Domestic violence

[louise]

Domestic violence

Thank you for letting us know you are safe. Of course we can go back to supporting you in the main topic here. You have the right to delete the entire thread as you started it. Just stay on the boards so people don't worry.

[chrysa]

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Really sad.

[Pisces]

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My dad used to punch me when I got to old to put up with his touching me, the last time he tried to punch me up at 15 I punched him back and we got into a full on fist fight, with me of course coming of second best, I left home on my 16th birthday.

The over the years I got with men who beat me, with me trying in vain to beat them in a fight, I never could. My sons father kidnapped my son for 12 years, during which I had 2 breakdowns, and drank myself into oblivion, all the while my little daughter tried to look after me,

Slowly over the years I have realised that because I thought this was 'normal' I actually attracted men like this into my life, and got myself into a 'victim mentality' where I thought I was damaged goods, unlovable, and didn't deserve any better.

At 41, and another abusive man, I am heartily sick of it, and am on the road to learning to love myself, and that I deserve to be loved and cared for, not be someones punching bag, or outlet for their own issues.

As some would know, I've just broken up with a guy that had killed someone, and at the time thought that I'm damaged so this is all I deserve, he didn't hit me, so I thought he was OK, but after a while he started to intimidate me, kicking and throwing things, and the red flags went up big time, he is still texting me saying I am the love of his life and it was my family that broke us up.

But it's like I have awoken from a long nightmare, I won't put up with this anymore, hence my thread 'VICTIMS-REVOLT!' yes I was pissed when I wrote this, but I feel like I have reached a turning point, and would rather be alone than with an abuser.

And again as some would now, I have taken up scuba diving, something that I had only dreamed of, something that I thought was only for 'good' people to do, not for people like me. But I did it and feel like I'm on the path of discovering who I really am, and that I'm a great person, I don't need a man to make me happy, and certainly not someone who wants to abuse me for their own issues.

I've rambled on, but I hope that my answer can show you that you are not alone, and that there is a wonderful life waiting if you can get past the crap and reach out and take it, for you!

Love yourself, please!!! and don't resign yourself that what you are going through is the best you can get! The world really is your oyster...

Sending all my strength and love to you, Jasmin xxx

[Pisces]

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And I forgot to say, a great article I have found, you can find it on Dr Joe Carver's websit, just google 'doctor Joe Carver' it's titled, 'How to tell a loser' I found it enlightening on the warning signs to watch for....

Love Jas

[cassy]

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Hi Jas thanks for your honesty and i am sure it will inspire others in abusive relationships to get the hell out of there and get some support etc..hope life is getting better for you Jas...regards cassy

[tea]

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Hi Jas, just want to send you hugs.

Choose to stand not crawl.

Lxx

[Popeye]

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Hi Jasmin,
Thank you.
I wish you well.

[Beaches]

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Jasmin that was great and Kitty I hope only for your safety and that you choose to leave before it's too late. Take Care dear.

[Ripley]

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Jas, your post made me cry

I wont tell you why, your story is a million times worse than mine.

I wish you every happiness.

Rip xx

[gabby]

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jasmine, cool website. thanks!