One Step at a Time - November 2014

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
sun I got your PM and will respond later today.
fen yes I can move forward just need to make some adjustments.
Off to church. First Sunday without our head usher who died on Friday night...that did not help me either..
I will be back later.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Dots it'll all be o.k honey,this time of year is always the pits,even with kids and family,i about shit my pants when you told us you had been drinking,you always sem so together to me,i'm not judging by any means,just surprised,Sun,i popped a rhodiola this morn 250 mg,i hope it agrees with me,Fen,i noticed that in the p.m's too,kinda weird,i guessMama did go out for date nite last nite,i seen jt on fb,i can't eat when i'm sick,that's the only good from getting sick as i usually lose 5 lbs haha,bleh feel nauseas need a food,back later

[NoraC]

Still gone to Carlsbad. Just wanted to say hi.I'll post when I get home.hang in there Dots.

[Dottie Belle]

pauly I did have it together until i didnt. just too much on me....and dh is clueless....

[Dottie Belle]

fen I asked dh why he got the wine out of the trash and he said he didn't want to waste it...WHAT??? I told him he was giving me mixed messages....and to put it back in the trash....yes he does drink but hasn't lately. He will have a beer once in a while when out to dinner with friends but not much. And he would drink wine with me but only a glass or 2....he can take it or leave it....so another reason why he will never understand my problems..

[paulywogg]

I think our hubs are both clueless Dots,after a gazillion heart to hearts with mine,he still thinks i can have"just a few"with him,even after he's seen me blackout,pee my pants,fought with people,duh,plus once i puked all over the downstairs bathroom,he sent me to bed and cleaned it up yet he STILL don't get it

[Dottie Belle]

pauly that is me too....what is wrong with them????

[fennel]

Dotts, I am sorry. DH really doesn't get it!

You've got a lot going on with your dad alone...throw in the holidaze, and it's overwhelming.

[Dottie Belle]

yep fen that about sums it up....

[fennel]

Pauly, your hubs sounds worse than Dott's. Geez, he's seen you do all that and still thinks you should be able to have a couple?

I know there's no such thing as just one or two for me...unless maybe they were something like a couple of Long Island Iced Teas.

[fennel]

Dotts, there has to be some way hubs can help. For example, this year I am going to make Mrs. Fen shop for her family members- this always falls to me.

Do you do the x-mas shopping for his family?

Can you make a list of tasks that he can accomplish? It's too much for everything to be on you. If he can't help, it's almost like you're taking care of both him AND your dad!

If church/funeral stuff is too depressing for you at this time of year, cut back or stop it completely for a while. It's just not worth it, you know?

[Dottie Belle]

fen the other funerals don't bother me but the fellow that died on Friday was a friend and my age. That is what made it so sad and depressing....
I told dh we were sending money to his kids and grand kids and if that was not acceptable he could shop....

[fennel]

I'm sorry, Dottie. I hope hubs is okay with donating some money to your friend's family.

Did you throw out the wine?

Again, that is?

[fennel]

Don't want too much to air my problems here...but, Mrs. Fen is having her colonoscopy on Tuesday morning, so I probably won't be on here much tomorrow, LOL. I am dreading her procedure just as much as she is, as she is a supreme baby. She won't be able to consume solid foods after ten in the morning tomorrow.

As you all know, she's gone anemic lately, so I hope that there isn't anything sinister going on in her digestive tract.

[sunshinedaisies]

Dottie - that is what we are starting to do as postage is expensive too these days (sending money or Gift certs) - last year hubs took the parcel to send to our daughter and could not believe how expensive it was to post! But yes, I am the one that usually does the shopping - this year my daughter texted me one thing that we could get for two of the children together and the other one we are getting a gift certificate for - she is too young to know any different so daughter will get something for her. I think it is just all getting way too much out of hand - we told the children that we were scaling back last year - and it wasn't that we couldn't afford it - I just think it is getting ridiculous. It felt really good and we will do the same this year.

fen - hope that tomorrow isn't too dreadful for you and Mrs Fen!! I will be thinking of you. I have my cancer check up at 7.00 so have to leave the house at 6.00 !!! Will go straight to work afterwards .... but might not have time to post in the morning as will be leaving way earlier than usual and do not plan on getting up any earlier than usual - LOL

getting ready for bed - have a good evening everyone, hugs, sun XX