One Step at a Time -February 2015

[red67]

Dottie, I have no idea why things happen like this. It is so unfair. I don't know what to say to make any of this seem manageable or understandable. All I can say is keep talking about it and reaching out. Sometimes we just need to keep going a minute at a time. You are a wonderful woman and your husband sounded like a true partner to you. Nothing and no one will ever replace him or your connection. I believe in God and that our spirits stay connected to our loved ones. He is with you. The hurt is unimaginable without his physical presence but his love is inside you, in your heart.

Please know you and your husband are in all of our prayers. I pray you can get some rest tonight.

[Samstone]

I am so sorry Dottie.... holding you in the light.
Sam

[Dottie Belle]

Thanks red that was really good!!

[little beagle]

Dottie I feel your pain right now. I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs Dear Lady.

[Pavati]

Dottie--

Your posts about your husband were so matter-of-factly a story of love and support - no question that you two had a wonderful relationship. I can't imagine your pain or sense of loss. Seems like you have a good plan as stated in this thread's name - one step at a time - with the love and support from your friends here and at home.

Pav

[Dottie Belle]

Cant sleep again. The Valium helped for a while but here I am again. Wonder how long I can go without sleep????

[Rusty]

Dottie, see if your doc will give you a script for Ambien. I couldn't sleep when I quit drinking and it worked for me and a few other AF peoples I know of on MWO. Insomnia will just compound your sadness.

[FlyAway]

Dottie I am so very sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

[mama bear]

Good Morning loves
HUGS Dots
Rusty is right..get some ambien....or if the valium is a small dose take two,,,but do not drink on it....Sleep is important right now...

[Dottie Belle]

I took 1 Valium before bed and another one at 3 am so I got about 5 hours of sleep. I feel less of a zombie...I dont like sleeping pills. I tend to react badly to meds anyway.
Need to pick out a suit for him to wear for visitation....This i still not real....My friend stayed over again. I was afraid to take the Valium alone in case something happened.
Another day to try and figure this out....I am a mess.

[mama bear]

Valium wont hurt you as long as you don't take too much or mix it with booze
Pick our the suit that he was the most handsome in. Are some of your church friends there today?
It won't be real for a long time, sweetie.
I have conference call most of the day, but I will be checking in all day

[paulywogg]

Hey all, Dots, glad you got some sleep at least, I'm surprised the valium didn't knock you out being that you're not used to it,but I guess grief is stronger than valium, this doesn't feel real to me either, just the weekend before you guys were at Costco and worried that you might get snowed in on Monday and couldn't get there in time, wish that would've happened instead I'm in awe at how you're handling all of this, you are a strong woman Dots Mama, how's Nana?Willcheck in later, have the addiction counselor this afternoon he wants to see me wweekly but I think every 2 weeks or monthly is enough, try and have a good Wednesday, love you guys

[mama bear]

please share what the addiction counselor says if you are comfortable....you are like me and are an open book!!
Nana had another "episode"....it's a complete mystery to me, but it looks as though she will not be able to live alone so we have a lot of decisions to make.....sigh
Dots - hugs

[K9Lover]

Good morning everyone!
Dots - Sorry you didn't get much sleep but glad your friend was there with you. Hang in there, Pauly is right, you are a strong lady. It still doesn't seem real to me either, I feel like I knew him, you always spoke so highly of him. Be secure in the fact that you loved each other very much. I wish I knew how to take some of your pain away...
Mama - Sorry to hear about Nana, what does an episode entail, a mini-stroke or something like that?
Pauly - Like Mama said, if there's anything you'd like to share from the counselor, I am all ears too...I will take all the help I can get!
Sierra is doing fine for now. She started high school yesterday and has reconnected with friends. So like the rest of you, I am taking things one day at a time. Once I get moved I won't feel so lost, hopefully.
Be back later to check in on y'all.
Sending all of you love.
Take care of yourself my dear friend Dots! :hug:

[NoraC]

Morning all -

Dots - I'm glad that you got some sleep but wish that it had been better. I agree with everyone - this is such a hard time for you right now. Just take it slow & easy. Give yourself time to grieve.

Mama - so sorry about Nana

Sunni - how is your Mum?

K9 - Glad that Sierra survived her first day back to school ok. I know that was hard on you.

Pauly - yes, please share what you can.

Hang in there everyone - love each other. :heartbeat: