One Step at a time - January 2015

[Rusty]

Dottie...so sorry I didn't see your post. I don't fit the criteria either but I don't think I would want either surgery. For that lab band surgery criteria, my client who had it told me she had to prove to the insurance company that her regular doc "counseled" her about her weight for a year with no success. This was not the case...she lied to have the lap band surgery and her regular doc went along with it. She said she lost about 70 lbs. but it's been no picnic. She can't eat steak (her favorite), and she has put about 35 lbs. back on...so then they go in and tighten the band so she can't eat as much. She was desperate, though, in her mind. She quit smoking and put 60 lbs. on in 3 months, and hates exercise, and won't do it...not even walking. Because of the surgery, she has developed severe acid reflux. She is not a drinker so at least she doesn't have that beast to deal with.

Mama-I am glad you are happy with your decision to have the surgery. Your hub's attitude towards other people's weight is that typically "jock" attitude. My football player father was the same way when it came to my weight and my mom's. Like you said, you have great coping skills, and you have far more good than bad, and your hubs has so many good features. Yep, he chose you. Smart man. :-).

K9, I'm with Mama...find a new place, get a little money saved up, and have a pro do your hair. Mine is a combo of blonde and red and it doesn't fade. :-) Blondes have more fun, I think. Hahah

[K9Lover]

Good for you Dottie! LOL at the Peanut Butter vs. hair thing! I remember waaaay back in the day when I could afford the highlights and all that...now I just buy whatever is on sale at Walmart. lol

Wow Mama - I had no idea all of the marriage drama surrounding your surgery, although I would have had the same reaction! And regarding your comment earlier about not wanting to be alone and hanging on out of desperation...I think you're a lot stronger than that and if need be, you would be alone and happy rather than in a relationship and miserable. BUT...I am GLAD you and Papa Bear have a good marriage, overall...I mean there is no perfect one, but yours seems pretty good!! Like you said, more good than bad!

[mama bear]

I am so glad you are here Rusty......our little family was shrinking.
I had severe acid reflux before the surgery....fyi. It has stopped completely.
And yes - my hubs is a jock to the core. High school football star and played at Florida State. I dreamed of dating the big man on campus......and I finally got it.......not quite what I expected, but he loves me huge! No cheating....good daddy....
I'll take that! A therapist told me years ago when I was fussing about how jealous and bossy he was.....to quit call it "nagging" and call if "cherishing....I have never forgotten that.

[mama bear]

x post Niner......I am not the easiest person to be with!! I have abandonment issues and of course, addiction issues.
But I am super cute....... :sohappy:

[Rusty]

Dots, I laughed at the peanut butter remark and the comments about his daughter and his ex. Hahahah!!! Love it!!

[Rusty]

Mama, I see where you're coming from. Your husband loves you massively, good father and no cheating. No cheating. That's important. I feel comfortable with all of you on this thread. It's a great thread and truthfully, Mama, I missed "talking" to you. You and I have talked on the phone and PM'd each other. I like this regular communication. Winners beget winners, right? So here I am with all of you. Thank you for making me feel welcome. :heartbeat:

Time to work out now.. been eating like a pig all day. Oink, oink. Ooh...look, the temperature's gone up from 11 below to 1 below. Heat Wave!! Hahah!

[paulywogg]

K9,an extra 600 bux a month? Run don't walk to break the lease haha,when I left California the law was they could only charge until they rented it out when we broke our lease,it may have changed but if you're on good terms with the landlord, I'm sure he'll understand, as for the guy,bleh,sounds like he needed a place to crash, I don't trust people over 25 who don't drive or have a car,usually something is up,I'm exhausted but drank too much coffee! I hate that feeling, hi Rusty,great advice Bobbi text me and she's safe and sound in Portland, still sad but I'll get back to routine in a few days(I hope) I love red hair too,it's my fave but even the pro Shit fades fast in my hair, too much styling and washing,Mama,did you lose weight with the cancer at all? I've been watching my 600 lb life too,I feel bad for them ,so many things we take for granted like bathing, getting something off the floor, driving, etc

[Dottie Belle]

Rusty where are u?? I am in Ohio and it got up to 20 today but later this week they are predicting -5 overnightweek....bbbbbbbbbbrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[Dottie Belle]

OH and now they are predicting 3-5 inches of snow for tomorrow...I get my hair done tomorrow....nnnnnnnnnnnnooooooooooooo

[K9Lover]

Yay Pauly is here, I been wonderin' where you at gurl! LOL Sorry you're missing Bobbi so much...I know the feeling with Sierra, but I've noticed that as time passes it DOES get easier. Sometimes we just do an "I love you" text and that's it for the whole day. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to see her, but I guess she needs to get her own life.

I think my way out of the lease is going to be my bankruptcy. My attorney said he will write in the remainder of my lease kind of like a creditor that I won't have to pay. And my friend getting me the new spot knows I am in the middle of bankruptcy, I think it will work out....so the yard sales start this weekend! I will probably need to have about 12 of them to get rid of my crap!

Oh, and another thing I forgot to mention about "Mike" (that's not really his name ya know...LOL) is that my Cocker Spaniel was very uneasy around him. Whenever we'd sit on the couch, the dog would get between us, and he's not normally like that. They say animals can sense things about people....

[SKendall]

K9, I think 2015 will be very good year for you.

[mama bear]

Rusty is in Wisconsin Dots.

I wonder if the landlord says ok to your move if it needs to be in the bankruptcy???
Beef stew has been in the crock pot all day.....YUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

And no, Pauly, I did not lose weight with the cancer. I joked that I was the only B in town going through chemo and not losing a damn pound!

Dots - it's awesome that you don't have to take any meds. If it weren't for the black hole of depression when I spent days trying to figure out how to kill myself, I wouldn't be taking them either.

Off for some Netflix! Nora - check in!!

[mama bear]

SK - x post! Hiya!!

[Rusty]

Dottie, I am in southeastern Wisconsin, on the border of Wisconsin and Illinois, and about 25 minutes from MWO member, MossRose. The Farmer's Almanac is predicting that this going to be the coldest winter ever here in Wisconsin. SHIT! I all I have to say. We'll be getting more snow tomorrow. UGH.

K9-I think it was another red flag that your dog didn't like "Mike." I'm still thinking that his broken promise that he would be sober and ended up drinking vodka was the first red flag. I am glad you were smart enough and strong enough to send him packing. One more comment on the lack of "performance" on his part. My ex-boyfriend, the one I was in a relationship with for five years, had no problem playing checkers after drinking red wine...but when it came to vodka, that was a different story altogether. I was surprised because he was 6'4" and about 250 lbs., and just 1 martini would prevent from playing checkers. It might have been the same with Mike, too...good thing you didn't get attached to him physically AND mentally. I don't know if any of you besides Mama know my story, but my family confronted me on October 13, 2008, and wanted me to go to inpatient rehab, and I refused. The day after I told my family I wasn't going, I called an addiction therapist and asked her why rehab is the best way to go, and she said it is most effective when a person wants to get sober but is in a household where their spouse/partner is either abusive verbally or physically, or is also abusing drugs or alcohol. For me, if my partner were drinking heavily, I would have a very hard staying sober, and I think getting rid of Mike was good for you on many levels. I think you might be able to get back to sobriety and stay that way, K9. Just adding more two cents. Ok, the center for therapeutic recovery is now closed for the evening. Hahahahahahhaahahaha

[Rusty]

Hi Skendall, sorry...cross post! Good to see you!!