One Step at a Time - November 2014

[sunshinedaisies]

Wow - me again - it is very quiet ..... been up since 10 to 5 - am not sleeping too well for a change, and decided to get up and start on my list of things to do - I was so lazy yesterday that I need to make up for it today.

Taken my 1/8 of a tab of AB - this is working well for me doing it this way!! BUT I have to take it more or less when I get up or else my resolve wanes as the morning progresses ....

Have a good day everyone - I am hoping that the ground isn't too hard to plant bulbs - I have a few hundred that this is probably my last chance to get them in - temps here are supposed to be 60 today - and 65 tomorrow but tomorrow is with rain!

Hugs, Sun XXX

[paulywogg]

Crickets,it is quiet,that Janay Rice bitch pisses me off! her hubs knocked her out in that elevator and she just loves him sooo much,so does the NFL,sheesh celebs get away with everything! wrapped myself up in 48 degree weather and actually took a walk yay! hope everybody has a good day,gotta leave a tad early to stop by Sprouts before work,back later

[Dottie Belle]

Hello all,
Off to run a few errands. We have an event at church tomorrow so we need to buy the fixings today. Gal I was supposed to go with cant now because her daughter is having the baby early....so I am going to drag hubbs along...poor hubby...
Quiet again today. Guess everyone is having a good weekend...
I will be back later...

[Kradle123]

Good morning everyone:
Sorry I haven't been around much but I've been reading everyday. And not drinking... I may be wrong in this but it seems to me that no one here really posts anymore about drinking and the struggle, just more about how their day went...which is fine.

I understand how important it is to stay fundamentally connected like that. Honest I do. But I guess right now I need more accountability and the hard looks at myself in the MWO mirror.- otherwise I can fool myself into all kinds of crappy mind games .

I must admit I read back since my last post and no one mentioned my abscence. I can get very hurt by things like that even though I know in my right head brain how immature that is.
Still I started thinking perhaps it was due to my revealing too much of my personal life and my drinking struggles and not enough of the day to day routines., the minutae of life.
Perhaps I've simply have misunderstood the nature of this particular thread- ie more social than the hard hitting dialogue of the Newbie Nest or The Umpteenth Quit. One.

I need both I guess but right now I need more of the drinking threads to keep me straight through the holidays.

You guys are all the bomb. I'll stay in touch I promise.

Hugs and heart.
:hug: :heartbeat:

[sunshinedaisies]

Kradle - some time ago I mentioned the same thing about no-one talking about actually drinking or not drinking ..... I cannot remember what the consensus was but I know I get fed up with coming on here and telling everyone - 'well, drank again yesterday' ...... which is why I don't do it - whereas I LOVE saying 'another AF day yesterday' - but they are few and far between. Although today is my second AF day in a row - YEAH - and apart from 2 drinking days last week, have had quite a fair run of AF days - but it gets old writing the same stuff over and over for everyone to read and I am sure it must get boring for everyone - I mean how many different ways can one say that they are struggling/not going to drink/whatever ?

I DO understand where you are coming from - a few (6 actually) pages ago, I said about finally finding a way round the fact that I could now take the AB without it making me poorly - MB was the only person who commented on it and it was SUCH a big deal to me BUT we all have so much stuff going on - that it was fine that no-one else commented ....I used to take things like that personally but don't any more - this thread IS mainly about our day to day lives - although if any of us have anything major going on, I think you have to agree that we do have each others back ....

So, yes it is fine to post on other threads - there are no rules saying that you can't - I think it is a good idea .... find one that meets your needs re the AL and use this one for fun maybe ? Or to talk about life - whatever - I am sorry that you felt hurt 'cos you thought no-one missed you. It is a busy time of year and we all do have so much going on ... I do not think anyone minded you talking about all that you have going on - we all do it at different times.

I do hope that you still come here and post and let us know what is going on in your life ..... I think that you have SO much going on that a thread that deals more with the AL is a good idea for you - you need a clear head right now and I so admire you for managing to stay AF with all you are dealing with .....

Much love and many hugs to you,

love, Sun XXX

[meggie]

Sun is right, we all use these sites for different things. Sun, I am so proud of you for finding something that works. I didn't say anything because I think I am jealous. I know I need to quit but just don't want to. However, I love to hear about those that are doing so well. I also come to the site to see what others are doing to stay sober. My shrink doesn't want me to use AB because she has had so many people get violently sick. So I am keeping my eyes opened to see what comes down the pike.
PS which threads are the drinking threads.

[Dottie Belle]

Kradle I think we are all so darn busy this time of year that we have time to pop in and say hi but not to really read everything so please dont take it personally. Sun u either for that matter....I have never taken AB for fear of getting really sick so I am glad u found what is working for you..
I dont want to talk about drinking/not drinking..I did come here and say that I had let life get to me but that was accountability for me...When I first started out I stuck to the newbies nest like glue and after a year I dont visit there much at all....I like the chit chat here and not
meggie there was a moderation thread somewhere but I dont know where...it is all or nothing for me....I tried to moderate and that did not work...
Errands took way longer than needed but we got it all, and then some, done!!
I like this thread because it is a safe place to come and babble and see how everyone is doing.

[Glass Half Empty]

hi Glassy,don't be such a stranger,

Hey Pauly - I tried to PM you but you have no room for me!

[Guitarista]

I may be wrong in this but it seems to me that no one here really posts anymore about drinking and the struggle, just more about how their day went...which is fine.

I understand how important it is to stay fundamentally connected like that. Honest I do. But I guess right now I need more accountability and the hard looks at myself in the MWO mirror.- otherwise I can fool myself into all kinds of crappy mind games .


Perhaps I've simply have misunderstood the nature of this particular thread- ie more social than the hard hitting dialogue of the Newbie Nest or The Umpteenth Quit. One.

I need both I guess but right now I need more of the drinking threads to keep me straight through the holidays.

Hiya Steppers,

Hope Thanksgiving was a good one and hope y'all are having a relaxing weekend.

Yo Kradle. I know what you mean about some threads being more social. The Undies thread is like that, and that's okay. Threads like this one and the Undies are terrific, def more of a social thing, and i know are supportive for all of us when the chips are down.

But you can't beat the hardcore nature of the Newbies nest for booze talk. I'm an old stager but i still get inspired and my ass kicked when necessary either by someone else's struggle/story, or some booze specific scientific info. That thread is in yer face 24/7 with struggle, inspiration and lot's of respect and care. I'm forever grateful i swallowed my pride, left my ego at the door, and went there. For me, i post on a couple of threads depending where i'm at. If i am seriously struggling, i go straight to the nest and post and read. 7 years plus of inspiration and information. It reminds me hourly where i've been and where i want to be. So come on over and pull up a twig my friend. That place saves lives.

Wishing all a safe, sober and magical weekend. G

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Kradle,i had noticed you not posting here and i've missed you tons! however i did read your post in your Kradle thread that you were gonna be posting there for awhile,i like that it's not all al in your face talk here,i'm able to put that in the back of my mind,i need these ladies and the daily thread to just focus on living life,and everybody here is honest,Mama tells when she's had wine on date night,Sun has opened up here,K9,Dots too,don't feel sadSun,i was gonna comment on your ab,i'm glad you found a way to make it work,now take it lady! just messin,hi Glassy,guess i need to clear my p.m's,heya Mr.G,also i agree with Dots,this time of year i'm feeling like a chicken with my head cut off getting shit done!! i love each of you dearly and i treasure our friendship

[Guitarista]

i like that it's not all al in your face talk here,i'm able to put that in the back of my mind,i need these ladies and the daily thread to just focus on living life

Hiya Pauly.

Yeah, good point. We don't always want to talk about booze. Hope all's well with you and your's. G

[paulywogg]

Mr.G,the less i talk/think about al,the better off i am,of course there is time when it's unavoidable and HAS to be talked about to sort it out,all is well in paulysville atm,i wanna keep it that way

[Dottie Belle]

It is tttttttttttttoooooooooooo quiet here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[sunshinedaisies]

Good Morning everyone - I was EXHAUSTED yesterday and was in bed by 7.30 ! Asleep by 8.15 and up this morning at 4.15 !! But I did get lots accomplished yesterday which was good - finally got the whole room cut in with the paint so now just have to do the rollering - YEAH - and did both coats of the cutting in too so I am well pleased. Also worked out in the garden pulling old stuff out so I can hopefully plant some bulbs today - I have left it way too late this year and will be so sad if I cannot get these in but the dirt is pretty wet so am not sure if I will be able to or not. I also went on the treadmill, plus walked the dog for an hour !! I do SO much more when I am AF !!

Yes, it is very quiet here at the moment - not sure why .... MB isn't around, neither is K9, nor Lizann or Fen or Nora. Maybe it is 'cos it is a holiday weekend ?

Anyway - Meggie - people WILL get violently sick on AB if they drink - that is the idea of taking it - so that one doesn't drink! I can understand your shrink not wanting to give it to folk if she gets that many that drink after taking it but there is no way on earth that I would ever let a drop touch my lips after taking any ! Which is why even though I am only taking 1/8 of a tab I will still not drink - so it is a teeny tiny amount that I am taking which is better for my body but it works for me - not sure if it would be effective against AL but I will never ever test it to see!!

Dottie - does Hubs object when you have to drag him along when someone else cannot go to your church thing ? Why did he have to go with you ? Was this something you were actually going to, as opposed to being a basement lady for ?

LOL Pauly - yes I am taking the AB - I take it when I first get up while my resolve is still strong !

Hi there G - good to see you !

Got to go and get ready for work - also call my mum which I do every Sunday ....

have a great Sunday everyone, Hugs, Sun XXX

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Dreary and gloomy here today but not too cold....off to church then we decorate the church alter and make soup.
Sun dh does not mind when I drag him to help. I was meeting my friend and her husband and so the guys could talk and wander around the store....he is a good sport. I am only going to ask if he wants to go tonight and it is OK if he doesn't. We are involved in a lot of church things...he doesn't participate in the funeral stuff but on Thursday of this week there is a memorial for our friend who died so I am sure he will want to attend that.
Gotta finish my smoothie then off we go.