One Step at a Time - October 2015

[NoraC]

Oh Mama - :egad: I wish that things were easier. If you make higher house payments for a few months, will it drop back to a manageable amount in a few months? Is it worth it to make the payments? Are you going to be able to pay enough that you don't have to worry about foreclosure or could they turn around and foreclose after you've made these payments? Hope you can get some rest.

Liz - isn't hard to believe when your baby has grown up? Odd feeling. I hope that Erin & Dan had a fantastic trip. How have you been doing? You sound good.

Fen - did you decide on a lawyer? Sorry to be nosy but I'm wondering like Liz - Can't you & ex Mrs F live in the same house? Is it big enough? Since she travels so much?

Hello to everyone. Sorry that I'm not trying to catch up with everyone right now. Yucky day at work and I'm going to chill for a bit.

[NoraC]

x-post Rusty - I've been thinking about you. Get some rest. Night...........

[dexterhead]

Hello all, I'm an old-timer who's back for another go. Glad to see everyone and hope we have a great October.

[Rusty]

Hi Dexterhead!! Welcome Back! I remember you! Tell us what is happening with you!

[Rusty]

Hey Nora, sorry x-post! Night!

[NoraC]

Hey Dexter. :checkin: :welcome:Welcome back! How are you doing?

[fennel]

Mama...quick question. Is Papa bear employed? Is this house mortgage stuff all on you? It should not be. If you guys can forgo losing the house by missing date nights, you should do so. I wish I was living with you, although my cooking might be too exotic for most peeps. Tonight I made the spicy chicken soup. I'm taking half of it to Mrs. Fen tomorrow, as one of my sister wives couldn't handle it.

[fennel]

I met with my final attorney candidate this morning. I will go with her. What a grueling day!

It's so emotional, hiring a divorce attorney...I went to a noon meeting, which was huge, so I went with the smaller "split" group. I got to my mom's house early, and spent a ridiculous amount of time with her. First off, we went to Target so that she (I) could develop her pics from the last three months. I hate those kiosks! She was griping about all the pics on her card (going back to January of 2013) and I wanted to throttle her, because when my brother in law tried to delete a bunch of her old pics, she went feral on him.

After, she announced that her finicky feline was out of food (emergency time), so we went to pet smart and they ran out of his food. I had to shlep her over to Mound's for food. Then, I had to take her to Walmart. I'd promised my sister wives that I would help clean their master bed room for A's folks this week.

I am so worried. What will happen to my mom when I have to work (very soon)? Her quality of life is going to plummet. I spend at least 21 hours a week with her, which is a part time job. And that's assuming that someone will hire me, 54 years old and nearly ten years out of the work force.

I'm trying to not be negative, but it's difficult to not be that way right now.

[SKendall]

Mama, in my opinion, you have always been a steel magnolia and I've always admired you. Do what you need to do. I always believe we can do anything on a temporary basis as long as the light at the end of the tunnel is relatively close.

Fen, sorry about your mom. I don't have any answers but a lot of encouragement from me. I would LOVE someone to make me soup, especially today. You absolutely have to FIND a way to be positive and , I know you will do this. Even though it's dated, hubby used to insist all of his employees read the Power of Positive Thinking. It is empowering and you gain a sense of achievement once you have mastered even a little bit.

I hear you on the divorce atty., my decision will have to be made on the 13th.

Went to see a new dr today in Port Townsend and was hit from behind on the way there. Lots of damage, but hopefully repairable. Luckily I had left very early and when I arrived at dr's he had been called out on an emergency. They then insisted I stay for examination re the incident. Then they sent me to E.R. hurry and wait, etc. I hadn't eaten since breakfast and was weaving in front of the x-ray. All totalled 6-1/2 hours.

Finally got home and Peggy had been so good I gave her the roast beef on my sandwich.

Liz, I suffered immensely from empty nest, it's tough to start these new chapters.

[dexterhead]

Hi Dexterhead!! Welcome Back! I remember you! Tell us what is happening with you!

Hi Rusty, I remember you too! Still trying to quit this bitch.

[dexterhead]

Hey Dexter. :checkin: :welcome:Welcome back! How are you doing?

Hi Nora, OK, back again ... it's been so long! I need to catch up

[Dottie Belle]

fen I am so sorry you are going through all this...we are here for you
mama hope things smooth out for you. Did you talk any more about the other job???

Spent the evening with Jon...he bought me flowers...red roses....darn near cried....he is very sweet....and cute...
Well I am tired so off to bed I go..
See you all tomorrow.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,jeez,everyone is going through so much!Skendall,sorry about the accident but at least you're safe Mama,will you guys be able to manage the extra payments? Is that the house the boys grew up in? Fen,you'll be able to find a job,50 something is still young,what kind of work will you look for? Liz,I feel you on being surprised that the kids are grown,I look at mine and sheesh,blows my mind but pat yourself on the back that they're happy, healthy, strong adults doing good for themselves Nora,when is mum coming?got everything mostly ready? Dots,glad you and Jon had a good night,flowers are always a plus Rusty,thanks for always being here for us,where you off to next? Dexterhead,I remember you from around the boards,your avatar always makes me chuckle,hope you stick around,well off formore coffee, iI hope we all have a great Tuesday

[fennel]

SKendall, what a horrible day you had! I'm glad you're okay. I hope the car can be fixed, too.
It's funny about the divorce atty...Mrs. Fen feels I'm moving at a glacial pace, but this whole thing is only four months old! She wants to date right away, so the sooner we get this done, the better in her eyes.
Anyway, I hope you have a better day today.

Dottie, Jon sounds nice. Is he healthy?

Pauly, I have a history in health care, but I'm tired of "caring" for people. I really don't know what sort of job I will look for. I would like something where I'm active, cuz I hate sitting around.

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Beautiful day, cool and sunshine...Love it
Dance lesson today then will see Jon briefly before meeting at church.
Fen Jon had a medical issue earlier this year but is on the mend and otherwise healthy. We walked 4 miles on our first date. He loves to exercise and we are talking about running in the heart mini race next year...and he is 7 months younger....
Life is good and I am happy