Army Thread Saturday 28th June

[roxane]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

Ok, I'll try that.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

Might come with you............feel like a fucking great sob tonight.

Got to say it but just hate it when Molls and Satz think about moving on and Mrs A's not posting........add in the fact my Aunt is so upset...........I just want to curl up in a ball and die.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

Sorry Roxxy, just turned that into all about me.

[roxane]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

Blimey jackie, I'm sorry :l

[satz123]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

JackieClaire;1676827 wrote: Might come with you............feel like a fucking great sob tonight.

Got to say it but just hate it when Molls and Satz think about moving on and Mrs A's not posting........add in the fact my Aunt is so upset...........I just want to curl up in a ball and die.

Fell asleep ........... ain't going nowhere
sorry you are so upset Jacks:l
You are going to hate this/me but :
Your Aunt needs to grieve - but you need to stop taking on her grief.
That sounds so harsh - she needs to live her life with as much joy as she can muster.
You can help her with that by not dwelling on her grief with her.
Now ....if your uncle was there - while that conversation was going on ?
What would he say ?
Would he be pleased to cause such pain to 2 women he loved? No.
Then act as if he is there .... try it .... for me ?:l:l

[satz123]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

roxane;1676817 wrote: Sorry to hear about your auntie, the first anniversary is a bastard.

I'm presuming I'm going through the process jacks. I don't want to drink and am getting cravings, for something. All the angsty, fidgety, mind chatter crappy stuff. Can't settle to do anything. Mentally pacing the room. I want to remove my brain sometimes it feels unbearable.

Been like this to varying degrees for weeks now. I'm telling myself and have been told it will get better and I have to believe it or I'm down that shop now. I'd leave the door open in my rush to get there before it shuts. Still in my slippers.

Dunno what to say about this really Rox.
Don't have any experience of it to be honest. :new:
You are suffering - why not go to doc & get advice ? You are a long time off the grog now - there should be no physical craving now.
What you are feeling seems unrelated to just being AF - and maybe in the past these feelings were there and were blotted out by alcohol ?
But you know that alcohol & it's consequences are not the answer any more.

See someone ?

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

Thanks Roxxy,:l

You're a love, Satz.:l I do try and I do 'speak' to him very night and we all talk about him all the time. Not sure I'm taking on her grief.........I've got enough of me own.

[satz123]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

ok talking to myself -so I'll say goodnight
Goodnight ................:bedtime:

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

No you're not.

[satz123]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

JackieClaire;1676839 wrote: Thanks Roxxy,:l

You're a love, Satz.:l I do try and I do 'speak' to him very night and we all talk about him all the time. Not sure I'm taking on her grief.........I've got enough of me own.

Ah there you are !!!!
Ah - with time - and they say once the 1st anniversary has passed - the grief will go and you will remember him with just affection not sadness.
Always talk about him & the good times - it will help.

[JackieClaire]

Army Thread Saturday 28th June

Ahh Satz.............bit like giving up drinking........it will get better.........all the anniversaries are out of the way.

Now you get to bed love.:l