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[coriander]

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nicelife;1689924 wrote: I certainly don't know how to put anyone on ignore Cori.

I do know what I will ignore though, and for me, I'll be absent while ever this type of behaviour upsets me. And it does..........

I am sorry to upset you nicey. My behaviour is scary fucking shit unto myself. I don't ever wish to have imparted it onto other persons.

[tawnyfrog]

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WTF are you talking about? NOBODY has you on ignore. So who the fuck are the elite that have 'frozen you out'? Just how many more people do you need in your stable ... ringing you, messaging you, ringing Ambos, cops, hospitals, sending you texts and seriously helpful emergency numbers .... naah, I'm over it. Acknowledge some of your stuff. Don't fucking pull the 'closed rank' status. Mr.G? Reggie? Mish? Panadol? Glassy? Missy?... have they not gone beyond and above in reaching out to you? Stop trashing them.

coriander;1689918 wrote: And whilst you all have me on ignore, other people can see this.
Damage......i am so sorry for this, and have expressed this on numerous occasions. but still the elite undies have frozen me out with no forgiveness. I honestly thought they were better than that. I had them all on The true" list. I harbour no malice, merely sadly acknowledge their closed ranks.
So be it.

[nicelife]

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Cori - sincerely, I don't know how to support you. On one hand I feel terribly sad for your situation and on the other I feel upset that things aren't the same here.

If I could be a solid, reliable, helpful support to you I'd be there. Morning, noon and night. I know I don't have the skill to see you through tough times and if anything were to happen to you I'd never forgive myself. I'm only human and you need more than me to get you through your dark times.

I wish you peace and love Cori - that's all I've got to give I'm afraid.

[nicelife]

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You win again tonight Cori - a lot of us giving you time and sharing thoughts. Obviously some of us are really upset....again.

Maybe there is a lot of truth in not feeding situations like this by engaging in dialogue.

I'll leave you to this place. I can't do it over and over and over.

[tawnyfrog]

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Me neither. I'm out. The thread is yours Cori. Enjoy it.

[tawnyfrog]

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Me neither. I'm out. The thread is yours Cori. Enjoy it.

[coriander]

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tawnyfrog;1689927 wrote: WTF are you talking about? NOBODY has you on ignore. So who the fuck are the elite that have 'frozen you out'? Just how many more people do you need in your stable ... ringing you, messaging you, ringing Ambos, cops, hospitals, sending you texts and seriously helpful emergency numbers .... naah, I'm over it. Acknowledge some of your stuff. Don't fucking pull the 'closed rank' status. Mr.G? Reggie? Mish? Panadol? Glassy? Missy?... have they not gone beyond and above in reaching out to you? Stop trashing them.

Ok i can go there. Ringing me . Mr g. Messaging. Glassy. Messaging. Panadol. All of which i returned. Don't bullshit. Reggie, nup too hard for him.miss, ain't been here for a while. Glassy followed through, god bless her. Missy is cool.
I'm not fucking trashing them, i have already acknowledged my gratitude toward them.
I wouldn't pull closed rank shit unless it was fricken obvious. And you know what, ah never mind.

[coriander]

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Jeezus i am NOT here to WIN. If you can't see that, i have seriously overestimated your IQ.

[coriander]

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Jeezus i am NOT here to WI.
Forget it.

[sunshinetoday]

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If you go around saying negative things to people and then apologize for some of it, and then continue to do the same thing over and over, then you're not really sorry. This is not a place to come and create a negative environment. This is not a place to tear people down, to judge them, to call names or curse at them, to tally up who is there for you and who can **ck off because you feel they're not there for you. This is supposed to be a safe place for all of us to come get what each of us needs from it. If you come here and you need some support, and your not getting it where you're looking for it, try another thread, or another door. There is so much support in this site it's amazing how many wonderful people there are here. Lots of people care about you Corri, and it comes in the form of however they choose to express. This thread is now tattered and almost disappeared. The words you've written and actions you have done are effecting people who come here for the same reasons you do. It's effected and maybe destroyed this thread, it effects those that just lurk, those outside this thread that like to pop in. We all have lives outside of here. This is supposed to be a SAFE place, and it has turned into something else. To be truly sorry is to be humble. There are a lot of people hurting right now, there are some people who feel they can't even come to this site because of your words. If you're going to write things to people you have to be accountable for your actions, don't say they are attacking you when you have struck the first blow, and they are protecting themselves. People have tried to reach out and talk to you and in return, you take a few words from their reply and misconstrue it into something negative, and respond hurtfully. All they wanted was to resolve it.

It's neither here nor there, but I do care for you. I hope you find what it is you need. There has been a lot of support for you, and a lot of help offered. I think you mean well, but we all need to be respectful of each other here. At this point this thread may not even exist in the future to help people that come here when they need it most, and are looking for some light in the darkness. I'm not going to have a dialogue about this post, as I go months without looking on the site, but come back when I need it. I just don't have the time or the energy right now. Think of how you're feeling, and realize that some of the people you feel are against you, may be feeling the same way because of the words you've said. You get out what you put in.

[Rags]

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tawnyfrog;1689883 wrote: I'm fucking stoked to be a fucking 'senior' - whatever that may mean. .

I love being able to travel up to Sinney by train, then hop a bus to the quay, get a ferry to Manly, hop another ferry to Darling harbour, get the bus back to Central then train home..... all for $2.50!!
Additional bonus... Queensland accepts the NSW Seniors card.
Dunno about Vitoria but.

[Rags]

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What a sad, unsettling series of posts to wake up to.
Yes, there is a core group of about 10-12 people in the Undies, with different ideas and ideals, likes and dislikes which we either ignore or work around. Many have very serious problems which they are working through as Missy pointed out.
They don't need the turmoil that is going on with this thread at the moment.

I can't be everybody's friend and I sometimes step on peoples toes, sometimes unwittingly. I sometimes get upset when my posts aren't acknowledged or what I think is a funny comment that will have Undies rolling in the aisles gets ignored.
But, I know one thingfor sure and that is when a crisis hits me, I will have the support and help of every Undie here.
That was proven to me twice and I am forever grateful for the help I received when I really, really needed it.


Corie, whatever anguish and pain, whatever anger is in your heart, please don't turn it against this group any more. It has just about decimated the thread.

[techie]

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I love you Undies :h

P.S...Rags would you PLEAZE get off my toes...oh there...much better :l

[Guitarista]

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Morning all,

The way i see it is for me, i am/we are a sensitive, fragile group of folks who have or are still being knocked for six by booze. What has happened here is Cori asked for support, and those of us who could give it, did. Then Coz asked for more support, and for many of us, we didn't have enough strength to give any more, and then got pissed off at Cori's cries for help, as they were distressing and many of us felt helpless. So then some negative verbal exchanges occurred from both sides, purely out of frustration, not hate. No-one is to blame.

Cori reached out to the only place she knew, and soon realised we are not equipped to support someone experiencing complex life threatening stuff on an internet forum. Glad to hear you have some real life support finally in place Cori. Good job mate. No-one is to blame here.

Today is a brand new day, and with spring around the corner, an opportunity for new beginnings. Take good care of yourself Cori and i hope to see you posting your progress wherever you feel comfortable on the site. Take good care fellow Threadians. Think positive. Just my 2 cents worth.

In the words of Tony from the Soprano's....."Hey fruity! The thread'll be fine."

[Rags]

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Misdirected anger.
That is the thought that came into my head.
Our mind and imagination is so powerful, yet it tricks us into perceiving things that are not so, particularly when we are in a highly emotional state. Other side of the coin, our mind is powerful enough to convince ourself to change behaviour patterns when we see a certain behaviour rearing its head. Are you able to put into place something to do when this anger strikes so that instead of writing posts, you can take some other action to interrupt the triggers ?
I dunno, maybe discuss with Greg?