One Step at a Time -February 2015

[Lizann]

Oh dear sweet Dottie! (((((Hugs))))! I saw the picture on fb and dh certainly is a very handsome man. How long were you guys married, if you don't mind me asking?

Welcome bird! I look forward to getting to know you.

Mama, hate to say it, but I've missed the posts with Bri drama. I hope she doesn't give you too much trouble. Have they figured out about is wrong with nana?

Sunny, yes you are right about the virus and antibiotics. My coworker took some antibiotics on the cruise with her just in case. Perhaps antidiarrehea and anti nausea meds would be better. How is mum? How bad was the stroke. Can you speak with mum, at all?

It's, Thursday and I'm home. Kitchen is progressing. I will start cleaning up and putting things back today.

Pauly, how are you? Haven't heard much from you. You ok?

Rudy, Nora, k9 and anyone else I missed have a good Thursday. Check back later.

[mama bear]

Hi Bird!!!! So glad you are back!!
Good Morning Sweet Dots.
Tucky is back today Lizz, so I am sure drama will ensue. Her redneck family is fighting over Poppa's assets....Tucky's momma is trying to steal copies of the death certificate so she can get access to some IRA's that Poppa left to Tucky...
Dottie - please do no think I am being insensitive. If ANYTHING I say about the crap in my life upsets you, tell me to hush.
Nana was moved out of ICU and is another room as of this morning. Not sure where we go from here.
At work.....bacinabut
Where are you Pauly???????????????????????????????????????

[sunshinedaisies]

Hi Liz - I have been able to speak with mum once but now they won't let anyone talk to her now as they want her to stay in her room - the number I call is in the office - not sure if there is a phone in her room. The stroke wasn't too bad as strokes go - so was pleased with progression but they are still doing more tests and now this noro thing does have me a tad worried. I am thinking of going over next week - just cannot decide.

I am glad that your kitchen is finally coming together .....that will be such a relief for you.

Dottie - I do not have Facebook so will have to take everyone's word that he was handsome - I am sure he was. Life is going to be so odd for you for some time to come and yes of course you are feeling miserable and sad - I wish we could do something - words are just so inadequate. Lorry loads of love and hugs to you ((((hugs))))

Hugs, Sun xx

[paulywogg]

Hey all, I've been here,I checked in yesterday twice, weirdos! Haha,Dots, he was a handsome man who looks like a gentle soul,can tell by the eyes,how are you doing? Brady is 17 today, time just flies I swear, probably give him his cake and prezzies tomorrow we usually do it on the weekend but Kell has to work all weekend and gets off late,anyways off to finish my stupid hair, I think I'm gonna have Kell cut off a few inches, I'm totally over long hair!too much freaking work, have a good Thursday everybody

[mama bear]

oopsie Pauly - I am ding dong
between work and here I tend to forget who said what!
I LOVE my shorter hair and I feel it is more age appropriate for me.....
off to copy and paste Byrd's beautiful post
love you all

[mama bear]

I shared Byrdies lovely post with Tucky....very timely.....

[Dottie Belle]

My friend just left to go home and re group. She will pick me up later to run a few errands. I dont want to sit here all day and cry....
We were married 18 years...I was so in hope of the 20th. We had a cruise planned and so much more...damn it anyway....for the first time in my life I was happy....:sad:

[mama bear]

Dottie - I have always remembered this poem by W.H.Auden. It made me weep when I watched "Four Weddings and a Funeral.:

Stop all the clocks, cut off the telephone,
Prevent the dog from barking with a juicy bone,
Silence the pianos and with muffled drum
Bring out the coffin, let the mourners come.

Let aeroplanes circle moaning overhead
Scribbling on the sky the message He is Dead,
Put crepe bows round the white necks of the public doves,
let the traffic policemen wear black cotton gloves.

he was my North, my South, my East and West,
My working week and my Sunday rest,
My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song;
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.

The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good.

I think this beautifully expresses the grief over loosing the love of your life.
I posted this to be helpful, not to make things worse, Dots. Love, love, love you and I am hurting so bad for you right now.

[Dottie Belle]

mama that was great a keeper fir sure!!

[jane27]

Mama, That was beautiful. :hug: There is one that I heard a few years back. There seem to be a few versions out there. Here is one of them.

Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner.

All is well.

~ Henry Scott Holland

[mama bear]

glad you like it.......
something else you may want to look at is Joan Didion's book she wrote when her husband dropped dead in front of her. I will google the name. I read it after Pop died and was so moved by her beautiful, vivid writing...
bacinabit

[mama bear]

it's called "The Year of Magical Thinking". It's so powerful.....

[jane27]

Dots, Also this one is good. (Nothing Was Ever The Same by Kay Redfield Jamison)

http://www.amazon.com/Nothing-Was-Same-Redfield-Jamison/dp/0307277895#

[narilly]

Mama, that was good.

[NoraC]

Dots - I agree with everyone else......your husband was so very handsome and he looks like such a loving man. :heartbeat: