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[amisssue]

My husband died, 4 months ago, after an accident at work, waiting for the inquest and all the shock of it all, I cant stop drinking please help me to come to terms with things, and not turn to drink. Amisssuex

[lushy]

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Hi Amissue, I remember you and I am just so sorry for your loss. Have you gone for therapy or any sort of grief counseling? The grieving process can be a long one, but drinking all of the time is not going to make it any easier. I know it seems like the easiest solution right now but it is not solving anything, it is only making you feel worse. Therapy could be a good thing for you to get it all out. You are in my prayers.

[Flip]

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oh sweetie, It seems fairly clear that you are drinking to ease your pain. Can you go see a grief counsellor and get some tips on how to get through this without killing yourself in the process? Is this what he would have wanted for you?

Big hugs from Australia

F.

[paula]

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So sorry to hear of your loss. I agree with Lushy re. counselling. If you are in the uk
call the samaritans or c.r.u.s.e.
My prayers are with you.

[Kitty]

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Hi Missue,

Take Lushy's advise and see if you can get some help with some therapy. I am so sorry for your loss. You will find great support here.

I heard a little quote once: "there is no problem that having a drink won't make worse". You must be greiving terribly I'm so sorry,

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Kitty

[MKR]

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Dear Amissue,

I am so sorry for your loss, I can not imagine that. I am glad you are here to talk with us. Wish we could all hold you and hug you.

Everyone above has given great advice. Grief counseling would help I am sure.

Do you have the hypno CD's? They can be so calming taking you to a place of peace. Your husband would not want you to suffer like this. Please take some time to find a place of comfort, a parent, sibling or friend close by to hug and hold you. Helping you through this incredibly hard time by being there with you, feeding your heart, soul and body.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you,
Mary

[amisssue]

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Many thanks for your replies, Im waitinr for vits and cds, will try and sort some help out thanks Amisssuex

[Beaches]

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Amissue,
I also remember you. I am very glad that you came back and so sorry that you are still hurting so badly. Grief counseling and support groups are wonderful. Please stick around. Gaba works wonders for me when I am feeling stressed.

[chilli]

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Hi amissue
Oh my god how awful, this is going to take a long time to heal, especially since there is an inquest, try to be kind to yourself, i now the drinking stops the pain for a while , but try to take it easy give your self some limits, i dont think abs is going to work right now so try mod, have you got the cds, they take your mind off things to try doing them or logging on before you drink might help.

[amisssue]

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I feel so much better after all your replies Im so grateful Amisssuex

[imatree]

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How sad. Remember - Your grieving will never end as long as you drink to avoid it. So you have even more need to overcoming drinking - so you can go through the grieving process and heal.
Love to you.

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Amisssue,
i am so sorry for your loss...I lost my fiance april 23 2006 in a car accident and spent a year drinking my silly...i mean i about went nuts literally...long story, but i know how very hard it is to lose someone tragically and suddenly...here one minute, gone the next. the shock shakes your soul and breaks your spirit and i hurt so terribly i honestly felt i wanted to die too. BUT, i am finally in a good spot....please keep coming here! everyday, every hour if you need to, that is what i did. ask these folks...they helped me through. i am now on week 7 af...i never thought i would see the day. i have a life again. much love to you...there is life again, you just have to find it.....he would want you to.

[lucky 2.0]

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What LUV said cannot be topped.

[ScoobyDoo]

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Amissue, you will find some peace and support here, and I think Lushy has given great advice about seeking a support group for grief.

Give yourself time... you might still be in shock and there is no right or wrong time line for grieving. Everyone does it at their own pace, and I think it's important for you to really recognise this, so you don't feel bad, or make yourself feel worse.

Gee... we're here for you! The CD's are amazing at helping to switch off. there are some really great meditation CD's around that also help deal with grief. You could always Google search your area to see if there are any of those herbally type bookshops that might sell some CD's self guided meditations like that, to help assist with the grief as well as the counselling/therapy and the MWO CD's and Supps that you ordered. I hope they arrive quickly for you.

Big hug from Sydney
Scoobs

[Popeye]

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Amisssue,
Welcome back.
I remember you too.
ScoobyDoo said it for me.
Take your time and try to relax. (Easy for me to say, I know).

This is a wonderful place.:l