One Step at a Time - November 2014

[Kradle123]

Wow, I thought I was going post my horrible day a la carte but I i will add to the theme- and I'm grateful to not be alone but among all you strong people. :hug:
Toxic marriage , ALKY....yes, I understand that one ... Big awful ugly fight this afternoon with the man of my nightmares... Little to know money in the bank...three children under the age of 16 and a house which is apparently in need of about 20 grande in repairs or it will fall down....

The dog is doing well though....and I am not drinking. I'll join you ALKY under the bridge which will have to be in Glorida because it's cold as hell here in Seattle! Maybe Mama will put a dinner or two for us it the oven

Thanks for the DNR Dots. :heartbeat: in bed with the kids...they are drawing amusement park plans for art...I especially like the bathroom placement ....

[Kradle123]

Mama I'm so sorry I just saw your post!

Thank you thank you for sharing that. I am very grateful because it is so easy to feel alone underneath it all...everything you say is true and I do need to focus simply on the good things I have...

I can't tell you how sorry I am that my marriage is not included in that...I simply hate who I become with him....a real bitch, hateful and crazy...it is so fricken stressfull:sad: so easy to say screw it and drink...

but I am vertical and sober- I love that maxim! :heartbeat:

Being here with all of you is do incredibly important ...sometimes I want to share this site with people I know are suffering...and then again I want to keep you guys all to myself :heartbeat::heartbeat:

Nora, big hugs. Sorry I didn't say hi earlier....darn, I'm out of smilies!!!

[ShawTHo]

hello Guys!

happy to be here! i'm great full enough that i found out i'm not alone fighting this battle no to drink ever again. it's so nice to be here

[mama bear]

Welcome Shaw. Stick around and get to know us and tell us about yourself.
Kradle...it just felt like a pep talk was needed so I put on my cheerleader panties.....gosh they were tight!! Have you and hubs considered counseling? Most marital issues are over money and kids.....
Medical Marijuana FAILED in FLA yesterday...yessssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!
It has been a huge debate but I think all the seniors in the state voted...
coffee and then doctor...
Nora- why did you take yourself off the Wellbutrin? I think some of my issues are Paxil related.....and stress......and old age!

[meggie]

I asked Sun what other threads she followed and she suggested this site. In reading the past several posts I feel I fit right it. My marriage of 32 years is a farce, my husband is sick and takes everything out on my daughter and I . He is disabled and I have been supporting the household for the last 15 years. He is the reason I started drinking, drinking or booze in the household was never part of my life. So I am hoping I can gain strength from this thread. Nice to meet you all. Mama Bear I have followed you before on some thread.

[sunshinedaisies]

Gosh ...... wow ...... what a lot has been said since I posted yesterday ...... but first of all, a big hi to Meggie and to Shaw. Great to see you both here - welcome !!!

I feel badly for you all that are going through such bad times - makes my problems seem tiny in comparison. I cannot even begin to address you all individually regarding them ... my post would end up pages long. I just feel sorry for all of you that are having such problems. For once I am stumped for words - LOL.

I am off to have some blood work done this morning so have not been able to have my morning cup of tea - that is probably why I am stumped for words ... I WANT MY CUP OF TEA.

I will be back later and hopefully be a tad more verbose ....

in the meantime, hugs to all, Sun XXXX

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Welcome Meggie and Shaw....glad you are here...
Cold and rainy just what I needed...boohiss...
Taking the car to the shop today. Had to go to the dealer GM to get what the salesperson promised us a year ago when we bought the car. Hope he comes through. It is amazing what a little shaming on FB can do to get these jerks to do what is right. ggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrr
Gym to work off the above then we will take the car over. They are supposed to give us a loaner...wonder what that will look like...
I am sorry so many of us are having a rough time. Money is always a problem. Dh and I had lots of arguments in the beginning about money and his kids and his X etc....it has settled down now since we are retired and have a fixed income. We really cant do much if we don't plan WAY in advance. Took us almost 20 years to get to this point but we are happy...at least I am and I think he is too..at least he doesn't complain....

[K9Lover]

Welcome Shaw and Meggie! Settle in and tell us a little about yourselves. You'll find out we're a pretty understanding bunch, we get a little silly sometimes, but we are ALWAYS here for each other!

Dottie - We could use some of your rain...we had maybe 1/2" on Saturday and there is none in the predictable future...

Kradle - Sorry you are feeling that way in your marriage. Sometimes (well most of the time) I am so thankful to be single. I was in a toxic relationship for 7 years (not Sierra's dad) and haven't been in any relationship since. At least with my money troubles I don't have to fight anyone about it...once Sierra leaves on Monday :sad: I will have complete control over every penny. She doesn't ask for much, but the little trips to Starbucks and Taco Bell add up! LOL

I cannot believe what a "go-getter" Sierra is turning out to be. She has completely gotten her school transfer all set, she's signed up for Community College classes and she will finish out this semester of high school here and start next semester there. She is hoping to become an elementary school teacher. She currently works in the mornings as a teachers aide, and today the teachers she works with are taking her out to lunch as a "thanks". I am so proud of my girl. I wanted her to be independent, but darn, now I'm having to face the fact that she IS. LOL

Ok Mama - What was in the oven last night? I actually did bake some chicken for my lunch today. Once Sierra leaves, my eating will be so easy. And I know she will be glad to be rid of me asking "what did you eat today?" LOL

Sunni - Hope you get your tea soon!!

Nora - No lectures here on quitting the Wellbutrin. I was on it years ago and didnt like it AT ALL! Can you take some Benadryll or something at night to help you get to sleep...or melatonin?

Guess I'll stop rambling now and pretend to get some work done.

Hi to Reccie, Pauly, FT...and big hugs and prayers for Nursie!! :love::love:

[mama bear]

Hi Meggie. Join this crazy bunch!!
K9 - obviously you are an awesome mom or Sierra would not be doing so well. So.....BRAVO!! Our Stepper Baby is making us proud!!
The doc doubled me up on mu depression meds for just a few weeks, and took a ton of blood. We are investigating the hormone route, but I have to get my BC records from 13 years ago.
And - I have yet another sinus infection.
Gosh, what did I make for dinner?? Ummmmmm....baked shrimp scampi. Tonight is fried chicken wings and a veggie of some sort.
Get some tea in thee Sunni butt!!
Let's have a fabulous Wednesday and be gratefui for we do have.....especially each other.
I have texted Nursie asking her to check in for some support, but I know her plate is full. Zen is well, but I don't know how to reach Beloved Mr Bear
off to work since I came in late
LOVE AND HUGS TO ALL

[fennel]

Morning, folks- welcome to the new peeps!

Sun, would tea really throw off the lab results that much? Do you add sugar and milk to it? I hope you have had your cuppa by now.

Sorry that so many of us are having bad times these days.

K9, that's so awesome about Sierra being a teacher's aid and getting all her classes set up for next year...she's really right on track! You should be proud of her, and yourself.

Kradle, I think mama's suggestion of marriage counseling is a good one. Life is too short to be harboring such feelings of antipathy towards one's mate. Life can really take a toll on a relationship.

This was the third day of our week long gym membership...my arms are shaky from the weights/pull downs I was doing!

[Alky]

Medical Marijuana FAILED in FLA yesterday...yessssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss!!

I apologize in advance, because I am in a foul mood today due to a nasty head and chest cold, but seeing this really set me off. My dad fought Non-Hodgkins lymphoma for 10 very long years. It was excruciatingly painful to see his discomfort after chemo and radiation. I honestly can't say which was worse for him, the treatments, or the drugs used to counteract the effects of the treatment. The Kytril would give him blinding abdominal pain and the Zofran distorted his vision and left him confused, dizzy and bedridden. He stopped taking them. In desperation, I asked a colleague who I knew used marijuana recreationally to get me a quarter ounce, and I took it and baked it into some desserts. I never told him what I put in it because I knew he would never approve. All I know is he finally had an appetite and was alert and engaged after having some of my "special treats." I am very angry and resentful to this day knowing that what I did to alleviate my father's suffering would be characterized as criminal. The pill-pushing pharmaceutical companies are the real criminals, in my opinion.

So here's an idea. Why don't we use this forum for its intended purpose and celebrate what we have in common, our ongoing recovery from addiction, instead of dredging up divisive political topics.

[fennel]

Alky, a friend of mine did the same thing for her father who was suffering from the effects of chemotherapy. It was really helpful for him.

Sorry about your dad. It's terrible to see a loved one in pain.

[spiritwolf333]

I apologize in advance, because I am in a foul mood today due to a nasty head and chest cold, but seeing this really set me off. My dad fought Non-Hodgkins lymphoma for 10 very long years. It was excruciatingly painful to see his discomfort after chemo and radiation. I honestly can't say which was worse for him, the treatments, or the drugs used to counteract the effects of the treatment. The Kytril would give him blinding abdominal pain and the Zofran distorted his vision and left him confused, dizzy and bedridden. He stopped taking them. In desperation, I asked a colleague who I knew used marijuana recreationally to get me a quarter ounce, and I took it and baked it into some desserts. I never told him what I put in it because I knew he would never approve. All I know is he finally had an appetite and was alert and engaged after having some of my "special treats." I am very angry and resentful to this day knowing that what I did to alleviate my father's suffering would be characterized as criminal. The pill-pushing pharmaceutical companies are the real criminals, in my opinion.

So here's an idea. Why don't we use this forum for its intended purpose and celebrate what we have in common, our ongoing recovery from addiction, instead of dredging up divisive political topics.

Hi Alky and Others -Yes, continuing to outlaw marijuana is quite irrational -especially as it relates to medical use. In fact, in my opinion, it is absolutely incredible that it is outlawed at all -and I don't even consume the chemical. Alky, it is my opinion that the frontrunner in keeping marijuana illegal is the alcohol beverage industry. And, the tax revenues received by governments on the sale of alcohol is huge. Taxing organically grown substances will be challenging.

Nevertheless, I am glad that you had the courage to do what was right for your father. Not only did you show courage, you showed an extreme amount of compassion -and I am sure that your dad was grateful -regardless.

[Dottie Belle]

Gym was good but my legs are killing me...I wont be able to go up the steps tomorrow..
Off to drop off the car so hopefully they can get the work done by tomorrow.
Back later.

[mama bear]

Holy Shit......I'm a bad guy now??? WTF???
I watched my father in law die earlier this year and we used pain meds to ease his suffering
Thanks for pissing me off....
This is a family and we share everything...we are supportive and kind....I wasn't "digging up divisive political topics"
I was expressing my opinion. I think if it was ONLY used to ease suffering, I would of course support it
I have two sons and I don't think weed should be legal....and we all know where medical marijuana ends up....legal...and in the hands of kids