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[Jacy]

I just have to get this out. I am so upset, yesterday when I got home the owners of my apartment building were handing out letters stating that our apartment building is going to be converted into a condo. RRRRRRRRRR...........:durn:

I feel that everytime I am doing something right for myself something has to go wrong and I end up right back where I was before. I am so sick and tired of worrying and being stressed out. I was doing so well I had 7 days and yesterday was supposed to be my 8th day. I know that it sounds like an excuse but I was angered and then really scared that I said f--- it and went got some.

I really would like to know when I can get a break. I am tired of being a mess and being miserable. It seems like I can't be happy very long something has to go wrong for me. Sorry all that I sound so depressing but I am angry, frustrated and scared.

Anyone know what goes with converting an apartment into a condo. I don't know much about this stuff any info would appreciated.

[sammys]

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I know how you feel, you finally have done something right and for yourself and then bam another pile of stress. I finally have gotten used to the idea that stuff in life comes at you even if your not drinking, actually for me I finally figured out that I was just covering things up with drinking instead of taking control of things. Once you get a little more time spent figuring out what triggers you or why you want to drink it will get easier. I feel for you it is not easy now trying to figure out what is next with your apartment.


You have been doing great and we are here for you
Sammys

[hart]

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(((Jacy))))

I can't says I blame you for being upset. I don't know about converting apartments to condos......I do know when I got divorced I was thinking about getting a condo....as I am not handy repairing things....but when I found out if I wanted more than one cat I had to go before a committee, or any other modification to the place....I bowed out. I don't pay good money and it is good money with the maintenance fees, etc, on top of the payment for the condo, to have someone else dictate what I can or cannot do when I am suppose to be BUYING a place.

I guess you have to decide if you can afford it, if you want it, and if you don't......where do you go from here.

I'm sorry hon.:l

[Kitty]

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Hi Jacy,

Just sending you a cyber hug :l can't help with the condo question, I'm not even quite sure what one is, sorry. But you'll get through this and well done on the 7 days you did. Keep that thought with you that "you can do it".

These trials always seem to crop up when we feel least able to deal with them or do we usually not notice things are going pearshaped because we dumb it all down with alcohol?

Hang in there, I'm sure some of the others will be able to advise you on the condo questio.


Kitty

[MKR]

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Jacy, Congratulations on 7 days!! GREAT JOB!!

It depends on the apartment complex owners as to what kind of time frame you are looking at and what you are dealing with should you want to buy in.

Kitty, hit it on the head when she said, you may not notice all the stuff going on when you are half baked. There are many iltems that crop up over time and the biggest part of being sober is learning to deal with them in a sober fashion.

I have faith that you CAN do this!

xo, Mary

[happycamper68]

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Well, if you are renting the apartment right now- it sounds like you may have to buy it in order to stay. A condo islike owning a house- down payment- mortgage etc. Can you afford that or will you need to rent? You should start looking for another rental now if that is your current financial situation. Good luck. I know it sucks. Camper :h

[Jacy]

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Thanks Mkr, Sammy, Kitty & Hart.

I have been so depressed all day it is hard to function when something is bothering you. I know I have some decisions to make which right now I can't seem to get my brain working. I will be going back to AF I know that is the way I want to live.

As soon as I read the letter i wanted/needed a drink I didn't think to much about it and that is one of my problems.

[gzj03]

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Have to get it out

I posted last year and got a way from it. Reading your posts gives me some where to belong. I started the week not drinking and feeling like myself again-strong and in charge. I vowed to stop drinking for a week after over doing it at a family dinner and being mortified in front of my neices and nephews. My conviction to not drink made me happy and secure. Went to dinner with a nice guy, a recovering alcoholic who is a good friend and had 2 drinks. Felt good and normal. Went out the next night after work and had 3. Feel so hung over; called in to change my day off and my manager told me what a mistake that was and to never do it again. I felt scolded and I'm 48. My 27 year old guy friend that I've been helping get over his last girlfriend said he needed time for himself and didn't want to answer my calls . This is after sending him books to read on breaking up and treating him to a nice dinner. Then I got 2 calls from collection agencies for dr. bills I never received. I feel fragile, afraid, shaky, panicky and unloved. All for what? Any words of advice?

[roxane]

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gz

you may want to start a new thread. dont want to put you of posting, but you have buried yourself in an unrelated thread.

just click on 'start new thread' in general catogory. its at the top left of the page.

good luck!

[roxane]

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jacy, you have not let yourself down by breaking your af run, just start again. any run of days af is a good thing (beating yourself up again lol).

further to what kitty said, i think we do sort of know whats going on but the drink and fog that results makes them go away. they dont of course, they just seem easier to ignore.

well done on 7 days, star again today, you have had a reminder how bad it makes you feel

roxane

[Guest]

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My DH owned a condo once; it's like a glorified apartment except with condo fees and needing approval for doing anything to it. It really was a rip off I think. Condo's are great for single people with no animals, or rich older people (just my opinion). If you don't want to pay monthly fees; and get a mortgage you should start looking for a new place. You never know, the next place might be your dream place!!

Congrats on the 7 days!!!

[gitawine]

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Jacy--Thinking about a new living situation is very stressful! Even if you do buy into the condo, you may have to relocate while they are doing renovations, or they may let you move into one that is done before you. Most likely they are working w/ one select lender, so the best thing to do is call their lender and see if you can get preapproved to buy. If thats not what you want to do or you're not in the situation to do that right now, then you find a new place to rent. Basically apartment complexes are seeing the financial benefit in renovating to condos and being able to sell each individual unit. It's happening a lot in DC and Baltimore right now (where I live). Good luck and stay strong, it's just one more bump in the road, and you got through all the others right? You'll get through this one too.
Gita