One Step at a Time - October 2015

[fennel]

Jeez,I think Fen only said that to make me feel better I certainly don't want anybody to feel put down,she was trying to be funny and snap me out of my funk,please don't take offense, we won't use those terms anymore here, that's one of the problems with being in online recovery, things said in jest get taken the wrong way sometimes

I agree. I'm glad you're posting, Pauly. How are you today?

[fennel]

I heard from my attorney's office today. Mrs. Fen and I are going to meet with our attorneys at my attorney's office on Nov. 2nd for the first round of divorce discussions.

I spent an hour and a half with a career counselor today, which was productive. Next step is putting together a resume'.

I tidied up the house and am going to make dinner in a few. It's so much nicer without all the company we had!

[SKendall]

Pauly, this is something you may have already tried. At the dollar store buy a calendar and some stars. Each day place 1-3 stars on the day just passed. 3 for a good day, etc. When you want to start repeatedly posting only 1 star check in with your emotions, b/c this will be the beginning of the ------its. The day you post your 1st star, read the toolbox with an open mind and see how it goes.

[mama bear]

Hi family...I am just into my empty hotel room. Busy, but productive day and everything is well.
I goof around and use the word alky too....sorry to offend and I will try to be more sensitive about it.
Fenny - is it weird sitting there with J talking divorce? I would be a wreck...

[Lizann]

Hope you're feeling a bit better Pauly. Are you off tomorrow? Days off are harder for me than when I'm working, keep yourself busy.
Mama, a little netflix alone goes a long way. What are you watching?
Fen, good luck with the divorce discussions. Are you anxious about it? I'm glad things went well with the career counselor. I was a bit depressed when I put my resume together before this job. I didn't have much to put on it as I stayed home with the kids for 15 years. Started this job as a temp. I'm excited for you, all things new.

[fennel]

Hi family...I am just into my empty hotel room. Busy, but productive day and everything is well.
I goof around and use the word alky too....sorry to offend and I will try to be more sensitive about it.
Fenny - is it weird sitting there with J talking divorce? I would be a wreck...

Geez, mama...you're a busy bee! I'm glad you had a productive day.

J and I haven't had a sit down with the lawyers since we filed jointly at her attorney's office right before labor day. It was awful, at least from my point of view. I was completely broken.

I think that anybody who knows me understands that I don't mean to offend or harm anybody here.

[fennel]

Liz, I'm going to take a positive view re: my resume. I spent those years caring for both of our sets of parents, doing work errands, all the home errands, etc. It's not that unusual for a woman to be absent from the workforce due to caring for kids or parents. I'm still young enough that I can get back into the game. I don't regret any of the work I did while at home.

[Lizann]

Oh, fen, I think what you did for your parents is great! I don't for one second regret staying home with the kids! Best job I ever had:heartbeat:

[Dottie Belle]

Hi all
Sorry I have been MIA.....Jon is a great guy and we get along very well. We go out to dinner and talk...or he comes to my house and the dogs like him or we cook at his house and listen to his jazz collection. He is different. I have read that Jewish men treat women very well and I am seeing this. He really wants a serious relationship and is being so darn nice and fun....I am not seeing anyone else so we shall see how this goes. I am not going to ignore the chemistry.
Pauly we ALL get this....been there done that...so please stick around here where we all love you and want to help and support you....OK....
Gotta get some sleep.

[fennel]

I'm glad you and Jon are getting along so well, Dottie. How observant is he? Does he keep kosher?

B and I are going to mom's house this morning to clear the leaves off her roof. I HATE that job! With both of us, it should be okay. Another weekend is nigh and I am just depressed. I have to find some new friends to hang out with on the weekends, or some group activity. I always tell myself I'll take a guided walk at the arb or get involved in a meet-up group, but my shyness prevents me from doing it. I guess I just have to go and give it a try and get myself used to it. Introverts have to ditch some of their introversion when they're single.

Liz, so great that you got to be a stay at home mom. :heartbeat:

Mrs. Fen stopped by last night to drop off some bibimbap for me. She knows I like it. Mama, this is not like any divorce I've ever seen! We are trying to keep it friendly, but it's just weird.

Nora, what are you up to this weekend? Pauly? Rusty?

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
fen no not Kosher but we are going to Synagogue together tomorrow morning. He is a more liberal type and the specific name escapes me....he is very interesting to talk to about that.
Off to gym then errands....Seeing Jon later. Dog sitter is working out well so I dont have to run home to let them out. He is getting very serious about our relationship. He does treat me very well and is very attentive. Much more so than any of the other men I have dated.

[NoraC]

Hello everyone. Wanted to check in.

Pauly - hope you are doing better.

Glad that it's Friday. Have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow morning. I think I need it. I've been going to see her for years. So stupid but it does help me to be able to talk to her. I see her once every 6 weeks or couple of months. Lately it has been monthly. Oh well - whatever works, right?

Went to the Dr yesterday and she did blood work - checking magnesium, potassium, B, sugar, etc. Also talked about a vascular scan. We shall see.

Hope everyone has a WONDERFUL day. xx

[SKendall]

Fen, we also tried to keep it friendly but I have so much anger it was difficult. I won't even take his calls anymore.

We are enjoying the last of a couple of gorgeous fall days then rain - for most of the winter here in the northwest.

Special hugs for Mama.

Lizz, Nora and everyone else have a wonderful day.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Nora,are you getting rain in your area?on the news it is flooding in spots in CA,rainy here too,I'm detoxing and have the sweats so I'll post more tomorrow, I love you all and thank you guys for being here gonna peruse the tool box and try and find some new plan ideas

[fennel]

Fen, we also tried to keep it friendly but I have so much anger it was difficult. I won't even take his calls anymore.

We are enjoying the last of a couple of gorgeous fall days then rain - for most of the winter here in the northwest.

Special hugs for Mama.

Lizz, Nora and everyone else have a wonderful day.

Oh, gosh...I wouldn't expect for you to keep things friendly, SKendall. He's really screwed you over in an unforgivable way. :hug:

Barb and I finished mom's roof and we just finished tackling hers. Enjoy your fall weather!