One Step at a Time - March 2015

[Dottie Belle]

sun I will look up Rhodiola and see if my local store carries it.
Fellow just left with another full car. The framework is gone now need to re-arrange the room. He is trying to sell some of the file cabinets and tools for me too. He is a really nice fellow from our club so that helps me a lot. I wouldn't know what to do with this stuff otherwise. Having it gone will be good so I can move a few things around and not have to be sad every time I go to the basement to do the laundry.
Friend coming over later to be with me tonight. I am sure the meltdown will start later in the day. The nights without him are the worst.

[sunshinedaisies]

Dear Dottie - so glad that they are helping you - I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you. And if you have a meltdown later - then so be it - you are entitled ! With the Rhodiola, you need one that has at least 3% rosavins and 1% salidroside ..... there are many out there ! Mine is a 250 mg capsule and I take 2 initially and then one a couple more times during the day - but get two in you initially.

Hang in there - hugs to you ((((hugs))))

Love, Sun xx

[Lizann]

Ok sunny you talked me into, where do I get rhodiola? Is it a supplement?

[NoraC]

Hello everyone.....nothing much to report here. I am ready to get back to it. I am going to get off this roller coaster ride.

Haven't been able to read back completely. I will check in later.

Dots - (((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

[NoraC]

Mama - I hope that your first day is going well.

[paulywogg]

Hey Nora and K9 Sunni, I've read that rhodiola can cause insomnia, I tried it once but felt jittery, I already take mag/cal,everyday

[Nursie]

Hello lovies,
Dottie, my heart just aches for you. You may not feel like it but you are doing really well. It has only been a month, this is soooo early in the stage of grief. You are probably partly on autopilot right now in some ways. It helps to protect us from the weight of the grief. I think you are doing everything you are supposed to do and coping in a healthy way. Grief is such an incredibly painful and complicated process. It's never gone, but it changes and becomes manageable. I read a lot about grief because I feel like it helps me to deal with losing my brother and my mother.
I still haven't received my mom's autopsy report, but I know it will say she overdosed. I still can't believe she's gone.
I'm feeling sick today from the chemo. Really nauseous, bones hurt, and hot flashes like crazy. (Chemo induced menopause is SO FUN!) I'm so glad I have my little doggie to comfort me. When I cry, she squints her little eyes at me like she is crying too.
Love to you all xoxo

[Dottie Belle]

Thanks Nursie.
Sorry you are going through so much yourself. Hugs to you...

[mama bear]

Hi gang....everyone seems so sad today. Much love, Dottie.
I am completely exhausted......I swear they pried my cranium open and dumped buckets of information in! It's going to take a few months, but I will be fine. I am travelling to Orlando for the next few days and actually rooming with my boss.....yuck...so I may not be around much. After that, hopefully things will settle down.
Love you all and Nursie, I hope you start feeling better.
Come on Nora....TTFP!
Happy moving K9!!
Hey lizz, Sun, and Pauly
I hav to be at the office a 7am to drive, so I am going to bed early!

[Lizann]

Seriously? Just lost a long post!
Mama, good luck with the Orlando thing. I would be a little uncomfortable in that situation, but in think it may just be me.
Nursie, so good to hear from you! If anyone can help our beloved Dottie, I think you can.
So my family is "making" me go to an al/drug group at a large church in our area. I was initially resistant, but at this point I'm like what the heck, I've put them through so much. Maybe this isn't such a bad idea. What do you guys think? PAuly, you mentioned AA, what is that like? I just don't know what to expect.

[mama bear]

I'm not thrilled about rooming with her either, but I am not sure I have much choice.
Lizz- be open to anything, at this point. You are a spiritual person and you may like AA....
it's 4 am here....gonna be a long few days
Sun = do you think you will be happy with short hair?? That's a HUGE change!

[bird]

Hi all
Sun, I have had short and long hair, and prefer the short. I let it grow a bit in winter but not much. Try it. It will always grow back if you don't like it...Dottie, I remember the evenings were always harder for me. It takes a long time...MB have fun with your roomie ...Lizzann let us know how the meeting goes..I used to go to online meetings at women for sobriety, which I found very helpful. Need to start going back to them....Nora, I am with you. Back on the ab again for me...didn't do that well at the yard sale. Had it across from a giant arts and crafts event with lots of traffic but...then came home and drank a lot....Pouncer has stopped eating completely.... One kid has band till 630 every day this week so getting in late, that helps...gotta go hang out clothes before work...later

[sunshinedaisies]

Morning everyone ! Nursie - sorry that you are feeling so poorly - that is just the pits for you ..... just take things easy and do what ever your body wants to do ... I know how hard it is right now ((((hugs)))).

Dottie - same with you - except of course I do not know how hard it is for you - I can only imagine. Just take things one day at a time and rest as much as you can .... someone on here suggested exercise I think - maybe walk the dogs or something just to get out and get some exercise ? Try and remember to eat or you will get sick ...

Liz - what a pain losing the post - sometimes I see a little yellow box come in the corner where it says 'auto saved' - although not sure where it auto saves it too .... as for your family 'making' you go to that group - I would say give it a go and see what you think - you never know - you might like it. Group things are not for me personally but we are all different. And once you have gone, then you can tell them that you went and it wasn't for you !! I do not know what the answer is to AL - we are all fighting it and all have to find our own way with it - I am really hoping the Nal works for me even if it takes two years !!!

Pauly - I remember talking about Rhodiola once before and now remember you saying it made you jittery - and no, it isn't that causing my insomnia as I often forget to take it !! I am wondering if it is the Nal actually. But will suffer it as I intend to keep on with the Nal. And Rhodiola can be bought at a Health Food shop pretty much for those who are interested ...

Thanks for the comments re the hair - it would be such a huge change for me though and yes I know it grows back - but it is just SO long these days ... and all I do with it is scrag it back in a pony tail every day. I also bought a lipstick - WOO HOO !!! Never usually wear it - only makeup is mascara 'cos my lashes are so blonde without it I have teeny eyes, and foundation. I am also going to get my lashes and eyebrows dyed!! Do you think I am going through a mid life crisis ?? (Okay - a later life crisis).

Jan - can't say I would much relish the idea of sharing a room with my boss - of course my boss is male - Ha ha ha. Anyway I hope it all goes well for you.

Nora - I wish you would post more - you pop in and say you haven't read back and will then post again - but you don't. I can feel your struggle - wouldn't posting here help you re our support ? I know that I speak for everyone when I say that I would love to see more of you !!

Hi Bird - I love that you can offer help to Dottie - having been there you do know how she is feeling - have you thought about the two of you Pm'ing maybe ? Just a thought .... although it might bring it all back to you too much.

K9 - good luck with the moving - it will be such a relief for you to finally get settled again after all the upheaval that you have been going through ....

Okay - time for me to walk a dog or two. No work today but have a chap coming to inspect our house to see what turns up in the inspection for when we sell the house so we know if anything major needs to be done ... wish us luck!!

Hugs, Sun XXX

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
sun I am exercising 3 times a week. And I had 57 flights of stairs yesterday helping the fellow load all the stuff from the basement. The gal that spent the night last night is going to go to the part with me sometimes. I will take a dog and she will take granddaughter in stroller. I am getting out as much as possible I think.
New grief group tonight. Hope it helps me heal. 6 weeks and there is a topic each week. Another one tomorrow night. I know there are no answers but with each thing I do there are things I learn. My life will never ever be the same so I have to figure out what the new life looks like whether I want to or not.

[K9Lover]

Hi Everyone!
(((Dots))) and (((Nursie))), big hugs to you both!!
Mama - That would be a bit awkward rooming with your new boss...maybe you can go sightseeing and stay out of the room as much as possible. Why can't they just splurge and get you your own room?! Anyways, we are anxious to hear how your new job goes.
We FINALLY got settled into our new place...it's very cute. I will have to get used to stairs again, but who knows, I may accidentally lose a pound or two! I got the living room arranged last night...tonight I need to dig out all my kitchen stuff so I can start cooking again...and get my clothes sorted. I am down to one pair of jeans and the zipper broke, so yeah, I gotta keep tugging my shirt down all day. LOL My dad and uncle did all of the hard moving yesterday, I felt bad because my dad's knee was hurting but he just keeps on going....thank goodness the hard part is over. We slept in our own beds last night and it was heaven!
Ok, time to work...been missing a lot lately so lots to catch up on.
Come back Nora!!!