One Step at a Time - November 2014

[paulywogg]

Hey all,up early watching videos on vh1, since they're the only ones who still play music,,,,,sometimes,damn there's some shitty music out there,deciding if i should throw chili in the crockpot before work or just saving it for tomorrow,i really dont feel luke chopping up all the stuff and browning the hamburger right now,so i think i'll save it,Dots i hope you're o.k and not too sad,Mama,get better! hi Sun,Liz and Fen,and hi to anyone who posts later,let's have a good Saturday

[mama bear]

Jeez - I dragged my butt to the grocery and feel like I have run a marathon. Oh well, pantry is stocked linens are changed.....just took a slug of Nyquil and may try to nap
I bought chili makings Pauly!
hopefully off to sleepy land for a few hours....we may go for a steak and have date night later, but I don't know if I will feel like it....
love you all

[sunshinedaisies]

Hi - home from work and about to carry on painting - or might go on the treadmill first - not sure which to do first!!

Had the nosebleed from hell this morning - last year they wanted me to see an ENT chap about having it cauterized but I refused - am thinking about it now - has anyone here had it done ? On line lots of horror stories ......

Enjoy the football Lizann - sorry I am not very up on sports ..... oh - I trained as a medical assistant about 25 years ago !! Then we got shipped overseas ....

Pauly - wish I was there - I would have sorted the stuff in the crockpot for you - wouldn't have taken ten minutes !

MB - hope that you feel better - enjoy your nap.....

Back later, Hugs, Sun XXX

[Dottie Belle]

I am a real mess folks...I have been drinking off and on for several weeks and last night was the worst yet...dh is madder than I have ever seen him and I have no clue what I did. He is no help around here and my stress levels have been through the roof and I cant seem to get him to understand I need his help but then when he does help me makes a mess of things so it is back on me anyway....I know how to quit again it is just coping with all the stuff going on....the gym only helps to a point.
I pitched what was left but don't know how to get dh to tell me what is wrong...he is not perfect either...this is so not the Saturday I had planned...

[sunshinedaisies]

Dottie - I am so sorry for what is going on - and even sorrier that you are drinking again - you were doing so well. what led to you starting again - do you know ? Are you sure that YOU did something to make DH mad ? maybe HE did something and that is why he is angry ..... can you both go somewhere neutral and talk? hugs to you - hope that you manage to sort it out - SO awful when someone won't talk to you and you have no idea what you did - if anything !!!

[Dottie Belle]

sun it has been a combination of things piling up on me....dad and all that goes with taking care of his stuff and I take care of all our stuff and I just feel overwhelmed most of the time..and he does not get it at all.....

[Dottie Belle]

And this time of year I always get down...no kids and all the families and holiday stuff going on just gets me down.

[Dottie Belle]

I threw the rest of the wine in the trash and wouldn't u know that it is now back in the fridge in the garage....WTF??
I asked him why and he didn't answer...I am losing my mind....

[paulywogg]

:hugots

[sunshinedaisies]

Dottie - did you ask hubs why he would get the wine out of the trash? Does he drink? That makes no sense at all ..... Can you sit and have a conversation with him ? I know my hubs tends to just clam up when I try to - so eventually I just say to him that I know he doesn't want to, but we HAVE to talk about this ......and proceed to talk - when I am talked out, I leave him to think about it - he needs to think things over for a day or two .....

I am sorry that this time of year gets you down - I don't really care for it as it is way too hectic for me and these days just much too commercialised. I liked it when it was ONE present for the kids .... and for a family thing. This year will be the first year for us with no family - my MIL is too poorly to be with us and too poorly for her to want us to go there - my eldest daughter is too far away - so it will be our first Christmas with just hubs and our youngest - but I am fine with that - I understand how you can get so overwhelmed with you having to do everything - it is the same in my house - sometimes I just wish someone would do something JUST for me. SIGH

Anyway - enough of that - we are here for you and sending you hugs (((hugs)))

Hope things get better for you - oh and I have sent you a PM - just in case you are not set up for it to pop up - and you don't see it !

Hugs, Sun XXX

[fennel]

Dotts...I am so sorry. I would go ahead and pitch the wine...again. Tell hubs you would like for it to STAY in the trash.

You've been doing so good for so long...you can do it again. :heartbeat:

[fennel]

Sun, my mom gets bad nosebleeds in the winter...or, she used to. The last time she had a bad one, I rushed her to her ENT doctor and he cauterized the errant vessel. It's not a "heat" burning, but a chemical one. I am happy to say that she's only had one nose bleed since, on the other side of her nose.
What horror stories are you hearing?

Another thing we do is to have mist vaporizers going in mom's house during the winter. It's really helpful where her nosebleeds are concerned.

[fennel]

Dotts, the holidaze are exceptionally onerous for me, too. I have no kids, but there is a huge push for family "togetherness" that just kills me. J and I see our family members so many other times of the year, I have no idea why Christmas is so "magical" that we all have to see each other again.

I wish that I could stay home on Christmas day, or better yet, go hiking. Thanksgiving in the past has been okay, since we went to our friend's (B and A) house, along with mom...but now, J has insisted we do a family Thanksgiving with her family the next day. All wine (not me), food, sitting, eating, sitting...and it goes on for twelve hours. We leave at 10 in the morning and never return before 10 in the evening.

I am "this" close to bailing altogether from holiday celebrations. Once my mom is gone, I am done. Tired of J's family celebrations, as well, and may boycott those.

[fennel]

Does anybody else experience this, or only me? The posts here seem to be an inch across and twelve inches down...a "copied" post is a few letters across at a time, going down the page for ages. I know I seem to have more issues than others with the site. I still experience overlapping text, etc.

[sunshinedaisies]

Fen - I get that when I come here on my iPad - and if I get a PM and read it on my iPad then it is exactly what you said - an inch across and goes down the page for ever! The actual normal page is also narrow but not as bad as a PM ....The computer though is fine, but I do not go to here on my iPad for that reason ....

This year we are not seeing anyone nor going anywhere for either holiday Fen - with M-I-L poorly-, Thanksgiving is out as well .... but I know that yours are always way OTT.

I have heard that the cauterization can be extremely painful re the nose bleeds - that it sometimes doesn't work, that it can make things worse ....plus I was wondering - unless it is actually bleeding at the time how do they know where it is? When it happened last year they said it was right at the very top of my nose at the back (it would be wouldn't it) so not the easiest place to get to ...anyway I will see if it happens again and if it does then see about the ENT chap - would have to make an appt with my regular doc to see the ENT chap though and you KNOW how that goes - LOL

Had a AF day yesterday people - I am so pleased with myself - took 1/8 of an AB !! Have no idea if that much would do anything if I did have a drink but I would never try and find out - anyway my tummy was fine !

Going into work again for a few hours today then will try and carry on painting today ....

have a good day everyone .... hugs, sun XXX