One Step at a Time - August 2015

[fennel]

Cowboy - hasn't your wife introduced you to Perry? LOL

Morning all - I'm at work but wanted to check in.

Blue - my peri-menopause started mid 40's to beginning 50's. Yuck! Something that I never would want to repeat.

Fen - you have been on my mind so much. :hug:

Waving to everyone. I'll be back.......

If Cowboy hasn't met Perry yet, he's in for a wild time!

Thanks for thinking of me, Nora. :love:

[Rusty]

Hi Everybody,

Quick check-in as I am at work...long commute today. Home tomorrow! :-) I had a nice visit with my mom, and her baby sister, who is 71 and in her 7th year of sobriety. As high strung as my aunt is, sobriety has the been the greatest gift to her. My mom enjoyed her company so much. My poor mother had 30 years of my aunt's drinking to worry about....their relationship is better than ever now. ;-) I will be back tomorrow. Big hellos to everyone here.

[blue1]

I read that anywhere from like 35-55....I've been going through since I was like 32....but not to this degree...I'm skipping months at a time since January. I'm ready to be rid of it....but wow these symptoms are rough!

[blue1]

That's a long time Fen! How are you handling it?

[blue1]

Rusty- nice to hear about your mom and aunt...that's wonderful!

Dots- glad your date went good....you always have a lot of fun!

Pauly- hope you feel better real soon!

Hey everyone else!

Have a successful day guys!

[blue1]

Oh....and yea ABC....you are in for a surprise Lol

[Lizann]

??? Liz

Oops I meant to reply to the peri menopause question. Clicked on the wrong thing, sorry.

[fennel]

That's a long time Fen! How are you handling it?

Not too well...my sister wife looked at the divorce papers Mrs. Fen laid out and she is attempting to screw me over. I must contact an attorney tomorrow. : (

Additionally, Mrs. Fen is away on business (as she is literally HALF the time!) and the cat sitter contacted me this morning to inform me that our cat peed outside of her litter box. And seems ill. I immediately made a vet appt. for her. Got her in after the noon AA meeting and the poor thing has dropped a pound since I brought her in a month ago! That's a significant amount of weight for an already thin cat.

The vet took urine for a culture to see if there is an infection. She did say it could be behavioral, but our cat has never displayed anger in that manner. The vet gave me some food that would put weight on the kitty. I hate to say this, but Mrs. Fen can't keep a relationship alive, she can't keep a plant alive and she sure as heck can't keep our cat alive.

Plus, now I have to sneak into her desk and get all of our financial information, which she is hiding. I SO wish she was being forthright. We wanted to do this amicably, but she is pinning all the upkeep costs, assessment costs and selling costs of the cabin on me...and I don't even have a job! My job was to care for her, her parents, my mom and our home. Plus the business books. I can't believe she is willing to screw me the way she is attempting. : (

I am calling one of the best attorneys in town tomorrow, but now I'm afraid that she's contacted all the good ones to develop client relationships with them in order to block me.

Somebody, please talk me off the ledge or give me some advice.

[paulywogg]

Aww sorry Fen, sounds like a huge mess!maybe the cat is just acting out,animals act weird when they sense tension,why's your soon to be ex acting so bitchy?

[Lizann]

Aww fen. I'm hoping its not as bad as it sounds! I would get ahold of an attorney and take it from there. Being together for 16 years has to count for something. Why is she so angry with you. Is there anyway to talk to her about all of this. It seemed you got along so well like why the sudden change? Sending hugs to you. What do your sister wives know about all of this, do they have any good advice for. Certainly it would help to just talk.

[Dottie Belle]

fen I am so sorry you are going through this. We are ALL here for you and you have my number if you need to talk/vent.
Had lunch with Paul and then he come over and I made dinner for us. He is so nice I just wish he was a little better off financially but stupid Jerry kept telling me how much money he had but he didnt have an empathetic bone in his body. sigh
Gym tomorrow then not sure what else. Laundry is overflowing the baskets so maybe I should attempt to catch up.
Hello to everyone else.

[Rusty]

Good Morning, Friends!

Fenny...sooo sorry you are going through all of this! Yes, get a good attorney to help you sort this out. I hope your kitty feels better really soon. Wow, when it rains, it pours, huh? One bad thing after another.

Dottie-In my opinion, any guy who has to talk about how much money he makes a) doesn't have it and b) is terribly insecure and/or c) thinks that having money is the only good thing he has to offer. So...run the hell away from that guy and make it clear you are BLOWING HIM OFF. I speak from experience. hahahaha

Blue-you are sounding good. So glad to have you here.

Waves of hellos to everyone else. I am up to my ears in paperwork so must get going. A Cheery hump day to all!

[abcowboy]

Yep ladies, Bubba introduced me to Perry lol...

[blue1]

Dang....that's awful Fen!!! I wish I had some advice for you....but it seems like you already know what I know. Will keep you in my prayers! Wow! I can't believe she's acting this way after 16 years!

I hope your kitty feels better soon and gains some weight!

Yea Dots....Jerry really sounds like an a-hole....you should run and don't look back!!!

How is everyone else today?

[fennel]

Aww fen. I'm hoping its not as bad as it sounds! I would get ahold of an attorney and take it from there. Being together for 16 years has to count for something. Why is she so angry with you. Is there anyway to talk to her about all of this. It seemed you got along so well like why the sudden change? Sending hugs to you. What do your sister wives know about all of this, do they have any good advice for. Certainly it would help to just talk.

To be fair, Mrs. Fen isn't angry with me at all. We text or talk every day (to my dismay) and I am at the house every other day to water my plants. We hug hello and goodbye. The idea was to remain friends throughout this.

Mrs. Fen is doing what she's always done...looking out for number one. She comes from wealth and I do not. The thing that tripped her up was her greed...how could she really expect me to cover all the costs of the cabin, which could take years to sell? From which little tiny pot of my money would I do this? My retirement? So, to be fair, she is not truly trying to screw me over, but that's going to be the end result if I can't convince her otherwise.

I had a terrible night and spoke with B this morning. Today, I will just focus on copying financial info. The lawyer won't happen today. And I would rather talk with Mrs. Fen first. Ugh.