One Step at a Time - November 2014

[paulywogg]

Yeah,where is Nora?i actually didn't want to see Bobbi before she left,ended up seeing her more cuz she wanted to hang with Louie and all of us,but shite i think it made it harder,just wanted to rip the band-aid off quickly so to speak,now i'm all,oh that was the last cup she drank out of,or oh thats the last shirt she had on,bleh i sound like a freak! Mama,that's totally sweet that your son climbed in bed with you,he is a big boy,but your hubs is pretty tall too from what i've seen,but shoot they'll always be our babys

[Kradle123]

Oh and I now know that its entirely due to the drinking that I ended up in this God awful mess....

I need to find that #^%*+}*}%#* Thread......

[paulywogg]

X-post again Kradle,don't have a meltdown,insurance should cover that if it was a tree falling right?

[mama bear]

Kradle
let me try to make you feel better
My hubs made over 200K for 20 plus years. My best year I made 114K.
Last year his W2 said 32,000. Mine was in the 50's.
Our house is two steps away from foreclosure. AS soon as they file, we are throwing ourselves into bankruptcy for the SECOND time. We have not made a house payment in almost three years.
I am not proud of this and not even sure I should be sharing so much private stuff, but..............my life is no where what I thought it would be. I never thought I would have breast cancer. I never thought my son would need heart surgery. I never imagined holding my Pop's cold, dead hand. I never thought I would be pawning jewelry and getting payday loans.
But here I am.......vertical and sober working my ass off to provide as best I can. I have a loving family and friends here. So girlie.....lean on us and we will get you through your meltdown. Together we are strong. Think of everything Nursie is going through. Lean on the joy in your life....your girls, Matt's happy times, your marriage......I promise it will get better. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
(hope I didn't sound mean....not my intent at all)

[mama bear]

yes Pauly...they are always sour babies

HEY FT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry I missed you earlier babe!

[Alky]

Carrying on a theme here, I have made the decision to move on with my life and end my now-toxic marriage. Easier said than done in my case. Due to bad financial advice and decisions, my credit is wrecked (my wife's conveniently is unscathed). I will not be able to buy a house, and I have serious concerns about being able to even rent an apartment, even though I do have substantial savings and retirement accounts I can dip into, and a decent job. But I don't care. I haven't felt this good in a long time. I may be soon be living under an overpass, but I will be living under an overpass SOBER.

My inspiration is my therapist, who 25 years ago faced the same dilemma. She had already lost her job and her family and she was about to lose her house. As she sat on the floor of her empty house, she decided that even though she might soon be homeless, it would not stop her from getting sober.

[K9Lover]

Well let me just keep the theme going here. I am currently in the process of filing for bankruptcy. I did it once in 2000 and swore I'd never go through it again, but guess what? Things happen...LIFE happens. I am not proud of it, but it's a chance to start over. My credit is all shot to hell and back anyway, so I might as well get out from under the constant threats of my debtors. I don't encourage people to do it, but sometimes we have no other (better) choice. Now I know that I will be able to pay my rent and that if something happens to my car (heaven forbid) I still have my uncle in my back pocket (so to speak) to step up and co-sign. Other than that, I don't plan on needing credit for anything ever again. You're doing the best you can, you're taking care of your kids, and you're still hanging on (even if by only a thread). Lean on us, we know how you feel!!!

[NoraC]

Alky - GOOD for you!!!! What a positive attitude.

Sorry I've been missing everyone. Things are going ok.....just haven't really had much to say.

I'm sorry for what everyone is going thru. Hard times. I wish that I could make everything better.

Well - I've got to getr back to work! I'll try to be on tonight. I think of you all the time....

[mama bear]

Alky!!! Excellent post!!! Though I am sorry about your marriage. I am a landlord btw, but not sure if I can give you any advice, but hugs all the same
You and K9 both gave me the shivers.....we are ROCK STARS.....roll your eyes if you want...but you have to believe in yourself if nothing else!!
Nora - I am sensing the blues......LOVE YOU!

[Alky]

Ironically, I am a landlord too. I own a second home up in Vermont that has a garage apartment attached to it. I'd move there and live in the house, except 1. as attractive as it sounds, there's no money in being a full-time crackpot in Vermont, and 2. my soon-to-be-ex thinks of it as hers, as she does our house here in Florida. It's going to get ugly and expensive before she understands she can't have her cake and eat it too, but it's not going to be anything I drink over.

[Dottie Belle]

:hug::hug::hug::hug: Group hug....we ALL will survive...
DO NOT DRINK!!

[K9Lover]

I'm sensing the blues too Nora...hope you're OK :love:
WHATEVER it is, we're here for you!!

[mama bear]

Hi peeps. I am home and guess what? Dinner is in the oven!! And NO, it's not the same dinner, you ding dongs! I try to cook every night, even if it's something frozen.
Busy day at work, but all went well. Only had one screamer today.
Off to watch SOA...

[K9Lover]

Only one screamer? Wow, quiet day huh Mama? I was sooo busy too. It's so much better here than my old job! My only complaint now is that with the time change the sun hits me right in the eye for the last hour of the day. Guess I better lay my head down on my desk to avoid any UV rays. I'm not even gonna pretend like I'm putting dinner in the oven. I think I have dirty dishes hidden in there anyways. j/k
Nite y'all :love:

[NoraC]

Hey all....sorry - I didn't mean to sound down. I have NO problems compared to what everyone else is going thru. Honestly......

I had a chat with my boss last Friday regarding his daughters attitude. He brought up my attendance and we both were calm and listened to each other......bottom line is that I'm tired of the bullshit. :hahaha: But, it's all fine.

I have taken myself off of Wellbutrin and I'm having awful nightmares (that is a withdrawal side effect). I feel so much better but I can't sleep well. So, I get home and crash. That is why I haven't been posting. No need to lecture me - I know that I shouldn't have done it cold turkey. However, my Psych was not going to work with me and I was DONE! I do feel much better but just need to get this sleep/ nightmare thing under control????? I am still on another anti-depressant so I am fine.

We are planning a yard sale on the 15th. Trying to get ready for that.

Just am really sorry for what everyone is going thru right now. Love & hugs to all......

Please tell Nursie how much we are praying for her. xx

catch you all in the morning.............