One Step at a Time - March 2015

[mama bear]

Hi Beloved Mr. Bear
heading to Nana's to cook dinner...
where is everybody?

[Dottie Belle]

Today had just been bad because I am alone, dogs are here and I take them out frequently. Back to the gym tomorrow. I know that will help with my moods and sleep. I just feel so darn lost today. So much to do and I dont feel like doing anything so I am just watching all the things on the DVR.....not the life I want or planned...

[Rusty]

Dottie-watching things on the DVR is really OK! You will accomplish all the tasks you need to in due time....don't worry about all that you have to do.:hug: You'll feel overwhelmed. I take "mental health" days on a regular basis, and I do just what you're doing...I watch DVDs of movies I love that make me laugh and I sit in front of the TV with a big fire going...and hang out in sweatpants and a sweatshirt all day. It's my way of escaping....and it sure is healthier than getting drunk, which is what I used to do. If you're like me, you feel guilty for being "unproductive." I USED to feel guilty, but not anymore.

Do you think writing down your thoughts might be helpful for you? At least if you start crying, the tears just fall on the paper. I definitely think exercise will help...gotta build up those endorphins.:hug:

You know what you might want to do....reach out to Lavande on the Monthly Abstinence thread. She would probably have some good suggestions for you if you ask her. She's very smart and helpful, as you know...she would be someone who could come up with suggestions for things to occupy your sad mind and heart.

How I wish I lived closer to you....I'd be over there in a heartbeat.

I'll be back later to see how you're doing.

Love,

Rusty

[abcowboy]

Hi Dottie, funny thing happened yesterday and I thought of you, this has probably all ready been mentioned, but at any rate...

It was my FIL's 81st birthday yesterday, my MIL is 75, and we drove over to spend the day with them. The MIL asked us if we could put Skype on their home computer so that Bubba and her could Skype instead of just talking on the phone. I'm sure many of your friends here would love to Skype with you, maybe you wouldn't feel as alone? Just a thought.....

[Rusty]

Hi abc.....I'm half Canadian, and I just got back from Stratford, ONT. LOVE LOVE LOVE Canada.

Your advice to our dear Dottie is priceless. Thanks :-)

[Dottie Belle]

Good idea now I have to figure out how to set up the Skype on this laptop. Had it on the old one but it lost its little mind and I had to replace...may take a little while but I will figure it out.

[Lizann]

Yes Dottie, great idea with the Skype. We did it all the time when my son lived inParis! Of course I don't know how to use it, but my kiddies are computer savy and could help.

I did nothing today either! Went to church, ran after lunch which was incredibly stupid because I got nauseous! Thankfully that has passed. Talked for two hours on the phone with an old friend that I haven't spoken to in forever. She's not in a great place right now, story for another day. I put up my spring decorations inside and wreaths on the doors. Feeling excited that spring is almost here. Weird that it's still so light out and it's late. Hubby has been napping all day, guessing he'll be up late tonight when I am ready to sleep.

[mama bear]

home from dinner with Nana...she is pretty pitiful and exhausts us with her endless complaining, but we will take that over the alternative
Skype sounds good Dots
Lucky Cat is peeing pink....that can't be good...
Going to try and go to bed despite the time change so I can get up all perky tomorrow
Love you all
and mental health days are a complete necessity in my opinion!

[mama bear]

good morning sweeties!

[bird]

Hi all
MB, sorry about your cat. Pouncer is not doing well either, big around as a soccer ball in the middle and very slow........Dottie, I think skype would be very good. I used to have it. Let us know if you decide to install it. Good luck with the group.........Pauly, I know how you feel. All I have to do is pop a beer and my youngest gives me the look!....Nora, glad you got your checkbook done, and the beads sound good....Reccie, what is a footy?....Lizzann, there is a coffee shop right in the hospital here. The guy who runs it does a lot of business and has another shop downtown...Sun, sounds like things are coming together over there.............I am trying to do without the antabuse. It seems like when I am on it I can't wait to get off and drink. We are very busy at work so getting through the week will be easy enough I think. As much as I dislike my job, it can be a bit of a refuge from the beer...didn't have to change my clocks because I never changed them last time, so now they are right:happy2:...getting ready for work...have a good day all

[Rusty]

Good Morning, Friends!

Dottie-Skype is a wonderful idea! I hope it works out for you.:hug:

Mama-sorry to hear about Lucky peeing pink. :0( Not good.

Sorry that I am not addressing everyone but I am leaving for Alabama for work in a few.

Hope you all have a wonderful day!!

[Rusty]

Hi Bird, sorry, cross post!

[abcowboy]

Dottie, if you need help setting up Skype, I'm just a phone call away... :hug:

[Lizann]

Good morning! Still having a bit of trouble with this time change thing!
Bird thanks for the words of encouragement on the coffee shop thing. I hope it works out for him, I really do. I worry about my daughter, though, you know? Oh, that one, gives me a run for my money, but darn it I love my girl!
So my son Mark May be interning in Switzerland this summer! They asked for his passport and are applying for a work permit and residency status for him! Fingers crossed. Mama may be going to Switzerland this summer!!!!!
Dottie, I read that grief post you liked on FB. Brought tears to my eyes. How did you make it through the weekend? Let us know how your meeting goes, tonight right? And the grief ounselor tomorrow? Baby steps. Sending you more hugs!!
Pauly where are you?
I'll check in later. Happy Monday!

[Dottie Belle]

OK I know I posted here. where did it go?????
Morning all,
So much to do and no enthusiasm to do anything. I am hoping the gym later and the group tonight might help. My life as I knew it is over and no clue how to move forward. Even one step at a time seems difficult at times. My worst nightmare became reality....
Lawyer not in yet so I wait. Need to start making a list of things to do. I did most everything anyway but he was my sounding board and rock. At least he could tell me when I was going off in the wrong direction now I am just floating...
Gotta feed the dogs and figure out what to do first.
Meeting with group is tonight and counselor tomorrow. The counselor is through a hospice here and so I can only do a few sessions but will do research or ask her for a referral to run through my insurance. Who knows what that will cost???? Gotta get a grip on money too. So darn many things...