One Step at a Time - September 2015

[fennel]

Mama, the rehab gig was two years ago. I think rehabs are not necessary if one really wants to quit. At the time, I did it to placate Mrs. Fen. I hated it! My roomie was a hard core meth and other drug user who was given a free pass out of prison if she could complete the six weeks there. She was constantly blaring her crappy music and she took over the entire room with all of her crap.

[fennel]

Sorry about your co-worker, Liz. If she calls in frequently, why is she still employed? That gets annoying!

Thanks for your kind words, Nora. It's so daunting to think of going to school surrounded by kids- and I wonder how well I'll do with my older brain. Then, having been out of the work force for ten years, I have to find a job. Just yuck. I can't imagine how long it will take me to get to the point where I can think on Mrs. Fen kindly, much less make an amends to her.

[fennel]

Mama, how long have you been at this new work place? Is it better than your last job?

[paulywogg]

Hey all,just a fly by,Liz,hope your son had a fun birthday, I seen on Facebook that he was a big baby,so was Kell 10 lbs 1 oz!all my other kids were normal sized though, Fen,you.should go back to school maybe? Might be fun iI want to too but for what? Dots, glad your date was fun,Nora,you're sounding positive, I love it!! Hello Rusty,Skendall,Mama,FT,let's kick Wednesdays ass!

[fennel]

Hey all,just a fly by,Liz,hope your son had a fun birthday, I seen on Facebook that he was a big baby,so was Kell 10 lbs 1 oz!all my other kids were normal sized though, Fen,you.should go back to school maybe? Might be fun iI want to too but for what? Dots, glad your date was fun,Nora,you're sounding positive, I love it!! Hello Rusty,Skendall,Mama,FT,let's kick Wednesdays ass!

Oh my gosh...10 lbs. 1 oz?! I can't imagine. I think that would have been my first and last kid!

Yah, I'm gonna have to go back to school, but I'm anxious over it. All the other kids are young and smart, LOL. I worry that I won't do well. No use worrying, right?

[Rusty]

Hi Friends,

I am happily at home....feels so good to be here because it's supposed to be nice today-mid-70s and sunny!

Fen-I so appreciate you sharing about your experience at rehab. I know my aunt who had 3 stints in rehab and never quit drinking just went to get her family off her back...that's why she would stop off at the liquor store as soon as she was done with rehab. Fenny, when you talk about your experience in rehab, that movie, "28 Days" with Sandra Bullock pops into my head. Sandra Bullock's roommate in rehab is a heroin addict and kind of a goof. I think you will do well in school because you are committed...you really are. I will bet you will find older students in your classes and not just kids. What fields are you interested in? I'd bet you would make a fabulous nurse! You are so kind and patient with your mom.

Mama-your boss is in for a surprise when she gets back from her vacation...I see a possible mutiny!

Nora-I love your upbeat posts! :-)

Liz-why doesn't your boss fire that co-worker who constantly calls in??? So sorry you had to give up a well-deserved day off and cover for her.

Hi to Pauly, Dottie, ABC, FT, and anyone else who pops in...Happy Wednesday/Hump Day!

[Frequent Traveler]

Hi Gang,
Just checking in, feeling the blues and have a massive headache so i am just going to chill and relax today.
Hope everyone is doing fantastic.
FT

[Rusty]

Hey FT...you are feeling blue, why? You are surrounded by beautiful women on this thread...think about that. ;-):happy2:

[Rusty]

FT, hope your headache goes away! Bummer! I am glad to see you here, though.:hug:

[Dottie Belle]

Hello all,
Gym now wondering what to do tonight. There is a dance class at 730 I can go to. No dates on deck just yet.
Need to visit my dad tomorrow. That always depresses me but I have to go. Also need to hit Costco.
FT yes all the beautiful women here....hope us feel better..

[fennel]

Hi Friends,

I am happily at home....feels so good to be here because it's supposed to be nice today-mid-70s and sunny!

Fen-I so appreciate you sharing about your experience at rehab. I know my aunt who had 3 stints in rehab and never quit drinking just went to get her family off her back...that's why she would stop off at the liquor store as soon as she was done with rehab. Fenny, when you talk about your experience in rehab, that movie, "28 Days" with Sandra Bullock pops into my head. Sandra Bullock's roommate in rehab is a heroin addict and kind of a goof. I think you will do well in school because you are committed...you really are. I will bet you will find older students in your classes and not just kids. What fields are you interested in? I'd bet you would make a fabulous nurse! You are so kind and patient with your mom.

Mama-your boss is in for a surprise when she gets back from her vacation...I see a possible mutiny!

Nora-I love your upbeat posts! :-)

Rusty, that's the thing...rehab doesn't help unless someone is really ready to quit. That's why I often think the intervention shows do more harm than good. People will do or say whatever at the moment. From my experience, most people were there to placate family members or child protective services. I know that nobody in my "class" stayed sober for long.

Is your Aunt still alive?

Gonna have to look into "Twenty-eight days"...I love Sandra Bullock!

[fennel]

Hello all,
Gym now wondering what to do tonight. There is a dance class at 730 I can go to. No dates on deck just yet.
Need to visit my dad tomorrow. That always depresses me but I have to go. Also need to hit Costco.
FT yes all the beautiful women here....hope us feel better..

Dottie, if you go to the dance class, will there be a potential partner there? I think you should go, if so. Ex Mrs. Fen and I took ball room dancing classes, but she kept skipping them for work and I had to dance with the instructor. : ( That should have been a big red flag for me.

[paulywogg]

I agree Fen,so many times on " intervention"you'll see them check in on the person and they seem great while still in rehab then the update will tell of a relapse when they get back into their old life I like the episodes where they stay quit,one lady on there went on to be an addiction counselor and she was a bad drunk on the show! Good for her but like you said we have to want it,yeah it should have been a red flag when exmMrs Fen skipped the classes,oh well hindsight

[Lizann]

Just settling down after a long day. As predicted, Anne did call in sick again for tomorrow and Friday. Oh well.
Rusty glad you had a beautiful day off. Still super steamy here. Hoping for some rain tomorrow.
Fen, did ex mrs fen require you to attend rehab? I think it's great you are pursing a career. It this something you have wanted to do or you need to do?
FT sorry you aren't feeling great. Hopefully it's short lived.
Pauly, Dottie Nora mama and anyone else is missed, hello. Have a good night guys.

[fennel]

So sorry you're stuck doing extra work, Liz. Why on earth does your co-worker get away with that?

Oh, I forgot to say, Rusty...I have done so much care-giver work in my life...years of work on the Dialysis unit, years of caring for Mrs. Fen's folks (her mom with her knee replacement, her dad dying of prostate cancer three years ago) and my own mom (ongoing for the last six years), I am completely burned out. I would rather open an artery than become a nurse at this point, and I don't think I will change my mind. I am too much of an empath. It's soul draining now.

I wish I could have an active job, like mail delivery- but snail mail is going away. Park rangers don't make much at all, so that's out of the question.