One Step at a Time - August 2015

[fennel]

Yep ladies, Bubba introduced me to Perry lol...

Your wife's name is Bubba? : )

[fennel]

fen I am so sorry you are going through this. We are ALL here for you and you have my number if you need to talk/vent.
Had lunch with Paul and then he come over and I made dinner for us. He is so nice I just wish he was a little better off financially but stupid Jerry kept telling me how much money he had but he didnt have an empathetic bone in his body. sigh
Gym tomorrow then not sure what else. Laundry is overflowing the baskets so maybe I should attempt to catch up.
Hello to everyone else.

Not that you can't have both, but I'd take empathy over money any day. There are plenty of fish in the sea, Dots. :hug:

[Dottie Belle]

MOrning all,
Rusty you hit the nail on the head with jerry. I think all of the above are some of his issues. Paul is kind and sweet and has an interesting sense of humor. We were both raised Catholic and are/were redheads. Seeing him again this weekend.

Fen protect yourself and whatever money you have. I am always too nice for my own good and would hate to see you get hurt financially too. Find a good lawyer.

Gym later then laundry I guess.

[Rusty]

Dots-Funny, I was raised Catholic (and still am) and I am a redhead, too. Natural redhead for 23 years, now salon-infused.

Fenny-I don't mean to upset you but I was thinking about something...do you think Mrs. Fen was a workaholic because she THOUGHT that's what it took for you two to live comfortably so you didn't have to work? Just a hypothetical question. I only ask this because I'm in business for myself, my family owns a successful company, and my dad was a workaholic. He worked a lot of hours so he could provide for his wife and five children, and put all 5 kids in private schools, etc. I'm a workaholic because I have a passion for my work and I have expensive taste, unfortunately. I work this hard to pay for the lifestyle I have chosen. I was just wondering, that's all....and asking as a loving, objective person, not a judgmental one. Also, I've been meaning to tell you this for the longest time. I love our little thread but felt that maybe it had gone off the path for a while. Thank you for bringing direction back to us. HUGS to you, squirrel. :-)

Dots-I forgot to add that maybe Jerry thinks he can compensate for his "little Jerry" with money. Oh, my naughty head is going in the gutter.

MAMA MAMA MAMA....where for art thou? Come out, come out!!! We miss you here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[NoraC]

Yes - I've missed Fen. We need her here. :hug:

Fen - I've been thinking about Mrs Fen. You need to protect yourself. You all had an arrangement in that you stayed home and took care of EVERYTHING (an example is for her to text you and ask you to pick up pants for her!). I don't know what is possibly going on in her head right now. But, bottom line is that you need to get a lawyer and protect what is yours! You deserve this because you have worked for it all these years. I am heartbroken that you have to sell the cabin. I know how much you love it. Hang in there my dear friend.

I will be back. I'm at work and need to pretend for a bit.

Have a great day everyone!

[Dottie Belle]

Rusty "Dots-I forgot to add that maybe Jerry thinks he can compensate for his "little Jerry" with money. Oh, my naughty head is going in the gutter." ROFLMAO......Yes I think that is an issue too.....

[fennel]

Dots-Funny, I was raised Catholic (and still am) and I am a redhead, too. Natural redhead for 23 years, now salon-infused.

Fenny-I don't mean to upset you but I was thinking about something...do you think Mrs. Fen was a workaholic because she THOUGHT that's what it took for you two to live comfortably so you didn't have to work? Just a hypothetical question. I only ask this because I'm in business for myself, my family owns a successful company, and my dad was a workaholic. He worked a lot of hours so he could provide for his wife and five children, and put all 5 kids in private schools, etc. I'm a workaholic because I have a passion for my work and I have expensive taste, unfortunately. I work this hard to pay for the lifestyle I have chosen. I was just wondering, that's all....and asking as a loving, objective person, not a judgmental one. Also, I've been meaning to tell you this for the longest time. I love our little thread but felt that maybe it had gone off the path for a while. Thank you for bringing direction back to us. HUGS to you, squirrel. :-)

Mrs. Fen is a clone of her dad, who was the consummate workaholic. When he retired, he started his own very successful business. Since I have left, Mrs. Fen has plunged herself even more deeply into her work. She's very successful. She loves to work. She was complaining about the amount of travel she does (as was I) and I really wanted her home more. It seems it was easier to eject me than slow down her travel/work.

Of course, I'm left dealing with the cat while she's gone. And I just got bad news. The cat's renal failure is progressing very rapidly. The vet wonders if she has intestinal lymphoma and is suggesting an ultrasound. Of course, I can't get a hold of Mrs. Fen. : (

Thanks for your kind words. <3

[fennel]

Also, I suggested to Mrs. Fen that she start her own business, as she was frustrated with mean bosses who weren't nearly as bright as her. I supported us financially with my dialysis job and carried her on my health insurance while she grew her business. I do deserve a little more than she wants to part with.

[NoraC]

Also, I suggested to Mrs. Fen that she start her own business, as she was frustrated with mean bosses who weren't nearly as bright as her. I supported us financially with my dialysis job and carried her on my health insurance while she grew her business. I do deserve a little more than she wants to part with.

Fen - you do not deserve 'a little more than she wants to part with'. You deserve HALF. You might not have had a separate income during all your time together but you contributed in every way. You kept everything going and took care of so much. You were an equal contributor to this relationship & marriage. You deserve this - I can't begin to understand why she would be trying to cheat you out of what you deserve.

[fennel]

Fen - you do not deserve 'a little more than she wants to part with'. You deserve HALF. You might not have had a separate income during all your time together but you contributed in every way. You kept everything going and took care of so much. You were an equal contributor to this relationship & marriage. You deserve this - I can't begin to understand why she would be trying to cheat you out of what you deserve.

Nora, you are so kind. I wasn't going to go for half of everything because she began saving when she was so young...and earned so much more. She came from wealth and I did not. We made different choices. However...since I've been gone she's had to hire a housekeeper, only eats cereal or carry-out and the cat has clearly suffered. I took care of all of the home stuff and some of the business stuff.

I was able to locate the divorce folder with all of our financial info, which I copied while trying to tend to the dying cat. Yes, I am convinced she has cancer. I talked Mrs. Fen into coming home tonight, so she's on her way.

Honestly, this is the hardest thing I have ever done.

I managed to drag myself to a meeting and I went for a walk through a nature conservancy with a woman I met through the program. She's a loner like I am. I hope we will go on more walks or meet up together.

Thank you all for your kind words during this really difficult time.

[fennel]

Where is everybody? I hope I'm not being a big old bummer.

[paulywogg]

I'm here Fen sorry the cats so sick,I was hoping it was just acting bratty feel sorta meh today,not sad,not irritated or anxious or anything just....here,woman stuff started so that'smore than likely the culprit,ugh,the news keeps pplaying the shooting in VA?of the news people shot,I don't want to hear that audio anymore, too real and creepy, maybe it wouldn't be so bad if nobody had been killed but it makes me upset,hope everyone is enjoying the day

[fennel]

Sorry you're going through your womanly time, Pauly...I am so thrilled to be done with that!

I hadn't heard about the shooting in VA...guess I'll go tune in.

[SKendall]

Hi all. Gave my dog a flea/worm control on Sunday called TRIFEXIS. It also goes by Comfortis and different names in different countries. Peggy has been horrendously ill ever since. Trouble walking, blindness, fear, her eyes look as if she is brain damaged and doesn't respond to me.

It was the only thing I could think caused this, so I googled it. Oh boy, 10,000 FDA complaints, almost a 1,000 dogs are dead and thousands more are alive, but appear brain damaged and no longer themselves.

It is dubbed as the Agent Orange of vet meds. She had become immune to Frontline and Advantage II, so my vet aggressively pushed it. Their response to me reporting it was not welcome at all, so I won't return to that vet.

The company that makes it uses a pesticide as one of the ingredients and is owned by Eli Lilly the pharma giant.

My brain is broken from all night research. Not all dogs react this way and it's unclear why some dogs do and some dogs don't. Autopsies (narcopsies) of the dead dogs show no platelets and pancreatitis.

I touched her nose to get a temp and she howled and did the same when I tried to stroke her ears. Her stomach is hard and she doesn't seem to be able to get comfortable, she shakes and wobbles and it's truly heart wrenching. There are about 10,000 posts on f/book complaining about it.

I knew nothing about this before and some dogs handle the first couple of doses, but Peggy, like many others exhibited these symptoms after the 3rd dose. It's a pill, so I can't wash it off.

Maybe someone will read this and be spared of the same fate that Peggy is experiencing. I don't know if she will recover and just love on her when I can. She prefers small dark spaces like the closet or bathroom, this is so very hard.

[paulywogg]

Oh I'm so sorry Skendall that's horrible!!! what has the vet said?