Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

[I Like Brandy]

Ok, moderating worked well for a while. Last night I was with a friend drinking and felt pretty good. A neighbor walked over and spoke to me. This lady is very involved in church, and said that I cussed her out last night. Of course I barely remember, but I apologized and left it at that. This women attends the church that my friend does that is in an abusive relationship. I know I mentioned why the church made a half ass attempt to try to be there for my friend with no success....

Either way I guess I'm back to abs...

[Flip]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

yep, sometimes it's the only way.......certainly is for me and I love it now. No more half arsed attempts at saving the world.

[Guest]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

Mods does not work for me either. AF is the only way for me too.

[Lucy Van Pelt]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

Hey I Like Brandy

I recognize you from being on here along time. I will tell you this. I have had terrible success, but know, without a DOUBT, that I have to be abs, and that moderation is an llusion for me. I am a very successful, during the day, but know I have a major problem with alcohol. Anyway, Just wanted to respond...I think many of us have come to a point where we realize we just can't moderate...Just don't know where to go from here...scary place to be...

beth

[Padme]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

No, not for me either. It's delusional thinking for me and sends me back down the hellevator eventually. I feel freer without having to think about it anyway.

Sorry about the neighbor incident. Remembering my last drunk as helped keep me stay sober & AF.

[nancy]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

how horrible to find out you cussed someone out and don't remember.

I read the book Rational Recovery, didn't like it much but it said that moderation is the nirvana for people with a problem. I hope it exists for some people stilil.

[iced]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

I have not yet determined whether or not moderation is possible for me. I can say that most that know me and my habit have no faith that it is possible; even my closest friends.

[imatree]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

I am pretty sure I will need to get to AF. Not there yet, having some success with moderating. Like tonight, it's Saturday, after 10. Normally by this time I'd be wasted, and I'm not. But not every night is like this, and I have far too little success with even managing a single AF day.

Question for those of you who got to abs... did you moderate as a transitional period, and did you find that it made it easier for you to get to abs?

[MDBiker]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

I have proof I cannot moderate. Anyone I drank with has a story about me. I didn't even know until I quit
bear

[Flip]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

IMA,

My attempts at Mods ended in drinking just as much as I normally did, so after many many failed attempts I finally worked out that I had to go AF. That took a couple of goes before I got to this point. I like to think I will never EVER go back again.

F.

[Guest]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

I have decided that I can not moderate as well. I can't seem to stop at 2, so I have to go all the way and clear it off my plate. No more wine for me, or champagne.

[imatree]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

Another question to everyone...
Do you think, based on your background and experience, that the inability to moderate has a higher incidence among those with a genetic disposition to alcoholism (based on family history)?

[imatree]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

But GG, how can you make that face in your avatar without champagne??

[tawnyfrog]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

Ima, I think that's wedgie face.

[boycie]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

imatree, yes i believe that people with a genetic disposition have an even harder time trying to moderate.I am one of those people, i am sure runs in the family. I went a bloody long time af and then tried to moderate and can at points but then blow it big time now find it hard to stay even one day af. It is so dam frustrating as I know I can do it so why cant i??? a bloody cannundrum. think it is back on that eternal wagon for me also