One Step at a Time - August 2015

[All done drinking]

blue1,

I've been working so hard on my sobriety that I haven't had a chance to really read up on some of the personal things. I know Dottie has 2 beaus and loves to dance, some folks love to garden, are animal lovers like me, etc. but I've mostly skimmed the personal things as I struggle to stay abstinent. Things will get better i know as I settle into my new thought process of "I don't drink" and I will become more available as an online friend to everyone. I knew you had a sister that was ill (sorry and hope things are better for her) but didn't realize you had a sister in recovery! That is a major and very good thing for good support for you. I have a strong friend in recovery but she lives in CO. Went to my 2nd AA meeting yesterday but the lady who agreed to sponser didn't show. Even though she raised her hand to be my mentor she gave me her phone # only (didn't ask for mine) and she was more interested in talking to a friend than getting to know me so I don't really have a real person right now to help me. She wasn't at the meeting yesterday either. I am going to one AA meeting a week and coming here daily for support. Have fun with your sis tonight! Lean on her for support. Ask her questions on how the quit works for her. Share any words of wisdom you glean from her.

The AA meeting yesterday was about living in the solution, not living in the problem so folks went around the room talking about what solutions work for them in their recovery (especially with all of the stress everyone has and alcohol being a common denominator of thinking the stress will go away with it). Problem is, you still have the same problems the next day, they don't go away because one got drunk! And now you may have a hangover to boot!

Well, I have jumped out of bed after a great night's sleep. Have to say I am sleeping 100% better since quitting alcohol and I don't have any anxiety. Have had cases of a little after drinking anxiety on mornings after I've gone over my limit, so all of that is gone too.

Have a good day everyone and week-end! :love:

Addy (All Done Drinking...Yes!)

[paulywogg]

Hey guys, Blue, I loooove the olive garden, have fun Mama,I hope you get the review today,Rusty,that's funny about the Vegas signs making you think of me and I don't feel that the drinking comments were made to anyone specific, I just want this thread to feel more like a AF support home,more positive feedback on avoiding the grog ya know? I was posting on the umpteenth quit thread,but that's kind of slow now,and the daily thread is wonderful but those guys are beyond the struggle part,I guess I dunno what I'm looking for, anyways, off to visit my family this afternoon for the weekend, my nerves are kinda crazy! I don't care for traveling as it is and we're taking my Durango and I hope nothing happens cuz there's nothing between here and there,I hope my mom doesn't drive me nuts,I hope a lot of things, I'm not sure if I'll have service up there so if you don't see me for a few days that's why,hope everyone has a lovely Friday and a great,relaxing weekend, I love you ALL(warts and all haha)

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
I agree with Pauly I dont think the comment was directed at anyone but rather an open comment. We have a good family her and dont want anyone to feel like they are being picked on.
Staying AF is hard work sometimes. Dealing with the daily BS is a stresor for sure. I have thoughts about how nice it would be and how I should be able to handle it now but then reality smacks me upside the head and I realize that for me that is not the case. Dave and I have talked about how one is never enough and moderation is not reality for some of us. So here we all are supporting each other the best we can. Whatever the life crisis we are here. I am totally grateful for the support I have received since hubby died and the start of my new life. I know that I would not have been able to stay AF without ALL of you.
Date with Dave tonight and Paul tomorrow. Train club thing on Sunday if I decide to go. Gym in an hour or so. Need extra cardio today to make up for all the food I ate yesterday. Hate it when I derail my usual diet like that but it was so good....
Have a great Friday!!

[blue1]

Yea Addy....there are six of us left....and only two of us still drink.

My oldest brother has about 26years....my other brother has 5 years.......my older sister (the one that is sick) has 5 years......and my little sister has 2 years.

[blue1]

Have a safe and happy trip Pauly!!!

[paulywogg]

Dots,the last time I tried to drink I had every intention of slowly sipping beers,I only bought a few with that intent,however once I was done sipping the first,I was guzzling the second and so on,ran out and called hubs to bring me more on his way home from work, then text Kell to bring me more on her way home,absolutely no bloody way this chick can moderate! Blue, I have 6 brothers and one sister,only one brother can control his drinking,the rest are as bad as me,except my little sister has downs syndrome so she doesn't drink of course,so weird how genetic this bullshit is,one thing I wanted to mention too is sometimes Kell or Bobbi will tell me about what they drank last night or whatever and I stop them and say I just don't want to hear it,that was sort of what I was trying to convey here,ok enough beating that dead horse

[paulywogg]

X-post Blue,thank you

[NoraC]

Pauly - have a great trip. I hope that everything goes ok with your Mom. Stay strong. :hug:

[mama bear]

I am here....thanks for the texts dear friends. I am fine, bit gonna lay low for a bit since I will be travelling.
I love you all

[Lizann]

Aww mama, I'm going to miss you. Hope the review goes great!
Pauly, stay strong and have some fun. I guess your husband and kids don't get upset when you drink? They actually bring it home if you ask? Um, definitely not the case here!
Exhausted after another long busy day at work. Good news, the water main has been fixed and it will be business as usual next week.
Nora, almot to tire to read tonight, but thanks for the suggestion on netflix, I will check it out, my son showed me how to use netflix, but of course I forgot. Gotta, put on my big girl panties and figure this technical stuff out without him.
Good night and sweet dreams.

[Dottie Belle]

mama and pauly keep in touch...we need you here and we all know that traveling can be very stressful.

[blue1]

Dots,the last time I tried to drink I had every intention of slowly sipping beers,I only bought a few with that intent,however once I was done sipping the first,I was guzzling the second and so on,ran out and called hubs to bring me more on his way home from work, then text Kell to bring me more on her way home,absolutely no bloody way this chick can moderate! Blue, I have 6 brothers and one sister,only one brother can control his drinking,the rest are as bad as me,except my little sister has downs syndrome so she doesn't drink of course,so weird how genetic this bullshit is,one thing I wanted to mention too is sometimes Kell or Bobbi will tell me about what they drank last night or whatever and I stop them and say I just don't want to hear it,that was sort of what I was trying to convey here,ok enough beating that dead horse

Yea...Pauly it's the strangest crap of all time!!!
Hey! Don't we have birthdays coming up? Mine is September 2. I thought I read that your birthday is in September in one of your older post!

[blue1]

blue1,

I've been working so hard on my sobriety that I haven't had a chance to really read up on some of the personal things. I know Dottie has 2 beaus and loves to dance, some folks love to garden, are animal lovers like me, etc. but I've mostly skimmed the personal things as I struggle to stay abstinent. Things will get better i know as I settle into my new thought process of "I don't drink" and I will become more available as an online friend to everyone. I knew you had a sister that was ill (sorry and hope things are better for her) but didn't realize you had a sister in recovery! That is a major and very good thing for good support for you. I have a strong friend in recovery but she lives in CO. Went to my 2nd AA meeting yesterday but the lady who agreed to sponser didn't show. Even though she raised her hand to be my mentor she gave me her phone # only (didn't ask for mine) and she was more interested in talking to a friend than getting to know me so I don't really have a real person right now to help me. She wasn't at the meeting yesterday either. I am going to one AA meeting a week and coming here daily for support. Have fun with your sis tonight! Lean on her for support. Ask her questions on how the quit works for her. Share any words of wisdom you glean from her.

The AA meeting yesterday was about living in the solution, not living in the problem so folks went around the room talking about what solutions work for them in their recovery (especially with all of the stress everyone has and alcohol being a common denominator of thinking the stress will go away with it). Problem is, you still have the same problems the next day, they don't go away because one got drunk! And now you may have a hangover to boot!

Well, I have jumped out of bed after a great night's sleep. Have to say I am sleeping 100% better since quitting alcohol and I don't have any anxiety. Have had cases of a little after drinking anxiety on mornings after I've gone over my limit, so all of that is gone too.

Have a good day everyone and week-end! :love:

Addy (All Done Drinking...Yes!)

So glad you're feeling better Addy!
My sister would be more than happy to support me in a quit...she even supports me now lol

[blue1]

Hey guys, Blue, I loooove the olive garden, have fun Mama,I hope you get the review today,Rusty,that's funny about the Vegas signs making you think of me and I don't feel that the drinking comments were made to anyone specific, I just want this thread to feel more like a AF support home,more positive feedback on avoiding the grog ya know? I was posting on the umpteenth quit thread,but that's kind of slow now,and the daily thread is wonderful but those guys are beyond the struggle part,I guess I dunno what I'm looking for, anyways, off to visit my family this afternoon for the weekend, my nerves are kinda crazy! I don't care for traveling as it is and we're taking my Durango and I hope nothing happens cuz there's nothing between here and there,I hope my mom doesn't drive me nuts,I hope a lot of things, I'm not sure if I'll have service up there so if you don't see me for a few days that's why,hope everyone has a lovely Friday and a great,relaxing weekend, I love you ALL(warts and all haha)

Pauly- I got full on the endless salad and breadsticks! Hahaha...I brought most of my sampler platter home....fried calamari....clam stuffed mushrooms and fried zucchini.....which I will be eating for breakfast lol

[blue1]

mama and pauly keep in touch...we need you here and we all know that traveling can be very stressful.

Dottie- any dates tonight?

Mama- hope you're trip is going well. Did you get your review?