory 40 lengths done, albeit after one or two collisions with fellow swimmers. I'm off into town now to walk Amy and visit the supemarket. No footy on today, so I'll make pizza later to console myself instead. Shame about team USA result yesterday , but at least they still qualified from their group. :goodjob: